What advice would you give a man to be better at sex or pleasuring a woman?

[Anonymous]

[PrudentGuy]

So far everyone who commented said Communication. I fully agree.

To add on, when you talk with her, STOP yes I mean STOP thinking what pleasures you also pleasures her.

Yes, penis owners feel sexual pleasures differently from vagina owners.

Hence keep your mind open. We guys enjoy anything that stimulates our penis (intercourse, oral, masturbation). But she may like breast stimulation; or gentle rub of her hack, butt or thighs; some even anal play (many hates it too).

Surprised vaginal penetration don't give as much pleasures like penile to guys? Instead clitoris stimulation may give her an orgasm?

Yes, forget what you want. Listen to what she wants. And if you cannot understand, tell her to hold your hands to show you; or how to use your mouth; or a toy.

Key principle: she a girl, not guy.

[magiusX26]

pay attention to what your partner/s say and do as queus as to what to do and what not to do. for example, say you are nibbling her neck as you are going at it but she keeps jumping away-ish when you do, thats a hint that maybe you are biting too hard or she does not like that technique so try something else.

[CurlyGirl42]

Girls are very different so it is important to talk to about basic preferences. Please also share what you like yourself, maybe not the very wild and kinky stuff at first, so have a talk about that later when you are having regular great sex.

If you are very shy the first few times, I would also suggest to wait till you are more comfortable around her and you know each other better. I have had nice men go way too fast forward and then we are naked on one of the first dates and he is holding back and seem insecure. I can deal with that if I like the guy and see potential for more (which I need more than a few dates for). If he goes for the sex fast and is not even going all in, then I take a step back and lose some interests.

[DragonRider18]

Definitely communication. I’m sure women would be more than happy to talk about their preferences

[Asker]

Yea... I agree. No harm in asking your partner what he/she likes

[EmmaMary]

Communication, by talking and listening to each other, you learn the likes and dislikes.

[Asker]

Yep... If you want someone to understand you then explain... If you want to understand someone then listen... Right?

[EmmaMary]

Absolutely right.

[Asker]

Yea ❤️

[LiamSawyer]

Listen her, talk to her find out exactly what she likes or dislikes, communication is key to a successful relationship whether it be sexual and/or emotional.

[jimmy2]

Stay with your love

[NilSezen]

I would advise to be open minded with his partner and to discover what the two love together. It provides the communication between em. Personally I hate those who come out early. It's also important to keep foreplay long.