Do "sluts" have more fun than women who restrict themselves?

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  • Yes.

    However... this comes at a price, and I know already that some women are going to get triggered by this, but it's the truth, and there are plenty of studies and stories where this applies.

    https://medium.com/@rottenwildflower/this-is-the-only-dating-advice-women-need-to-know-cd7b51286756

    The vast majority of women, regardless of their own Social Market Value (SMV), want to eventually end up in a serious relationship with a very high value man (whether you realize it or not, the men most of you want are extremely high on the SMV scale, and very rare as a result). But the older a woman is and the more she's slept around, the less those high-value men value her - and those high-value men are RARE, and have LOTS of options, and they tend to pick girls who are younger, less experienced, and who don't prioritize their careers over him.

    It gets worse. Women who have slept with a lot of men tend to assume that any desirable trait that a man has who has slept with her is a trait she expects her "soul mate" to possess, so she tends to create an image in her head of a guy with the looks of the hottest guy she slept with, and the sense of humor of the funniest guy she slept with, and the income of the richest guy she slept with, and the status of the highest-status guy she slept with, etc. In the real world, there are only maybe 3 such men who meet all those qualifications, and they're already in relationships with women who men value highly: early-20s near-virgins with natural bodies who want to be moms and housewives.

    The more guys a woman has slept with, the higher her standards become, and the the more likely she is to reject guys who are 6s and 7s and the occasional 8s who are really high-quality men who would love to be serious with her - because she slept with guys who were 9s and 9+s, so she thinks that she can "hook" one of those guys. If she could have, though, it would have happened already - but those high-value guys never had any intention of being in a relationship with her - they just wanted easy, no-strings-attached sex, and got it. They were never "relationship men" and if they ever become one, they'll be looking at those early-20s girls.
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201909/are-there-not-enough-men-worth-marrying

    And by the time most women decide that "I've had my fun, I'm now in my 30s, and I need to find a good man and settle down", her SMV to men is FAR lower than she thinks it is, and so she'll try to attract 9s, but they keep dumping her after a month, and so do the 8s, and, god forbid, even the 7s that were completely invisible to her just a few years ago.

    https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2263518/I-left-love-life-I-thought-I-better-Now-Im-childless-42.html

    That doesn't mean that she can no longer get ANY man, but she doesn't want the 5s and 6s that she can get in her 30s - in fact, she's OFFENDED that such guys even talk to her, because she's used to having the high SMV that she had in her 20s - but she's not in her 20s anymore, and being with all those player/non-relationship guys has twisted her brain and now she can't be happy with a "boring" average man. And so she thinks, "I'll just buy a pet so I have something to love for a few months until I find my guy." And thus begins the collection of cats.

    This article talks about how lots of women are constantly seeking that "butterflies in the stomach" feeling that they get from a new relationship (and the more they've had, the more they're used to feeling it all the time, and the harder it is to go without it), and why this sabotages long-term relationships:

    https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/women-get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/

    So, even if they manage to land a great guy, once the honeymoon period is over, they crave that "new love" giddy feeling that their solid, dependable, loving husband can't give her a second time - and she either cheats or breaks up or sabotages the relationship so he'll break up with her.

    Yes, i know this is harsh, and it seems completely sexist and unfair, but that's how it is. I didn't make the world this way, and even if I never made this post, it would still be this way.

    • This is exactly how i feel like at only 23 😱😳 i get bored so easily being with one man for a while, so i tend to either break the relationship or worse... cheat😣 sometimes not only with one man but a couple of them🙈 i'm so scared i might end up being the cat lady😭

    • LMAO wrong!! Thanks for the entertainment though!

    • You've got time to change - but as you approach 30, things start to change dramatically. Right now, you are at an age where you have the potential to be attractive to nearly all men from 16 to 60+, so it's VERY easy for you to get tons of attention, and for lots of guys to be interested in being in a relationship with you. Of course, the MOST attractive guys are going to be players, because they can be, but there are still very high value men who would want to be in a relationship with you. You have TONS of SMV right now, and you can leverage that to get a really good guy to have a family with and grow old with. But, yes, you won't be able to get that "new crush" rush all the time like you're used to, and you're going to need to know and accept that going in. That's a sacrifice you make for your long-term future.

      Do "sluts" have more fun than women who restrict themselves?

      Too many younger girls refuse to make that sacrifice, and run out their clock, and only discover too late that they squandered their high SMV on "the rush" instead of investing in their long-term happiness - and they become bitter cat-ladies. We all know some of them. You still have a chance to choose wisely...

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  • Not sure about fun but am guessing they just have sex with more people and it depends what you mean by restrictions like just having sex with 1 person is fine and they will probably be having more sex than a slut as they have a constant partner they can have sex with anytime but if they are boring people then sure the slut will be out having fun more I guess maybe anyway but it really comes down to individual people and there personalities a slut could still be a boring person and someone who restricts themselves on who they sleep with can be really fun people to be out with also

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  • I consider myself slutty (ouch) but i totally respect women who just wants to have a boyfriend and be with him. Its like asking do you like having fun with your best friend or with a lot of people you don't know know that well? Both have pros and cons, tho if i'm honest i think having fun with your best friend (a boyfriend) is better in general, for me i just can't find someone i want to commit too, i have high standards which is ironically why i sleep around. If a girl is able to find a cool guy that she loves, power to her.

    • What if the "cool" guy u like has high standards too, therefore refusing to be in a relationship with u? other than for sex ofcourse?

    • ^^^^

    • This isn't a judgement, but is exactly what I wrote about: "for me i just can't find someone i want to commit too, i have high standards which is ironically why i sleep around." The guys who are able to meet your physical standards are not "relationship guys" - they're player types who have no interest in relationships, which you already know. But, for now, you are young and attractive, and can interest those guys in short-term causal relationships or just straight-up casual sex - but you will eventually age out and not be able to attract them anymore - but you'll have also lowered your value for the upper end of the relationship guys too (the guys you'll already feel that you're completely "settling for" because they're well below the player guys). You're on a path to be alone and miserable and bitter. Again, I'm NOT saying this to hate on you - I'm saying it because you have time to change your path in life so you DON'T end up that way, and I have no wish for you to have long-term unhappiness. Obviously the choice is completely yours, but the choice that's fun and easy now is the one that leads to misery later. I just hope you think about that while you still have time to change.

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  • Sluts have more "slut-fun" but not other types of fun. Plus, they lose people's trust in the way.

    • Great answer. They totally do lose people's trust

    • And respect

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  • I used to have a blast with my slut friend. Those were some of the funnest years of my life. I don't mean sexually. We just had one hell of a good time. It sure beat going to church or playing chess all day.

  • Depends on what kind of fun you're looking for. If sex for you is everything, then I guess so. Sluts definitely will have a lot of sex, and a bad rep. Nothing dumber than risking to get an STD all the time, though, when you could have sex with just one person and forget all about the risk involved

  • They do! More sex, not worrying about what others think, less sexual frustration, more "friends," always a hell of a good time.. the list goes on and on

  • I can confirm that we do.

  • I would not think so. Everyone's definition of fun is different.

  • no sluts do not have more fun with sex they just get the deadly diseases from being sluts which is what they deserve for being sluts

    • I have lots of fun and excitement when I have sex even just giving a guy a bj makes me feel good. I might be a slut but I do get checked for stds.

  • I believe both can have equal amounts of fun, just their definition of fun would vary drastically

  • Depends on how you define fun if you defined a slut as someone as someone who sleeps around for there own satisfaction that could be fun.
    But also someone in a relationship could have just as much sex.

    Also the better term that sluts would be promiscuous!

    • Tbh, i find it pretty boring to be with a man for a long period of time, change is good😜

    • That's cool have fun!

  • I would prefer to be in a relationship, instead of sleeping around, but yes, I'd say I have more fun than those who "wait for the feels". Sometimes we need to get laid, nothing wrong with listening to primal urges.

  • It's a good question... I'd say yes for this simple reason, they don't care what other people think and they just have fun. They just allow themselves to not be judged and just have a good time. There is a value you to that. To just allowing yourself to be free.

    I say it's more a season of life than a permanent lifestyle. But once you have lived it i feel like it might help you to live life with more confidence

    • And... have u lived it?😎

    • Lol I wish 😂

    • Why not😅

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  • "sluts"... you mean women who know what they like and go for it... who aren't prudish? or reserved? or closed minded?

    not being funny but to call women who enjoy experiencing things that others are too afraid to just go out and do are not to be slut shamed, what you should have lead with is

    "do women who are more open minded about their sexual interests have more fun than those who are more conservative about sex?"

    • Thank you! It's amazing how naive and inexperienced in the world people are on this site. So curious why those couple girls downvoted you... maybe their boyfriends told them to 😂 Scroll up and read mroracl's fake facts too. It's a good laugh

    • @Tiffyk you're welcome and thanks, yeah they may be those who found it offensive that a woman could actually have a right to live her life how she chooses and i suspect that those 2 maybe prudes lol will check them out :D

  • So either I am a slut or I am restricting myself.

    I refuse to restrict myself into those boxes.

  • Possibly. All's I know is that married people statistically have the most sex.

  • Depends on what you mean by 'fun'. Every person enjoys different things.

  • A female account that calls women sluts is either fake or a bitch

  • that depends on what you call fun

  • Maybe initially but most end up never being able to hold down a successful relationship ship and when their looks decline they have to settle for worse and worse men.

  • i'd say yeah. you tend to have a better life if you don't give a shit about labels and what others want and listen to your own desires more.

  • I'm sure they tell themselves that. But I don't think it's actually true. when they do think it, they are usually comparing themselves to the prudish women around them, not the average. Because there have been a number of studies that have shown that women in monogamous relationships and part of a church-going household have both the most frequent and the most enjoyable sex.

    Make of that what you will

  • Lol sure, until they hit 30 and then wonder why no male wants to wife them up.

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