Boyfriend said I would look better with more chest ass and more weight?

[Angels12345]

Hi guys. I’m 5’2 and 45kg. I have small breast and a small ass although it is shapely. I’ve always been self conscious of my chest although my boyfriend has always told me he doesn’t care about it and likes it. The other day I brought up a conversation saying wether he preferred ass or chest. He said both he doesn’t see them as different. I said to him my ass was better than my chest and he said yeah it is a little bit better as it’s more full, but your still good because your small anyway. Anyway this made me insecure so kept going on saying that why did he say that, and he said if you ass more it would be better. I said more what? He said more tits and ass. I was like what how am I meant to get that? He said if you put on more weight you would look more better and more womenly. (For everyone’s information, I get told a lot I look 16 even though I’m 26). Anyway this has made me feel very insecure! He says he likes me the way I am but it I put on weight I would put on weight in those areas as well as others. Is he just being considerate or is that basically saying I’m not the best in his eyes at the moment...

part of me knows it’s truth. If I was to gain weight logically I would look more womenly but I still can’t help feeling insecure :( any advice guys would be helpful?

[Angelo75]

Sweetie... talk to him about this "insecure" feeling u got.

There is something about this whole situation though.
You're struggling with insecurities. No matter what he tells u, you'll still feel insecure.
If u put weight, you'll start doubting about ur hair.
If u have another hairstyle, you'll doubt about ur eye color.
If u have the eye color u like, you'll doubt about ur nose... and so on... and so on.

Try to dig deeper where this insecurity comes from. Ur past... childhood etc...
It's only there that u can truly find answers.

Because we're all different. Some women are bigger... others smaller.
You have no idea how hard it is to lift a heavier woman and carry her romantically in ur arms... or even spooning with her in bed.
On the other hand less heavy women do have certain sex positions that are easier.
Just embrace urself sweetie.

-hugz-

[ThiccBoai]

Well first of all don't worry about what others think of you. I knoe it's hard but YOU need to be happy eith how YOU look. Others just have to deal with whatever you want to look like.

Second of all it soudns like he isn't fully in live with how you look, which, okay, is fine, maybe, I dunno. But to bring it like that sounds like an asshair. If you have preference thats fine but come on dude.

Third of all, I had something else to say bit forgot.

Anyway my point is, don't worry what mr. Asshair has to say about it. Just be you. It's a pretty dickmove to just say that. Just make sure you're healthy and happy. Boobs and ass are deffinetly not mandatory. There are a lot of people who prefer all different kind of things.

Hope you're doing well

[JosyJosy]

Kind of fucked up that he chose you for you you were and now says he'd like you to change...

I'd workout or gain weight... for MYSELF, not for some guy. IF YOU WANT to work for it, do it, if it's only for him, I wouldn't. I'd break up

[Angels12345]

Thing is I do want to gain weight but it’s so hard for me and my appetite ain’t always the best so I lose weight quick aswell! Believe it or not I can lose 2kg in the space of a week and a bit!

[JosyJosy]

I believe it, cause I'm the same hahahah ;) but you got to get used to eating more like it took me a year but I was more than full with one sandwich and eventually could eat two, and eventually I gained more weight like that. Now it's one again, two would kill me :p but hey it's possible like that, at least for me. In the end everyone's body's different

[Angels12345]

Yeah I know. Thing is I can gain weight but no necessarily mean it will go to my tits!

[JosyJosy]

Weight is weight !

[Angels12345]

But will I really grow in that department?

[simonqq]

I think the most important is that you are healthy and if you are then the other things shouldn't matter. He worded himself poorly in my opinion, he maybe likes more to grab but if he likes you that doesn't matter. I hope he didn't mean exactly what he said.

I don't think you should feel insecure, if you are happy with your body and you are healthy (this is key) then what he thinks isn't important honestly and you should continue to be the way you want.

[Marcuslrh]

Your a small women that's what he likes you for we could of done with an image to judge if it's a right move to put any weight on but I highly doubt you need to am sure you look perfect he just gave an honest opinion which is am sure what you would like honesty is always best it can be abit of a red flag if he said to put weight on though but is still hard to understand without being able to see you sorry

[Berethor]

Well it's your fault, for asking him about that all the time, and why did you ask if you can't handle the truth? also it's not like he send you to a surgeon, he said that you would look more womenly if you gain weight, and he right about that, but that said, he still dates you in any case, and if you are 26 then didn't you already used to the fact that you look much younger at your age, also you not so far from a age when looking younger then your age can be seen more as a plus than as a minus. :)

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/PetitePride

[Thatsamazing]

Uh petite, small girls are the most attractive girls, not heavy ones. Your boyfriend is a moron. Find a new boyfriend.

[Angels12345]

Haha. He always likes small girls. But why is he saying that about me? Tbh I do kinda look like a child 😭

[Thatsamazing]

Look, bigger tits are generally better than smaller ones, and yeah we want a full ass but not at the expense of tightness and shapeliness. So if you already have slimness of figure and a tight, shapely ass, it doesn't need to get any bigger. Or you. So why is he saying it? I already told you-- he's a moron.

[Angels12345]

He probably secretly likes curvy girls! Maybe I’m too petite for his liking.

[Thatsamazing]

Sis, there is no such thing as "curvy." All females, unless they look like Jabba the Hutt, or a plank of wood, are "curvy." FAT girls call themselves "curvy" because they're too scared to acknowledge that they're fat, since they know that being fat is unattractive and only morons like fat girls. So don't bother comparing yourself to "curvy" girls. Again, petite/smol girls are the most attractive females, in terms of body type. Period.

[Thatsamazing]

The reason being that males naturally inherently want to be gently dominant over their female/females in general, and female naturally inherently want to be gently dominated, sexually speaking. This is normal and natural, mentally and biologically. Well, petite girls make that possible; it's no different than why females want a tall guy-- to make themselves feel smaller. So if you're petite and your guy isn't happy, then for the third time, he's a moron.

[Angels12345]

He’s happy I’m petite but wants more weight;

[reptocarl2]

Fuck him. He knew your body when he got with you so why is it a problem now? Don’t let him shame you. If he doesn’t like your body then tell him he’ll never see it again and there’s many that will love your body as is

[Angels12345]

He said there is no problem with it but it would look better if I gained weight, it would be more womenly lol

[reptocarl2]

Tell him his cock would look better a little bigger

[drayday4]

Don't feel a way just because he thinks you'd look nicer if you had bigger body parts that doesn't mean you aren't attractive or that he isn't crazy about how sexy you are get out of your own head and relax enjoy your body and your relationship no pressure stress and no anxiety

[Wise4myage]

Tell him he'd look better with a bigger dick.

[Angels12345]

I actually did say that in anger and he was like whatever many girls never have complained about this blah blah lol

[Wise4myage]

Haha, glad you said that. I hope it shut him up. By the way, I love petite women.

[Angels12345]

I know a lot of men do. But I know the majority of guys like curvy, the ones I’ve ever come across anyway:

[Wise4myage]

True, but I've seen some petite girls who had some curves.

[COMMODOREII]

No way. You look great the way you are. Don't screw up your body for this jerk. Im sorry but i don't like how he treats you. You deserve better. *hugs*

[Twalli]

I love small boobs, so I would never want that. I wouldn't break up with you if that happened, but I would say I preferred them when they were smaller. I don't think I will find another girl with a perfect ass, I have found two already. As long as the ass uh s nice I don't care too much about it.

[asshole_]

Yikes

[supersplif]

I think he just has a male point of view. all guys would want his women to have more ass and titts. i like short girls with big boobs... ass, well that depends on what we do in bed

[allenwants2]

Don't let no one bring you down

[scooogy]

What on earth is chest ass?

[mrgspoter]

Why's he makeing you feel like that, I don't like big ass or stuff it's a turn off I guess he's thinking your to good for him and putting you down make you feel insecure makes you less likely to find a man, maybe

[MrCanada]

Is that your ex boyfriend. Tell him he would look better with a mans penis and not a baby boys.

[gandolph3]

If he doesn't like it i wouldn't let him have any

[Anonymous]

The best advice I can give you is don’t ask your boyfriend questions about your breasts and ass.

Ge likes you for all of you, and you’re “self conscious” about your breast to start with, so you’re just gonna lead him down a dangerous question-and-answer “rabbit hole.”

Be happy with how you are—with your petite body and “shapely” ass, I’m sure a lot of women wish they could be like you.

[Opinion Owner]

*He likes you