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If a guy cums fast and then does nothing in order to satisfy the girl, do you think it's because he doesn't like her enough so he doesn't care about?

... her satisfaction. Also can you control when you gonna cum?
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  • I think every guy tries to last as long as they can every time and they feel totally devastated if they cum too soon, and the feeling of self-loathing and shame and disgust that comes over them after a poor performance is so psychologically devastating that it makes it almost impossible for them to get back in the mood and try again or try something else, even though they may try to play it off by acting callous and uncaring, deep down it just KILLS them inside like you wouldn't believe.

    I think if you really want to understand what it's like for guys who cum too fast, you should think about the last time you tried to hold in your pee and failed. You can't just decide not to pee, when you need to pee, it's GOING to come out, with or without your permission. You can hold it for a while, but eventually you will piss yourself. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. Your body will betray you sooner or later and when it does, that's it. That's all there is, there ain't no more.

    If your partner asked you to hold in your pee, guess what, it doesn't matter HOW much you love them, or care about them, or want to please them, even if somebody was holding a gun to your child's head and threatening to kill your child if you pee yourself, it doesn't matter, that piss is going to run down your legs eventually, you can dance and squirm and try to think of something else, but there's a limit to how much you can control your body and when you reach that limit, that's it. Sooner or later everybody hits their limit.

    And if you don't know that feeling. . . when you absolutely CANNOT afford to fail, when you absolutely MUST succeed, when everything you love and care about is riding on you and you try your absolute, level best and fail anyway because you're weak and you suck and there's nothing you can do about it. . . if you've never been there, and you can't sympathize with what that's like, then you've lead a pretty empty and meaningless life.

    Or maybe to help you understand better, you should reverse the roles. Imagine if you were the one who came too soon and couldn't get your partner off. How would you like to be treated by them for that? How much would it help you if they treated you with contempt and anger and annoyance? How would that make you feel? How much would that help you to do better next time?

    Maybe you should think about what you would find helpful if it was YOUR problem.

Most Helpful Guy

    • guys who cum quick tend to have premature ejaculation issues.
    • mostly from jerking off to much and/or watch tons of adult firms.
    • but if he's not even willing to help finish off the girl.
    • sounds like a jerk who is not worth the effort in bed.
    • consider having him do more foreplay with you.
    • in order to get you to the edge if not over the edge.
    • before he even gets around to sticking it inside you.
    • if he's not sure what to do. just tell him what you like.
    • if your not sure what you like. then you'll both have to figure that out.

Most Helpful Girls

  • A lot of guys these days dont care about actually pleasing a woman sexually. It's all about them getting off. I have yet to have one partner who actually satisfied me in bed. I've faked it a lot throughout my years but eventually gave up on that too because I was simply tired of the pleasure being a one way street.

    • Messing with them boys instead of a man

  • I can control it pretty well.


    And yes. I’m sorry but if the guy nuts and doesn’t even have the courtesy to finish me, that tells me he doesn’t care about or respect me, and he will find himself thrown out of my house and off my property.

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  • He doesn't care

  • All great questions. there's reasons why they ejaculate fast. Could be sensitivity lack of sex etc all behaviors actions and outcomes can be controlled with skill practice and discipline. A real person who is accountable for another person's pleasure is to please them to the hilt. No excuses. My mottos are I don't orgasm unless you do first. Non selfishness.

  • If the guy doesn't make the girl cum at least 5 times regardless whether or not he has cum then get you another guy because that is totally disrespectful, uncaring AND selfish get him to wear a condom the rubber will insulate him against the friction and he'll last longer if he is super fast Cumming TWO condoms should do the trick

  • That is where communication comes into play. If a woman gets mad it is going to make the guy feel frustrated or confused about what to do, etc. It is better to discuss what you can do as a couple to have more fun with it so you are both satisfied.

  • He is just self centered, or thinks she's satisfied.

    We can kinda control it, with how aggressive and what we are thinking of.

  • He is selfish and only cares about his orgasm. Next time tell him you want to get off with oral first before sex. Teach him what you like with oral. You deserve some great orgasms also!

  • That's somewhat selfish I personally like to put a girls pleasure before my own.
    He should be aware if his limitations and be wanting to improve or how to give you the best of himself.

  • It means he's a selfish prick who doesn't care about female pleasure and doesn't respect our bodies.

  • he either doesn't care about her or he has premature ejaculation issues... in answer to the other part of the question, i can very much control when i allow myself to cum as im a well experienced edger ;)

  • It just means his a selfish lover it's not about whether he cares about you or not for him it's just about his needs. He would do this with any other girl.

  • While a man cannot quote control the exact moment.. They do have a very very good idea when that time will come meaning they could slowdown they could stop they could say I'm close and let you know what's going on.

  • He cnt control when he is cumming and if he cums fast its because he haven't had it for awhile or u really have great pussy or ass or mouth it should be a compliment and he cuming just do it really fast and dont stop while he is cuming and just countue its amazing feeling

  • It means you should dump that guy

  • A man can control when he's gonna cum to a certain point.
    If you're too good though, it is harder to control.
    My wife to which i've been married for almost 20years now actually can still makeup herself, do her hair, and be so darn sexy that when I TRY to have sex with her, i could pop within a minute. (even seconds).
    BUT... i do make an effort to make her cum first.

    Don't let him do that to you again.
    Talk about it, and if he keeps doing that... well.. "bye bye"

  • Young BOYZ your age have no control. They've been jerking off to porn since they were per-pubecent. And clueless about what pleasing a woman sexually is or is about.
    No honey, you get what you got. Teach and train, or move on. You won't find a guy worth a shit 'till they're at least late-twenties. Hell, a guy's brain doesn't even fully form till 25.

    • You are totally right

  • We cannot control when we cum that well, no. But the fact a guy does nothing to satisfy his partner doesn't mean he doesn't care about her, it just means that he's selfish.

  • Yes one can control when to cum and when to hold but it comes with practice. Secondly, foreplay is more important rather than PinV sex. Yes from what you said that the guy doesn't loves the girl. He is just there to have some physical fun.

  • yeah i can control when i'm gonna cum, given i get to control the pace of the fucking. if she takes the active part, i can't really controll it.

    i would make it a habit with him that he makes you cum first. maybe that helps. if he doesn't want to do that, you can rest asure he actually doesn't care.

  • It means he’s a piss poor selfish lover

  • Unfortunately most guys just want to cum that all they want

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