What do you do when you don't feel like your fuckable?

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I've been working out and everything I'm limited because of my bodys shape (like I'm offline) I've lost 13 lbs. My hormones are going crazy but I dont feel fuckable lol I carry my weight well im just really curvy. Ignore my hormones?

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Zannika02 Xper 7
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I had a period of feeling unattractive and def didn't seek out to be physical until I felt comfortable enough in my body to do so. When u go in w that anxiety it prob will kill the mood. But if u have that somebody who looks at u like a treat, then that would def make me more confident.
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- Asker
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  Thank you :) its been a while and its driving me nutty but I think you're right. Guys hit on me but if I take my clothes off I think they would run
- Zannika02
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  when u feel it is right, ur instincts will kick in and confidence will soar. I hope u find ur way there soon 🙂 but if u have guys hitting on u. U just may be being a bit harsh on urself. Dont rush let it flow...
- Asker
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  Thank you

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Matthew2222 Explorer
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I reject the notion that there is any reason you could not have a great relationship. Lots of guys, myself included, love bigger girls. The only thing that would make me question is that you are on some kind of weight loss journey, other than that I am sure you are a marketable candidate.
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  You'd be worried im trying to lose weight?
- Matthew2222
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  Yes, there is actually good reasoning for that, which I would be happy to explain if you want to know.
- Asker
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  Please feel free
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- Matthew2222
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  Alright. Well for starters guys do not like hearing a girl complain about dieting, weight loss, etc. Its a nauseating subject. I would much rather have someone that will eat with me without discussing the nutritional merits of the food, there re better topics. Also, I want someone that will eat anywhere with me, and that includes fast food on road trips, etc. On a more philosophical level, I find confidence and self acceptance attractive. Being on a "journey" is a fairly tight proof that those requirements are not being met. If you were happy with who you were you would not be trying to change. Beyond that, there is the issue of mindset. Someone that is trying to "improve" by losing weight has the wrong outlook on life and is too easily swayed by society. Out of curiosity, would you mind if I asked your height and weight? You can feel free to PM me if you would rather not put it here.
- Asker
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  I'm as of right now 188.4 at 5 foot. I will eat wherever and fast food. I dont eat a lot anyway, but I just cut what I normally would eat in half. I dont take diet pills or worry about nutritional information. I dont really say outloud that I'm trying to lose weight. I just used to get bullied about being 160 and an athlete by a boyfriend and now that mentality is really getting to me. Im just the girl that wears baggy clothes and hides when I'm naked
- Matthew2222
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  Ok. To me 188 lbs and 5 ft is perfect. I really think your focus should be on self love and accepting who you are, rather than trying to change. Get out there and wear that bikini!
- Matthew2222
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  I would also argue, that, by trying to change who you are in response to bullying, you have effectively vindicated them. The way to win is to be confident in who you are and throw it back in their face.
- Asker
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  Thank you 💙 you have no idea how great that feels for someone to say that's perfect
- Matthew2222
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  You're welcome. If you would like to chat sometime, PM me and we can have a great convo.
MysteriousT Xper 6
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I'm sure many guys would find you attractive. You'd be amazed by the fact that how many would be in the queue to fck you haha. Just believe in yourself and make sure you are well groomed.
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- Asker
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  Awh thank you
- MysteriousT
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  You are welcome. You do workout and lose weight why feel insecure though? Most guys prefer curvy girls over others
- Asker
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  I just still feel flabby and I fear ill gross a guy out or something. Im pretty hard on myself
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- MysteriousT
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  Haha even you say you are harsh on yourself, here you go you gave your own answer. As I said, I believe many guys would want you anyways especially since you work out.

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ha_ch Xper 5
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Why you don't take some therapy?
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- Asker
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  For low self esteem?
- ha_ch
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  Yeah
- Asker
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  It doesn't work
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- ha_ch
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  If you feel okay then message me, we will discuss.
Reaperbot666 Guru
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- don't settle for fuckable.
- go for dateable instead.
- personality and attitude matter more.
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  Thanks
_SOARER Xper 7
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I can't believe this is what goes on in some peoples head
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- Asker
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  right lol. If it's because I said fuckable I dont think im really lovable either lol
- _SOARER
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  Why is your self-esteem so low?
- Asker
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  I was an athlete in middle school, and a boyfriend made fun of me back then. My mom calls me fat and old classmates laugh when they see me.
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- Asker
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  I was 160 as a cheerleader
- _SOARER
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  What are you going to do about it? You can't feel like that forever. Forgive the people who made fun of you. Forgive your mom. And now do something about the source of the insecurity. If you can't be skinny, accept your situation. If you can lose weight. Just lose some weight. Also stop caring about what others think.
- Asker
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  I wish it was that easy. Thanks
- _SOARER
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  It is that easy. Make a plan and stick to it. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Emanon_18 Xper 6
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Don’t even think that way, enjoy what you have
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- Asker
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  Thank you, you're so nice
- Emanon_18
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  My pleasure anytime
Cobb1919 Xper 2
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No. A woman needs sex so don't give up. Maybe you need to socialize more. Get to meet more guys.

Are you attracted to other women at all. That might be a possibility.
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- Asker
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  I just stay to myself. Curious why would you say we need sex?
- Cobb1919
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  You are a human being. That how we are built. Once we not a certain age the hormones kick in. As a guy I know how horny men/boys get. Supposedly, women don't get such strong urges, but I think is just a stereotype place on women because society has different standards between men and women. Shouldn't be that way
- Cobb1919
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  Also, if you think your too "flabby" for any guy to find you attractive, stop thinking that way. I had a girl for awhile who was definitely. She was afraid to approach guys because of worry of being rejected. I have to admit some of the best sex I ever had with her. I have a couple of pictures/videos of her. Seeing them reminds me. of how lucky I was.
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- Asker
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  You're different. That's awesome. We do have those urges.
- Cobb1919
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  I bet if we knew each other I would find you attractive.
- Asker
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  I dont know about that lol but thanks
Eric027 Xper 4
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You just need to appreciate yourself firstly and probably keep looking your best definitely a guy would definitely come tripping
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In_Trance Master
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You start posting slutty pic online for the world to rate
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- Asker
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  😂🙈
- In_Trance
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  Im sure you look great
- Asker
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  Thank you
andy530 Guru
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You go out there and get some to satisfy those horrimones and help your brain realize you definitely are fuckable!
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- Asker
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  awh thank you 💜
- andy530
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  You’re welcome 😊
FearlessGoat Xper 4
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Silly anon
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