Really close guy friend of mine kissed me but hasn’t talked to me about it?

[Anonymous]

Is it safe to assume he doesn't care?
we would go out to eat and stuff all the time and talk about life

he would always ask me about the guys i was talking to and ask if im talking to anyone or if i was on bumble or tinder.

that day he kissed me he asked those same questions even said he stopped talking to some girl he was talking to.

so yeah... its been 3 weeks and we haven't talked. he just sometimes sends snaps but other than that nothing.

is it safe to assume he just used me and didn't feel anything?

(he kissed me and fingered me by the way but no sex or anything)

right now he's not in my city... he's also looking for jobs and stuff and he says he's really stressed about that. he says he's gonna come back in a month or so

but hey if someone cares they’ll make the effort no matter what... so yeah... I don't know

[OlderAndWiser]

He just used you? For what?

"We're just friend and, by the way, he fingered me." WTF? And fingering you isn't sex? Would you let him do that if your daddy was watching?

Maybe he sensed that you weren't interested in him so he gave up.

[Asker]

he. never even asked ://

[PiffDust]

There's a HUGE jump between kissed and fingered, how did this happen

[Asker]

lol so he just kissed me and he was like “is it gonna be awk” and i said nah so we continued kissing and i took my shirt off and he was like “woahh are u sure “ and then he just fingered and kissing me

[Asker]

i know HUGE tmi thats why im anonymous:) i just need help with this it seems like he just used me or was just horny

[PiffDust]

You said you were really close, so i guess you knew each other for a while, i think he just doesn't know how to start talking normally again, you should discuss what happened like two adults and decide what should happen next, better than losing one another.

[Msgaïj]

Can't say better

[Asker]

to me it just sounds like he doesn't care :(

[Asker]

we hooked up last year and we didn't really know each other... it was only once... but now since we were only friends i didn't see it ever happening again. so there's that. i heard him once even say that he didn't go out or ask out friends becUs theyre FRIENDS. he told me i remind him of his friends back home... so yeah I don't know... friends dont just KISS

[PiffDust]

Dude, just ask him, what do you got to lose

[Asker]

shits scary dude lol. i actually like him and i didn't even know it. i feel like he's gonna be like nah. doesn't seem like he cares.

[PiffDust]

Perfect, keyword is "feel like", you can never know for sure unless you ask him, for all we know he could be thinking the exact same thing as you rn.

[Asker]

dont guys try tho? he ain't trying... he ain’t pursuing... i think i already did my part. so right now he's in michigan and me and a friend went up there for fun but i also wanted to see him too. that day we were suppose to hang Sunday but then he changed it to Monday. on Sunday he actually went to some place in north michigan and then Monday i asked him if he wanted to come eat with us and he never responded. we had already eaten food and he just read it lol.

[PiffDust]

Ohhh ok, then don't text him anymore, if he wants to talk he will, you showed that you were willing to talk, it's his move now

[Asker]

exactly. thing is why ask to get lunch on Monday then not go with the plan? lol like its weird and i get he's busy with job searches but still. even today he sent me of snap of him preparing for an interview and he said he was nervous so he had beer 😂. but it was just one snap. i replied and still no response. we dont even have a streak he just sends me stuff

[Anonymous]

I mean maybe he just doesn’t want to risk it.

[Asker]

you think so?