What repercussions will it have?
I don't know. He's certainly not going to feel good about realizing he's not satisfying you, or that you lied to him about it- but he's going to find out sooner or later, so it's probably better to plan out what you want to talk about and then do it. The direct route "I lied to you about having orgasms from sex with you" may be the best option, but it's definitely going to hurt his feelings- depending on the guy, and your relationship with him, you may be able to go a little gentler. Now, I'm not going to refrain from saying you shouldn't've lied, since you shouldn't've, but feeling guilty won't make anything better, so let's think through how to fix this. If the goal is to get the relationship back on track, you need to find out what DOES get you off, and how you can get him to switch over to that. You may have to get creative here, and it may call for some experimentation on your part. I'd suggest against trying to simply say "Let's try something new" without coming clean; even if he doesn't get suspicious, eventually he's going to fall back on what he thinks will work, and it won't, and things won't be good for either of you.
It might not have to be drawn-out confession, though; I'm not seeking to humiliate you. Draw on your masturbation experiences and think how he could mimic them. This isn't something as simple as "pass me that vibrator", either; if he can't help you anatomically, he's going to be humiliated. You MIGHT be able pull off a cock ring or something like that, but the goal is to supplement his equipment, not supplant it. Once you've got the idea firmly in your head, think of another way to do it with him. Then another. Think of how you could gradually transition from one to the next. As best as you can, recreate the experience by yourself- does it produce the desired results? If so, you're good to go. If not, make some changes and try again. When you have a basic map, make something of a production of the next time you have sex. Tell him there's something new you're excited to try, and introduce the idea. This is where you're going to have to tailor it to him, since I don't know the guy.
If he's up for it, he may not ask "What about [usual unsatisfying activity]?". Selling your eagerness will help here. If he does ask, resist the temptation to say "we'll do that some other time"- you want to AVOID lying, remember, and if your new method doesn't work, you'll be back to square one. Something like "well, that wasn't quite as enjoyable as I let on, but this should be better for me". He wants you to get off, remember. A perceptive guy, or one who has his wind up, might interpret this as "I was faking"; avoid it if he's that type. "This has given me much better results" may be a better choice in that case, especially if you follow it with a whispered add-on, like "I couldn't uncurl my toes"- that sort of thing will really arouse a lot of guys, but some will see it as the hyping that it is- you'll need to rely on your knowledge of each of you to know how exactly to proceed here. If it works (remember the modified forms of how he could get you off you came up with earlier? Use them. Find which one works best), try it again the next time. If it looks like you'll be able to move your sexual routine to better bring you off, it's then time to ask him if there's anything different he'd like to try. If so- and it won't land either of you in jail, the ER, or the morgue, give it a shot. Sooner or later, he's going to start wondering if he wasn't bringing you to orgasm before, but if you show enough sexual adventurousness, and willingness to try his ideas, he'll realize it doesn't matter, as it's all good now.
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They think that real women are like the ones in porn
Calm down sweetie.
I think many women do that because, I might be mistaken, but most women struggle with reaching orgasms with their partners... Many don't even know what it's like to have an O with someone else.
I can reach climax, but it takes me longer and I’m sort of aware that boyfriend doesn’t last too long, so I don’t even try.
@marilynjuana What’s the solution?
I think it has a lot to do with the mindset you have. If you KNOW you won't reach it then there isn't even a point in trying to reach it. Your best bet is to tell your partner honestly and start finding ways he could help you. Longer foreplay, ways he could satisfy you better etc etc. Being honest and knowing you're both trying might give you a good push.
"I can reach climax"... if I was your boyfriend, I would appreciate it you talked to me about your experience. I would then slow down my thrusting or change something else in my method of fucking you so that I wouldn't cum so quickly and thereby allow you to "catch up" and climax. Your climax is as important to me as it is to you because the more times you cum, the more sex you want.
What sir Wizard said. Don't do something that's untrue because you feel like "this is how it should be". Hell no. You're keeping yourself from pleasure you COULD reach.
@Marilynjuana "What sir Wizard said"... that's cute. Have a GREAT day! ;)
@marilynjuana I can’t tell him because it will hurt him that he can’t please me. I’ll sort of casually suggest that we try new things and see how he takes it.
Yes I lied to him about it
Yes every time we have sex