Guy asked me to leave after sex?

Went on a date. Had sex and then cuddled for a while. Then he asked me if i would like to stay but then switched to if I can leave because he had work in the morning. He later texted me saying he had a nice night. I feel used but I don't know if that's from trauma in my past or if that's actually the reality of the situation. Am I being irrational?
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  • Some guys just get really weird after orgasm.. I don't understand it, but they just get all quiet and odd and shut down personally / emotionally. It's bizarre. Since I don't do that, I can't begin to understand it, but I've seen it happen a few times.

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  • The moment you go on a date and it ends up in sex, you can safely assume the guy is probably just after sex. When he asks you to leave, that only makes it clearer to me. He only offered if you wanted to stay before because he probably thought you'd say "no" and he'd look like a good guy

    • Should I tell him how I felt? I don't know how to handle this really.

    • I think you should not see him again, if you're after anything serious. If you're after hook-ups with him, then bring it up and tell him you'd like to be able to spend the night, not just fuck

    • What is with this "just" mentality? As in "just sex?" It's idiotic. They had sex. It was mutual. They both wanted it, or it wouldn't have happened. Why are you coddling her and assuming that he's a jackass because he needed some sleep, dude? You sound ridiculous.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • NO!

    He got what he wanted and was done with you!

    Later he started thinking that maybe he would want more sometime so texted you to keep you on the hook.

    If it were me I would tell him to FO in no uncertain terms!!

    ... you are worth more than that!

  • Don’t feel used. U got yours right? So leave it at that.

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  • Yeah there's really nothing wrong with that single occurrence. Not worth overthinking

  • I think it is low class to invite a woman into bed if I cannot also invite her to go to sleep with me afterwards.

  • You are not being irrational. I think he just wanted some quick sex. I'd let him contact you next and if you have sex with him again talk about "staying the night" ahead of time. Was this your first date with him? How was the sex... worth it on not?

  • I am a guy and think thats horrible. If you have work just say can we cuddle for 10 minutes but I need to get some sleep for work. I would like nothing more than to wake up with you in my arms! Please stay!

  • I get why you might feel used, but it doesn't sound like he used you. I think he genuinely enjoyed his time with you, and just wanted to have an easier time getting to work in the morning.

  • "I feel used" uhh... why. He literally said he has work in the morning. He needs his sleep.
    "Am I being irrational." ... Yes.

  • Maybe it was a hook-up only in his mind.

  • U feel used cause u are used, just like any woman who gives up sex without commitment. U were not raised well if at all

  • this is exactly why you shouldn't hook up with men you aren't in a relationship with. Youve given him the opportunity to use you if he wants.

  • You are projecting your fears. It is perfectly normal, but try to keep calm and stop overthinking it

  • Why do you feels used you chose to have sex with him he chose to have sex with you

  • Uh why are you even discussing this here, go and talk to him about it you newb

  • Got what he wanted... Next

  • That was a jerk move on his part.

  • It seems like he used you for sex.

  • If it happens a lot, then there is an issue. He probably really had to work.

  • Women ask me to leave after sex soo...

  • You put out on a first date?