Guys, Since he found out I am a virgin, why the new confidence?

[Anonymous]

Been dating this guy for couple months and then one day he mentions that he is in the mood to give me oral. Initially when I brought it up about how I've never been able to orgasm from it, he brushed it off saying oral is hard to perform on women. Since he found out am a virgin, he has this new confidence that he can perform and I am wondering why?

[PixelNight]

Since you’re inexperienced he thinks he can act as brave as he wants because you won’t know the difference, nobody you can compare how he does to.

[Asker]

@pixelnight thanks, that may be it

[Daniel3035]

virgin = no expectations nothing to compare to so no matter what his ex = best sex you've had.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some guys are concerned about being compared to your previous partners. Perhaps he is feeling relieved that he won't face any comparisons by you.

[summiter]

He probably things your lack of experience will let him stand out as the best lover you have had. Did oral work on you from him? How far have you gone with him?

[Asker]

@summiter just hugs and kisses.. I've had oral from 2 of my exes before but I wasn't able to orgasm from it

[ZackBan]

Let me put it like this.

I've been chatting this girl I met not long ago and for a while she sounded DTF and experienced but somehow always off to me.

Today I found out a few things that lead me to "assume" she's a virgin. And now I can't stop myself from seeing her different.
Not less. But different.
Basically the pressure of impressing her has gone down. She's not used to guys so whatever I do is new experience for her and therefore I can be creative because I'm never boring.

I say let him have his fun (if you're into it off course ) trust me it'll be more fun than not doing it.

[pierre7i]

No you're not, you are loveable as everyone is/can be

It's his loss, you will soon find someone much nicer, I'm sure

[Asker]

@pierre I really hope you are right. Im almost 30. This is getting annoying

[pierre7i]

If you follow me we chat more by pm !

[Asker]

just did but I have to get ready for work now. so maybe we can chat latr?

[pierre7i]

Ok, let's do that

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

A girl choose me for her very first time... Maybe that thought reversed would help you understand

A guy choose you to be his very first.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Well guess that puts us in the same boat (being unlovable) so since misery loves company want to talk about it?

[Asker]

thanks but am not ready yet

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Meant it more of how you would feel if you were a virgin, finally being choose by someone (tbh) thanks for being polite about it even though you thought I meant something else.

[Asker]

its ok

[genericname85]

did you never cum from oral, cause you never go oral?

someone breaking up with you means they were not the right one for you, not that you're unlovable...

[Asker]

I did receive oral more than once from different people but never came from it.

[genericname85]

i guess since you're a virgin, he assumed it was just lack of experience or wahtever, not that you just aren't into that.

[Asker]

okay..

[Twalli]

You can't compare his skills with someone who may be better. Fof all I know, my girlfriend and I suck at sex, we just don't know, because we can't compare.

[Asker]

@twalli well that sounds beautiful tbh. He will be my first but Im not his first so I guess I will pretty much suck at it..

[Twalli]

You may not. You could be better than the others. He just has others to compare you with

[Asker]

ok...

[GreenGold1992]

He thinks he'll be able to impress you with his skills and experience.

[asshole_]

i dk, but you're a 25-29 year old virgin... and you're not getting younger. Are you wanting kids, or not?

[Asker]

I want to establish a stable and loving relationship first

[Jakeofalltrades93]

because he thinks you don't have anything to compare it to, so he doesn't have to try and out do your last boyfriend