This is exactly how i feel like at only 23 😱😳 i get bored so easily being with one man for a while, so i tend to either break the relationship or worse... cheat😣 sometimes not only with one man but a couple of them🙈 i'm so scared i might end up being the cat lady😭
LMAO wrong!! Thanks for the entertainment though!
You've got time to change - but as you approach 30, things start to change dramatically. Right now, you are at an age where you have the potential to be attractive to nearly all men from 16 to 60+, so it's VERY easy for you to get tons of attention, and for lots of guys to be interested in being in a relationship with you. Of course, the MOST attractive guys are going to be players, because they can be, but there are still very high value men who would want to be in a relationship with you. You have TONS of SMV right now, and you can leverage that to get a really good guy to have a family with and grow old with. But, yes, you won't be able to get that "new crush" rush all the time like you're used to, and you're going to need to know and accept that going in. That's a sacrifice you make for your long-term future.Too many younger girls refuse to make that sacrifice, and run out their clock, and only discover too late that they squandered their high SMV on "the rush" instead of investing in their long-term happiness - and they become bitter cat-ladies. We all know some of them. You still have a chance to choose wisely...
What if i get into an open relationship? or better yet, a polyamorous one, till getting that rush but also having a man beside u 😁
@Tiffyk what's wrong?
@Female_assasin That certainly could work, but those types of relationships rarely seem to last. I suppose you'd need to be with a guy who was as much into poly as you are.
I mean, i don't get why sex workers get a man after they quit, so why can't sluts? at least they don't make sex into a business and do it for its real purpose.
Sex workers usually develop skills that men find irresistible and are usually willing to except men who other women would seem less valuable or are more agreeble because of their past also society equates value to money so a sexworker who was paid is better than women who gave it up for free
@drayday4 not really, using sex as a way to get money is disgusting and i think we can all agree on that , on the other hand, a woman who solely likes sex for what it is is pretty the real deal to me, u put money on sex , they put value😉
MHO right here.
@Female_assasin Retired sex workers are either 25 (still young enough to make changes and high-value enough to be accepted), or they're in their 30s, and the latter generally know ahead of time that they can't compete for the higher-value guys, so they start with more realistic expectations. Or they get cats.
Lol the same can be said for sluts as well, plus, as soon as u get into sex work you can never really come out of it most of the time, until you are not wanted anymore, but thanks to plastic surgery , u can always tighten up 😁
What if the "cool" guy u like has high standards too, therefore refusing to be in a relationship with u? other than for sex ofcourse?
This isn't a judgement, but is exactly what I wrote about:"for me i just can't find someone i want to commit too, i have high standards which is ironically why i sleep around."The guys who are able to meet your physical standards are not "relationship guys" - they're player types who have no interest in relationships, which you already know. But, for now, you are young and attractive, and can interest those guys in short-term causal relationships or just straight-up casual sex - but you will eventually age out and not be able to attract them anymore - but you'll have also lowered your value for the upper end of the relationship guys too (the guys you'll already feel that you're completely "settling for" because they're well below the player guys). You're on a path to be alone and miserable and bitter. Again, I'm NOT saying this to hate on you - I'm saying it because you have time to change your path in life so you DON'T end up that way, and I have no wish for you to have long-term unhappiness. Obviously the choice is completely yours, but the choice that's fun and easy now is the one that leads to misery later. I just hope you think about that while you still have time to change.
@MrOracle why are you so keen on this subject dear? there is a saying that goes " live and let live", let her do what she wants to do , how do u even know she would like to settle down or marry? plus, the word "standard" can be pretty much subjective, what looks trash to u might shine like gold to someone else, so her high standards are probably high only in her view.
i am forced to reply lol fugI don't know, like real talk i do want a boyfriend but it gets complicated. like i'm a anti-social weirdo trapped in an attractive person's body. I literally get bored with most people, i got into this hook up trap because i used to (and still do sometimes because i legit do want true love) test out relationships for like 3 months to see if that person still interest me and for one reason or another they just don't. They don't want to talk about weird shit like i do, they get lazy, they just agree with me just to keep me or not fight, they don't respect my alone time (biggest one probably) or their brain can't keep up with mine (second biggest) or they're too emotional, or they treat me like i'm less then them for being a girl or vice versa they're desperate to appease because they feel like i'm too good for them because i'm "hot" when i just want to be treated as an equal. And i know i said 3 months and you might think "that's too short" but the thing is that i have lots of options and i sort of want to find the right one and stop the dating scene forever and i don't want to drag a relationship on and pretend its alright. and the thing is, i know im an irl Blacked. com meme but when it comes to dating i don't care about race and only date black thugs, i date whoever catches my interest, hell i'm even open minded to slightly-unattractive guys if their soul is beautiful. Its hard to find people that get me for real and i can't ever explain it to anyone i guess.but i do hook up with black thugs because my unique circumstance makes interracial sex interesting to me because its so difference, and i like different things i guess
was also going to say hook ups are just a thing to do to not feel too lonely mainly and actually getting turned on is secondary
also with hookup i will say it works out because sex and cuddling is the perfect amount of socializing i crave before i want to be alone again, and i guess it works out for men too because they want to hit it and quit it
I get it - you've explained this in the past and I have a pretty good idea of your perspective, and I don't blame you for doing what worked for you at the time. Again, I'm NOT judging you. But I'm afraid that you're painting yourself into a corner by being used to getting everything you want all the time - you get sex and attention, your time alone, you don't have to deal with any bad habits or disinterest in your hobbies or anything else you don't like. That's not how ANY relationship works - no one is that perfectly matched with their partner, and there is ALWAYS a struggle to adjust and compromise and learn to live together.You're putting off having to face that, but if you do that for too much longer, you're going to find your "market value" plummet, and if you think it's hard to find a guy you like NOW, imagine it being 50 times more difficult, because that's exactly what you'll be facing. And it'd depressing and lonely and frustrating.You are smart enough to know what I'm saying, and to know that I'm being truthful. You don't have to change today, or tomorrow, per se, but you should at least think long and hard about what I'm saying.
@Female_assasin Because it's something that almost no one ever tells younger women when they still have time to make changes. And so by the time the finally figure on their own that what I'm saying is true - and that people have misled them for years - it's too late to really do anything about it. And that's horrible for them, and for society as a whole.
He's right, though.
@MrOracle naaaaah it's the truth for you , there are many women out there getting a lot of respect and attention both socially and sexually who are older in age, now if u think that women are pieces of plastic that u dispose off once they are no longer attractive, then that is on u buddy, not us😉
@EmoKate97 you totally spilled out how i feel when it comes to relationships 😳😳
Great answer. They totally do lose people's trust
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Tbh, i find it pretty boring to be with a man for a long period of time, change is good😜
That's cool have fun!
Thank you! It's amazing how naive and inexperienced in the world people are on this site. So curious why those couple girls downvoted you... maybe their boyfriends told them to 😂Scroll up and read mroracl's fake facts too. It's a good laugh
@Tiffyk you're welcome and thanks, yeah they may be those who found it offensive that a woman could actually have a right to live her life how she chooses and i suspect that those 2 maybe prudes lol will check them out :D
And... have u lived it?😎
Lol I wish 😂
I think I'm in a different place in my life. Many people are looking at me and making sure I do the next part of my life right. I want to please my mom. I know it sounds like mommas boy and maybe it is but my dad just passed away so I am dealing with loss. What that means is that I want to have a good relationship with my mom as we kind of already have one. To do what is discussed here would be something too far off track from where my life is planned currently. Maybe this could be ten years in the future but for right now... its too much too soon... hopefully that makes sense
Awwww that is actually so sweet! tbh, i'm a virgin who has never even touched a guy, and i don't support the "slut" mentality at all, but sometimes i get curious. However, maybe if i wasn't raised in a strict society where most of thecresidents are muslims, i might have acted upon my desires, which doesn't usually end well, self-control is BEAUTIFUL to me in a world where you are supposed to go full blast animal when it comes to sex, i do have a desire for some taboos, but we are not always supposed to act upon what our genitals want, no brain down there ya know, so it can get u in a lot of trouble😁 not just social problems, but issues within your own self as well.
Agreed... I feel a balance is good. Freedom yet self control
Exactly what i mean😃
@Jjpayne Why are you enabling these people?"Season of life?". So you want your wife to whore around with the entire neighborhood and "get it out of her system", and then settle down and marry you when she's done having sex, so she will only want to do it with you once a year?
I'm sorry about your dad, though.
@Jamie05rhs it is a radical idea. But even the Amish have something similar to that "The traditional Amish youth period of Rumspringa"this type of life choice is not for everyone and I would say more than likely not for me and it's not something I would recommend for most people.
And I'd call it less about sexual per say but for me more a time of experimentation to test your boundaries and life choices to see where you fit in.
@Jjpayne I am aware of the Amish practice, and it is heretical. I lost all respect for them after I heard about that.You should look into some of the investigative exposés into the underground world of the Amish. They aren't as innocent as they look on the outside.
If you are not ashamed of what you just wrote, why did u go anonymous then?
Because there are psycho men on here who believe in rape and pedophilia. I go anon on every opinion. Even if it's about ice cream flavors
Oh ok but what does this have to do with going anonynous? do u have your pic displayed on your PP?
I have lots of fun and excitement when I have sex even just giving a guy a bj makes me feel good. I might be a slut but I do get checked for stds.
Hmm. Very zen approach to the question.
To who? actually, i'd find it pretty boring to be with a man for a long period of time, change is good😜 guess to each their own though.
No i mean there are some women i know who have said that sex has become more of a chore. It doesn't matter if you are with one person or many just that if you treat sex more like a continuous thing then its just not fun anymore
I'm not sure i get it, are they forced to do it? i have no idea how sex can become a chore unless if they are sex workers or they have a demanding husband/boyfriend
It can't get that way. Lol
Or other emotional trauma unresolved mm.
You are not a slut, you are WHORE, there is a difference.
But you see both of them as same