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My husband never cums from intercourse, is it me? or could his size be incompatible with mine?

I am 28, and I got married to my husband (33) two years ago, we didn't have vaginal sex before marriage due to some personal reasons. I was a virgin until we got married, and my vagina looks small. I am attractive with a nice body and he gets aroused making out with me, and he initiates the sex a lot of times... but after fucking for a while, also hard, which makes me feel like he wants to cum, he still can't. He hasn't cum for a year and a half almost, yet he did cum a few times at the beginning of the marriage. His size is good, where I can feel him inside me, he is long but not a big girth, and with wetness, I don't feel him on the sides much too.. he even knows it although I have never mentioned it. What can I do? I encouraged him to masturbate in front of me after intercourse, and he cums this way. But other times he refuses and wishes to only come from intercourse. What can I do? and what may be the reason? I haven't had any sex except with him.. am I too wet?
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  • First of all, I agree with opinions that its not you; too wet, too...

    Next, I shall list the probable causes:

    1) he "feels nothing" when inside you.

    This is what here used to be called the "death grip" syndrome.

    In a nutshell, he gripped too hard when he masturbates with his hand. And with such strength, your vagjnal grip is too weak for him to feel anything.

    Ask and find out if this is the case.

    Solution: stop masturbating and have sex only. And don't masturbate if cannot cum. Hold until next session or you satisfy him orally.

    2) too much porn and he's imagining the porn when having sex.

    Ask. If true, he needs counseling.

    Meanwhile, encourage him to learn to relax, to avoid porn, and to "come back to earth".

    Perhaps listening to his fantasy and try to satisfy them may help (Note: death grip could be the combined issue.)

Most Helpful Guy

  • It’s probably him. Does he watch a lot of porn, like to the point where he has desensitized himself to normal (but real) sex? Is he on meds? Is he an alcoholic? Is he under a lot of stress?

    To see if it’s you getting too wet, when he gets close but frustrated, he should try pulling out, drying his dick on a towel or on the sheets, then keep going. You should also try different positions. I have an easier time or harder time in different positions. If she’s on top and leaning forward, I will come pretty quickly if I let it happen. It may be a different position for you as a couple.

Most Helpful Girl

  • 1. Your vagina is not small. A baby can come out of it.
    2. No such thing really as too wet
    3. So the size is not a problem
    4. This is a him problem that he needs 2 fix

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  • Talk to each other and see what he thinks. Communication is key really. Also there is blow jobs and anal if you want to try that. Also you can try having him not masturbate or have sex for a while (1-2 weeks depending on what he is used to normally) that should make it easier.

  • You actually can be too wet. But I seriously don't think that is the issue.

    First off what is the personal reason he didn't have sex before marriage. It could be mental or physical and I hope for your sake he isn't gay. If he is that is not your fault, just a tiny chance he is.

    I think you need to open up and let him know you are up for trying anything he might like with ZERO judgment. If you are comfortable adult content might help figure out his interests.

    When you say his size is good... what is his size? Length and more importantly width?

    • It is long, but not much width. I think below average width.. but he is the only one I had sex with

    • Perhaps you can measure his width so people here can tell you if is is average, he probably is by the way. One thing I thought of is some guys who watch too much porn can have issues coming in real life sex. Porn has the ability to give men a lot of variety in a single sitting and it can be extreme compared to "regular sex." My guess is it is mental. If you have enough confidence to try... I would suggest this time that you watch adult content together. If he is able to finish easily or quicker then its a sign this might be mental. The type of content that gets him off, if it is mental will give you clues to, both what is blocking him and what turns him on. If you can get him off orally or manually then it could be a size incompatibility, no ones fault he could be smaller and you could be larger, there's no telling. If you can get him off manually then your hand can be as tight as you choose. If you can't get him off orally or manually then I'm pretty sure the size of your vagina and his penis is NOT the issue. You haven't mentioned the reason why he hasn't had sex until now. There are possible big hidden clues in that reason, even though you don't think it is a factor.

  • Definitely not you unless you are trying to talk him through it. You aren't too wet, too tight, too loose too anything. Probably some anxiety that makes it hard for him to relax and get it done.

  • Something else is going on either he is on drugs or masturbating that you don’t know about or seeing another women I have never had sex with a women that her vagina don’t make me cum that’s just unheard of

  • It might be him. Does he cum when you suck his dick or when masturbates? If not he needs to see a doctor.

    In my case I come in my girlfriend but I prefer a girls mouth over her vagina. It feels amazing when she aplies pressure on the head of my penis with her lips as I cum. Has he cum in your mouth at all?

    • No, I give him Bj and he enjoys it but never cums until he uses his own hands

  • You can never be too wet, the problem lies within himself and he needs to figure out what it is before he loses you for good.

  • It's probably him

  • Give him oral after sex and see if you can get him to orgasm from oral

    • I do. but it takes tooo long that I get tired, so I give him his hand,, and he finishes himself this way

    • Does he get mentally turned on more if he’s going to cum in your mouth or on you?

  • He may want to check with his Dr and possibly a therapist as it may be an underlying issue...

  • Are you sure you are 28?

  • Was he a chronic masturbator? If vaginal intercourse is important to you, be prepared to receive his penis. Have him masturbate like you do but when he's near orgasm, have him place his penis in your vagina. He can thrust the rest of the way to bring on his orgasm. Basically you are training him to ejaculate inside your vagina instead of his hand.

  • He might have something psychological preventing him from letting go. He may also have decreased sensitivity from a death grip during masturbation. I would suggest that for the next couple weeks, only allow his orgasms to be inside of your vagina. To make it easier starting out, have him masturbate until he's close. When he feels like he's ready to cum, put his penis in your vagina. He can thrust those last few times until he ejaculates inside you. Eventually work up to less masturbation and more vaginal sex. Essentially you're training his penis to ejaculate from vaginal stimulation. Hope this helps!

  • Maybe too wet or he is small

  • Have you tried other positions? He may just need to be in a different position to cum. You should talk with him about this. Often it is a mental hangup that keeps a guy from cumming.

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