I was sexually abused as a kid and I don't know how to feel about it now?

I was sexually abused by my step dad when I was younger and I didn’t know it wasn't right so I started to do it to my brothers and now I feel so bad because I abused them and I don't know how to talk to them anymore or what to do
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  • Deep breaths sweet heart. You were conditioned to think this behavior was okay. Your step father was a horrible individual and I can relate to you so much. I personally never touched my brothers BUT I would do other things.. like penetrate myself with foreign objects when I was 9 or 10 years old (that's when my mom kicked my step dad out) because I didn't know any better and since I was used to it, I thought it was normal and it was weird not having it. I didn't realize until a couple years later how bad it actually was. Of course my mom never had a "bad touch" talk with me because she liked sweeping things under the rug like the rest of my family did. When I told her about what happened she actually blamed me for her divorce. I was 16 when I told her and she admitted that my step father (when I was 9) told my mom that if I asked to fuck, he wouldn't say no. So she said it was my fault they divorced. That's stuck with me for quite sometime but the first step to forgiving yourself is being completely self aware and realizing that you were a child and it was NOT your fault. I know you feel low, really low, about what you did to your siblings and I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. Do they remember?

Most Helpful Girl

  • is this serious now?
    sounds like a possible troll to be fair

    • Imm meeting a therapist next week so not a troll

    • Good luck

Most Helpful Guys

  • This must be very difficult to deal with!
    There are many different issues here.
    Perhaps we should discuss this somewhere else where others can't see.
    Hmu so we can talk.

    VERY IMPORTANT:
    Do not blame yourself for the actions of others!
    Let's talk!

  • that's what therapists are for dude... i mean the way you're talking about it, it doesn#t seem it was traumatic and harmful to you. which is not to say that it was "right". just telling you what i'm gathering from what you say.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • When was the last time you saw them, how old are they?

  • Seek help. Go to a therapist. See the change you have in yourself. You feel guilty, that's a good progress.

  • First separate what he did and you did. Kids the same age explore sexually all the time its a healthy learning experience.

  • tell them the truth

  • Well, reporting it after it happened might have prevented you from molesting your brothers. Talking about it can help a lot too, so if your interested in talking, don't be afraid to follow me and send me a pm.

  • Silly anon

  • Talk to them and get professional help

  • Tell them that *"It was a mistake and I regret it for my whole life. But, I don't want to lose you people. I love you*"

    • Yeah but I just feel bad and awkward now Cus of the stuff I did and I don’t wanna ask tell friends Cus it’s too weird

    • Weird is just what we feel.. tell them sorry and the whole story

    • Ya iguess but idek how to say the whole story Cus I’ve never told anyone

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  • What you did?

  • Ask them thier thoughts apologise if nesesary

  • Just tell them the truth and explain what happened

  • It sounds like ancient history. Just pretend it never happened. Whatever you did to your brothers doesn't really matter. Hopefully your step dad is out of the picture.