How do I cope with losing my virginity to rape?

It was almost 8 years ago and it still hurts and I still cry.
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  • Well before i dive in to the potentially extensive puzzle that is this question i must ask a question to better provide you an answer.


    What have you done so far to cope and has anything been helping at all in even the slightest way?


    Be honest even if its not a good behavior or action; because thats the only real way i can give you a real answer to your very serious question.

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  • sorry to hear that.
    have you tried seeking help? therapy? counselling?
    Also have you been shamed because of it? and felt like you can't talk about it?
    Finally did you manage to seek justice? do you occasionally see your offender in an every day life routine?
    In brief, do you feel guilt, shame, hurt, fear...
    Those are all the things you need to tackle so you would know how to rise above it eventually and not let that incident define you or the way you live.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Just don’t ever let yourself disrespect yourself, often people who have this happen to em feel like they are unworthy of real love and just know that that is not the case. You deserve to be happy and to have a man who really loves you and is willing to hell you work through this trauma.

    Basically don’t have sex until you know you will be with the man forever. No good man will fault you for your past, just gotta be open to healing. You deserve to heal, know it.

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  • You should talk to some professionals for overcoming and coping with that.

  • You can get a therapy. But it really isn't your fault so you can always blame it on the rapist. You're fine :)

  • dont think of virginity as something important, the important thing is that you didn't reckelessly lose it which means its understandable and shouldn't be a burden to you, you'll be fine missy, trust me 🙂👌

  • that's what therapists are for.

  • It's only mentally. So "men up" or seek professional help

  • Have you received therapy for this or thought about it? I think that would be a good idea.

  • That is sad, losing it when you didn't want to. I hope they found him and made him pay. But nothing can change things for you. So sad...

  • You could try cutting of his penis to see if that makes you feel better

  • Therapy might help you when it comes to recovering from the trauma as rape is a very serious traumatic event and can leave a lot of wounds. Did virginity matter to you that much? Did you have a special view of virginity? If you don't feel comfortable talking about it in public, feel free to PM me.

  • Time will heal all wounds. But I truly believe you still have your virginity because only you can give that away

  • Just say it doesn't count. That's what my mom did, incidentally.

  • I think the pain is coming from the mental trauma you endured during that incident. Seek a counsellor. Talk to someone. It will only get worse if you don't talk. What happened with you was tragic but you don't have to dwell in the past. You can choose to let that incident deteriorate you from inside or you can use it to make you stronger.

  • Yeah very bad thing. Try to forget and lead todays life. Make fun.

  • Have you reported your rapist?

  • I’m sorry to hear of it. Your innocence was taken from you in a horrible and violent way. But I don’t think that changes how special it is when you choose to give yourself to someone of your own free will.