I think you need to talk to the police or a lawyer.
You seem to already know part of it and realize that he is probably considered a tenant, and therefore tenant landlord laws probably apply. That does make it a lot more difficult.
I would start with a formal written notice to leave. It might take 30 days before you can even start the eviction process. But put it in writing anyway, while you pursue other measures.
Talk to the police or lawyer to find out if any of the things he is doing are legally consider abuse. If so, find out what can be done about it.
I think you already realize that he probably has the legal right to be there. The mail is a minor thing in establishing residency. Just the fact that he lives there is a bigger thing. Where I live, my understanding is that it only takes two weeks to be considered a tenant.
This is a legal issue, so you need to know exactly what the law is where you live, and what you can do about it. You need the police and a lawyer to get it right.
Document everything. Record things if possible. Be prepared to go to court if necessary. In court, go in with everything organized. Don't get there sputtering and going "um um". Be prepared to answer any question clearly and concisely. That will help improve your credibility.
If you feel you are in danger, contact local battered women's groups for advice and a potential escape route.
You also have the choice of moving out yourself until you can go through an eviction if it comes to that.
I suspect you already know most of what I've said. So I'm just giving reinforcement. Try to keep your emotions out of it. Think clearly, and do what it takes to resolve this. You are strong enough to do this. Just keep your head clear.0 0 0 0Thank you so much! That helped a lot.
You're welcome. When you give a written notice to vacate, try to have a witness, or at least record it. Keep a duplicate also. It shouldn't be hard to find the formal process where you live. Do it by the book. It might even be possible for someone else to hand him the notice, maybe without you even being there. There is a *chance" that just handing him a formal written notice to vacate will be enough to resolve this. He might realize it's getting serious and the law is getting involved.
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If someone is threatening you, you don’t have to wait the 30 days. You can get them out very fast. I would call your local sheriff or police department and ask them for how to go about getting them out. The things he’s doing to you are unacceptable, and I hope you get him out soon. Good luck!
0 0 0 0Thank you! I’ve just been trying to have some kind of evidence before contacting them. But was also just told that I may not have to have evidence, only a testimony.
No problem! Evidence would probably be good but I think a testimony would work too, i’m not 100% sure. I knew someone that had to deal with sorta the same stuff, but I never got the full details. If you can’t get evidence just in case, I would say just ask your local sheriff if it’s needed along with how to get him out. They’re usually very kind & understanding :)
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If you video tape or tape record him uttering threats you can have him removed from your home within minutes or hours - I know cause my cousin had her husband removed when he hit her
1 0 0 0I’ve thought about trying to record him but he’s always on top of it when it comes to my phone. He even broke my phone with a sledge hammer three nights ago but luckily I had insurance on it and just got this replacement.
You might not need any evidence at all other than your word - I know guys who were jailed without evidence based on testimony alone
That would be nice. I’m willing to try anything. But it also helps to have someone to talk to about it in the meantime, you know
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0 3If he's not on this lease isn't this where most girls would dump his stuff outside while he's out change the locks and tell him to find a new place after all he doesn't seem to have a legal attachment to living there.
0 0 0 0Yeah I want to do that but does he not have a legal obligation since he’s lived here for so long?
Not really if it's your name on the lease then it's your home if he's no longer wanted there then he's technically trespassing by being there. I can't speak for most countries though as long as you give him all his stuff and it's handled in a responsible way then he has no reason to enter your home and no claim to damage to his property.
is he your boyfriend or something? why would you let someone like that live with you in the first place?
0 0 0 0He hasn’t always been this way.
then break up with him and kick his ass out. if he refuses to leave call the cops and they will remove him
I will do that. I just hope they don’t give him time to leave.
if that person is your spouse, divorced
1 0 0 0He’s not, we’ve only been dating for two and a half years.
Then leave
Well he lives with me, so he would need to leave.
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