Girls, Awkward question18+ but why would a girl just suck dick and not want anything in return or more?

[Anonymous]

I've had encounters and dates were girls have offered or actually have performed oral on me but refused to let me return the favor in any way. I find it confusing cause I dont see what the girl gets out of it. I even had girls offer to cheat in boyfriend by giving me head which I always refuse cause I hate cheating but like wtf could she gain from that. She risking her relationship and not even getting pleasure in return.
Sorry if this is tmi but does having a bigger dick make girls want to suck it more. I'm on the larger side to the point were majority have told me they haven't seen bigger but I also dont have a super huge amount of experience so maybe it's just the girls I've been with. I ask though because the offer usually comes when we kiss, or dance or something that make me get a erection and they notice and then they offer oral. This isn't the majority of my encounters but it happen enough to surprise me, and I know its not just one girl. So is there something appealing about giving head to a bigger one? Or were they already wanting to give head and saw a physical sign I was horny and went for it? Most of these were dates so I know the girls were attracted to me before hand and and I know that's probably the biggest factor. Still why would a girl just want to suck dick but not get oral, sex, or even fingered in return. Sometimes this goes on for a few dates until they let me perform anything back to them and return the favor.
This is a awkward question so if ur more comfortable going anonymous or PM me that's fine. Just some please explain this to me

[chrissykerdock]

some girls just love to suck... i often give a man a blowjob and don't expect nothing in return... especially when it comes to casual sex... often i'm to self conscious or embarassed to let a man give me oral or i don't want to tempt him and have him give me coitus sex... often or almost always i'm content to give just a blowjob... and if he's huge even more of a reason to give just a blowjob... also i'm fine with him cumming in my mouth and i always swallow it for him or for us both... i'm glad to see a post like this at times i felt i may have been bad/wrong only giving a blowjob but i see other girls feel like this too... not ashamed or willing to just give a blowjob... it can feel a girl up emotionally and there's a lot of intimacy in giving one not really sure how to describe the feelings emotionally but it's definitely there... it's also presumptious to expect a girl to give up her pussy but your also asking just to simply eat her pussy as well... often i'll pass on that offer but not always... as i stated the basic reasons above... but there were times i did allow the man to eat my pussy after a blowjob... i say after because often a man isn't horny after he cums.

[Asker]

Oh I see thanks it's awesome to hear from a girl who does this. Why is being bigger even more of a reason. If u rather PM me that's okay

[chrissykerdock]

nobody reads these posts so don't be bashful

[Asker]

Okay so why would u want to suck a bigger guy more then a ordinary or smaller guy

[chrissykerdock]

there's something said to have your mouthful of cock... you just feel so alert and so aware when you sucking a big cock... something about the challenge and so much better to lick kiss and suck... i think that's it... when you tongue his piss hole it's bigger... the vein... his head... the phallus... bigger = more alert = more sensual... then you anticiapate more cum... probably true you get more cum... more cum somehow you feel you've given a better blowjob but it could just mean he has just more cum because everything is bigger and more like his balls can just simply hold more... it's always exciting when a man cums for you... your not doing just a chore when you give head you also see it as a gauge of how attractive am i? how much do i actually excite YOU and turn YOU on as well.

[chrissykerdock]

to be honest you don't know what your going to get until he takes it out of his pants... so if your really big the girl just got lucky... personally i wouldn't mind sucking a big cock not at all.

[Asker]

But if I get a boner while kissing or dancing they can tell without me taking my pants off

[chrissykerdock]

they could but in all honesty if i touch a man's penis through his pants there's a good chance i'm pretty much okaying to suck it... meaning there's probably little chance of me walking out of the room without at least giving some head and probably until he cums... but it's a pleasure to suck a big cock!

[Asker]

Well thank you for ur answers can tell ur very passionate about it

[chrissykerdock]

yeah i was re-reading my comments and i thought oh my i really do love to suck cock... it was actaully a good question about blowjobs

[Asker]

Haha and I love blow jobs but I didn't realize there were girls like u who love to give them so much haha. I'm glad u liked the question

[Roseinbloom]

There can be lots of reasons: some might not want it yet, some might want to wait, some knows it leads to more, some might feel like they might be judged by the area if it's not to the guy's tastes or if the guy doesn't fit, that she doesn't want to be stretched yet. She may not want to show you if she has played with herself or had sex with other guys (yes you can tell vaginally.), she may have problems down there if any kind. She may not be confident in that or herself. Or that comfortable to show you that area. She may have other pleasures on her mind but doesn't know if you'd like it or not (some can be scared to try new things, I'm not one) she just wants to make you happy does what she know how to please? All women are different. I can list more this is just an idea of some of the things or ideas it could be, don't get me wrong I'm not an expert.

[Asker]

Wow that was an awesome. answer and so many different possibilities. Thank you for taking the time to reply

[Roseinbloom]

You're welcome. Happy to hear and help.🙂

[bigmisssunshine]

I have no idea. I don’t do anything sexual with just random dudes.

[Asker]

Well there usually not random more on girls I dated but wasn't in a relationship with dor the. ost part. Like were dating but not having sex yet. So there like I want to go down but I dont uti do anything to me if that makes sense

[bigmisssunshine]

I only sucked dick as part of foreplay. Otherwise I don’t do it

[Asker]

See I can understand that. Thanks for commenting!

[bigmisssunshine]

You’re welcome!

[Zannika02]

So I dont give oral unless guy and I are really more than hookups. If we been hooking up for months then maybe. But I also get turned on by giving so I would want something back... but to me giving head is super intimate so I wonder if mentally it satisfies them, maybe they got someone else to help them out later..

[Asker]

Maybe. This is actually really interesting all three replies have been very different and bring different views. Hope I can get more

[LovingLover]

It may be compassion...
Blue balls is sometimes painful... girls don't have the same problem...
This is how I would feel sometimes.. wanting to help.

[Asker]

Oh wow I never thought of this and that makes sense why they offer after they notice I have a boner. Tbh I dont get blue balls really so I didn't think of that. So sometimes u feel like if u caused the guy u like to have a erection u should take care of it just so they not in pain later? So do u just offer a blow job when u want to take care of them but it really in the mood yourself?

[LovingLover]

Your name is right.. m you are lucky if you don't get the blue balls effect... some women experience pain like blue vagina very rarely compared to men I think and even so seems more bearable (I got it before but very rare) Did I cause it? His own body did 😋.. but yeah I helped but iNot by means of a BJ... It was on video call that happened. No public details.

[Asker]

Well u can explain more tonme in private messages if u want. Yea I only get blue balls of she starts touching and playing with it and then stop. If I get a boner and she ignores it nothing happens it just go away. No pain

[LovingLover]

If you want. :) So is the key to avoid blueballs to not touch it? You avoid touching once aroused and avoid pain?

[Asker]

Yea I would like u to private message me. Pretty much but tbf I never got blue balls from grinding either. Basically it needs to be like I almost came but didn't to get blue balls.

[Bratsondanielle]

I definitely think most girls want to try to get it oral if you are particularly big cuz it's highly arousing to suck a big one and also it's kinda a challenge to see how much of it can "fit" and just generally (for me at least) the sight of a sizeable man is highly... uh. mmm... well I like it

[Asker]

So basically there just a huge mental turn on to suck a big one

[Bratsondanielle]

You got that right

[Asker]

But if u got super turned in woundt u want a guy to provide pleasure to you?

[Bratsondanielle]

Sometimes it's nice just to give head and finish him off

[Asker]

Hmm okay if you dont mind me asking and u can answer in my PM of u prefer. How many dates do u usually wait to give a dude head?

[Bratsondanielle]

Depends on the dude. Some got first day. Some had to wait a bit

[Asker]

What do u think a good way to let them know ur size without being douchy

[Bratsondanielle]

One guy I was out with had on jogging pants and loose boxers so it showed

[Asker]

Oh the dick print method yea I know what u mean 🤣

[Bratsondanielle]

It definitely awoke my interest lol

[Asker]

Lmao I see. Well thank you for all the replies. If there anything u would like to ask me go ahead and go for it. Feel free to put it here or PM me. I think I'm out of questions though, thanks for all the help 😁

[Bratsondanielle]

You're welcome buddy

[Tamera952]

Maybe cause just that -- they don't want the extra level of mess, time, effort, involvement, and so on -- maybe don't want you to think that they want more from you, other than giving you head? Maybe they didn't shave downstairs, or just went potty? Maybe they're vicariously getting off on you getting off? Maybe they want to keep control of the situation? Maybe they just want the practice with a friendly guy they sorta know? ... Who knows. It could be anything.
Just because they want to blow you, to me, doesn't mean its weird that they don't want the fuss of having you return the favor.

[Asker]

Yea everthing u said makes a lot of sense. I really appreciate y taking the time to comment, a few people have said things similar I guess I'll just enjoy it when it happens

[Tamera952]

Indeed, take it in stride. Consider yourself lucky.

[Asker]

Yea I'll try to do that but I guess I felt guilty in the pass but I'm starting to see there a lot of reason of why she may prefer it that way

[neilsmart]

it makes us feel submissive getting throat fucked by a hot guy with a long cock

[BlondeGoneWild]

Sucking dick is fun

[Asker]

Does the size matter?

[BlondeGoneWild]

The bigger the better

[Asker]

Any ideal size?

[Tamera952]

She's just kidding you of course

[Asker]

@Tamera952 oh but how do u know?

[Julietchicago]

Bc a lot of girls have been brainwashed by mainstream society and rap lyrics that out only value is what we offer to men

[Asker]

So u think it's a self esteem issue? I stil dont see why they wouldn't want something in return

[Julietchicago]

It's either self-esteem or that society has normalized this behavior through mysogynistic lyrics

[chrissykerdock]

you mean society has made it so girls are supposed to give a blowjob fairly easily rather than saving it for something more personal or for a husband

[Julietchicago]

@chrissykerdock pretty much

[chrissykerdock]

personally i enjoy giving a blowjob and don't really care what society says about it... i enjoy wearing my mini skirts and giving guys boners so they ask me to suck their dicks on occasion... so you get on your knees suck a big hard one... it's sexy it makes my adrenaline rush and i feel happy giving them... you can't be sad and give one your opening your mouth and actually sucking... you can't be tough with the man your sucking because your being submissive by being on your knees your wearing a short skirt at least i am most of the time when i give... you shouldn't be so angry about it... i know there's rap songs and it's perceived as demeaning... it depends how you feel about it... there's probably plenty of girls who gave and didn't receive.

[Julietchicago]

@chrissykerdock most girls aren't like you. We don't give random blowjobs to whoever asks. And you are only reinforcing my opinion of society normalizing that behavior

[chrissykerdock]

i'm not that random but i understand your point... i may have come across that way but i'm not like who needs a blowjob... i do love to wear mini skirt and i'm getting older and that's something to worry about... i should be married by now... you live in chicago so it must be hard i live in philly it's hard to find good looking guys... lot of guys have beards they take drugs a lot are pot smokers i can't tolerate that... when i do hook up with a stranger it's usaully a much older guy for the reasons i mentioned... between you and me i'm lonely... i want to get back with my ex but this corona virus is stopping us he lives in another state.

[Julietchicago]

@chrissykerdock yeah, the guys aren't that great out here either. The successful ones are into coke and partying and no one really wants a relationship. drugs have effected so many people. It's awful. Might be different in the suburbs, but it's hard to meet guys in the burbs. There's someone I miss too. But I know he will not come back after our argument and it's been months. He has moved into someone else. So I know what that pain feels like. You might feel insignificant bc you are older, but don't. And wearing slutty clothes only invites the bad men in bc they feel they can use you. Try dressing more conservative and walk around with dignity. You may attract a better kind

[chrissykerdock]

often i feel offering that i can get a man to take me to dinner... the older men do that and like the short skirts... but i've had girlfriends to get me more conservative then you wind up siting home alone... so you know what it's like... exactly what it's like... so many guys are into drugs a lot won't mention or deny it but eventually you find out.. i'll try wearing conservative clothes when i can go out again legally... everything is still closed here... maybe grocery stores are open and when i go there i'm not going to attract men the way i dress plus my face is covered... well to meet someone from the burbs if your from the city is harder now... you do look good in a pure way... not as in purtain but no glitz in a real way... good to know others feel lonely too... not that i want others to share in misery.

[Julietchicago]

@chrissykerdock you're not alone. And 34 isn't old, so get that out of your head. The isolation is killing me too. That's why I booked a ticket to denver where the town is more open. Gonna go for a week. Waiting around in a ghost town is really bad for your mind. I keep reading about young girls who are commiting suicide bc of it. It's very difficult to go through this when you're single And from what I heard, east coast men aren't very nice to women in the dating scene, so maybe it's not you. I went on a date with a guy and we hung out w his friends. They were doing coke. He swore that he rarely touched it. Yet, he was calling his coke dealer to get more. That's when I bailed.

[chrissykerdock]

that's horrible julie... where are you going to go in Colorado... i mean not literally but in general? outdoorsy kind of stuff? east coast men are kind of samey same very interested in sports... here in philly they have the worst haircuts you can imagine... clothes are usaully tee shirts and long shorts that are below their knees... much longer than my skirts... a lot of times i feel let down but try to socialize so hard... i came here with my boyfriend then we broke up around 4 years ago the same one we were trying to get back with he's now in new york not doing well due to mayor freeing all the prisoners... not literally but he let out a lot... and a lot came back as they committed other crimes... your conservative and want to be at least i think you do... i believe in conservative things at least my only crime is the love for mini skirts... and i've been a whore... i have to read about the young girls i feel so bad for them if it's true... i wouldn't know that... i try to read some but wind up not doing a lot of that... believe it or not one time i wanted to be a writer... but thank you for giving me hope and writing that 34 isn't too bad... i could've or should've been married i didn't because i felt he was a little boring and set in his ways... but he went out to work everyday and worked overtime... do you like to write because i get the feeling you do research of some kinds... i also lived in florida on the western most part... so directly below you... ever hear of the numbers of people in philadelphia each weekend i hear the numbers from chicago as well... so we're in similar cities... but that was bad what happend to you i'm glad you had the sense to just leave... you seem like a very strong person... i like that.

[Julietchicago]

@chrissykerdock I think a lot of cities are crime ridden now bc of covid and everyone is having too much sympathy for criminals because of this whole politically correct thing. So it's not just New York City. I don't think things will ever go normal again. If you say you had a promiscuous past, don't be ashamed of that. Just try to be more cons

[Julietchicago]

@chrissykerdock psorry my phone's not working. You shouldn't be ashamed because guys like to throw labels out us and treat us like s*** in that way. They can smoke all the girls they want but if we do the same thing, we are whores. That's because they are jealous because we could get sex with anybody anytime

[chrissykerdock]

that's true in theory we could get that and they couldn't... oh you know what that means more rapists out of jail... oh it's all democrate run cities that are bad... as in really bad... your phone is running bad i wonder if your having rain where you are it rained here... i'll let you go maybe we can pick this up another time... oh i definitely feel shame and i cried at times... you seem to know better... but i'll let you go maybe we can hook up as in on here.

[JosyJosy]

Some people are content with pleasing their partner. A friend of mine is turned on... because her boyfriend is turned on. She doesn't even need to orgasm, if he does, she's already sexually satisfied.

[Asker]

Okay thank you. I guess that does make sense I love to please my partners too and that why I kinda get a wtf guilty feeling when I can't do anything to get them off in return. Still its surprising to hear that some girls like to give pleasure so much they can be sexually satisfied just by pleasing the other person. Thanks again

[JosyJosy]

You're welcome!

[elizamichale1]

Well count me as well coz i love giving bj and i am fine with not getting eaten
I love it when they play with my tits or rub my pussy a little though