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Alpha males who bully other weaker men turn me on. Is that normal?

An incident happened last weak with my ex. I was on a date with a guy who I've been friends with since we were 5 and he's always had a thing for me, after the date we went to a friend's house party and things were going well. Anyway my ex comes over and starts hassling my date, my date said something insulting to my ex and my ex punches him and my date actually starts crying. I was so angry at my ex I was shouting and screaming at him and he went away. Anyway at the end if the night as I was heading home and outside my ex honks his horn in front of everyone and orders me to get my "fat ass into his car", I was so mad but I apologised to my date and got into his car. I was still mad at my ex but we ended up having the most mind blowing sex in his car on the way home. My ex is such an asshole but he has a strange power over me.
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I guess I just have a weakness for alpha male bad boy types rather than nice guys
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Superb Opinion

  • Nahh, you are a perfectly normal girl.
    What you experienced is just plain normal hypergamic behavior.

    "Female hypergamy is a woman's inclination to marry the best man she can find. This stems from an inherent biological motivation to get pregnant with the best genes possible. Pregnancy is a huge investment of time and resources for a woman, so naturally she wants the best outcome she can get."

    This is necessary for evolution since women have the responsibility to secure the best possible genes to be passed to the next generation. That's also why women are naturally attracted to "Bad Boys", since those types are men a) usually have higher body strength or can provide better physical protection for a female and b) have higher chances of acquiring ( or "appropriating" ) resources that end up later being transferred to the women ( or women's children ).

    So no, there's nothing wrong with you for being hypergamous ( though the level of hypergamy varies from women to women ) , it's just perfectly natural female behavior. This is also the reason why power/money/status is an "aphrodisiac" for women. The more power/money/status the guy has, the more can be invested into securing and raising a healthy offspring.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Yeah I got a good laugh out of this story. The thing is, you both got issues 😂😂
    But in all seriousness, no woman will respect a guy who can't stand up for himself and ends up crying. Not to forget to mention a "friend" who has known you since you were 5 and always orbited around you. Clearly a beta-male without self-respect or options indeed. He needs to work on himself. When it comes to your ex is also an idiot who can't control his temper and lives in the past by getting offended he sees you with another dude. While higher quality men would have moved on with their lives.

    This only shows that despite us "assholes" are being perceived as assholes, we always end up being the ones who get laid. I've lost count of the amount of girls who "dislike" me, yet end up either having a thing for me or I at least sparked some of their interest. And them seeing me with a hot girl at my side must have thrown them off guard even more.

    • @Anonymous in response to your update. You confuse assholes with Alphas. No Alpha feels the need to bring other people down in order to compensate for their own shortcomings. In your eyes he is "Alpha" while in reality, he is not. The fact that he felt the need to intrude in such a way, shows he is a low value male with a scarcity mindset who felt the urge to win over your validation by attacking a (physically) weaker guy. I dare him do the same to a person like myself. Let's see how well he will respond. A true Alpha sets an example for people and inspires them to become a better person. Can't say that about your boy. But sure, go ahead spread your legs for the wrong fools. Don't complain you'll end up becoming a single mother 😂 And when it comes to your friend/date, I hope he sees your true face and ditches you out of his life. He is better off without you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Oh, so you're the type of girl the guys have been talking about.

    You're dragging down the average, girl.

    (Don't know what that means? Making pinks look bad. Your poor behaviour is reinforcing their poor behaviour; then the good guys feel like there's no point even trying to date and be a good guy, cause girls just fall for dicks.)

    • I don't think she's dragging down other women at all. I appreciate a woman who isn't afraid to express her true feelings about something like this, even though it's a very controversial topic. I wish there were more women like her.

  • Battered wives shelters are full of women like you.

    • Poppy's a good balanced girl then :)

    • You also forgot to mention single baby mommas 😂

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • You deserve each other.

  • Oh my goodness... that is literally the most exciting thing I've read since I've been on this site! If I lived near you, I'd love to be the weak beta male wimp who gets beaten by your boyfriends regularly... and if that started happening, I'd be so sweet and generous to you, your girlfriends would all be jealous as hell of you... lol

  • Yuck, ... major yuck. You're like a bad 80s movie about high schoolers come to life.

  • It's a despisable acts and is never done by alphas. It's a sign of weakness and they are weaker then the one they bully. You should turn away from your instincts because they will never give you a good relationship. Don't date asholes, cut those branches from the genepole by refusing them chance to reproduce.

  • Right, cuz bullies are "alpha". I'll write that down in my book of ideas for fantasy novels.

  • That's not "alpha" behavior, but instead more like someone that's a "beta". He acted on insecurity and rage which are childish traits. People like your ex could be seen as cool or "alpha" by someone like you, but once you see jerks like him be stressed out just a bit. They usually lose their shit, since they handle stress and being uncomfortable badly.

    I know this from dealing with bullies and having been a bully before when I was younger.

  • Meh great stuff another women going to be slain by a abusive partner

  • Sounds like you want to be a hotwife? Did you try to go back to your date after all this or did you just break up with him?

    There's no such thing as "alpha" or "beta", but if there was this wouldn't be an example of one. You're into strong assholes.

  • bullies are cowards

  • i guess it's normal. that's why women stay ith men that beat them up xD

  • Not sure about normal, but it sure does make you an asshole

  • Females are attracted to strong males, your ex was a dick but he showed strength while your date cried like a bitch when he got hit while he needed to stand like a man. Not only that but he didn't stop you from leaving with your ex while he should have stopped you.

  • Alphas raise others and guide/ protect. If a grown man needs to tear others down he riddle with insecurity and is no alpha just a fake

    • ''a fake'' just reminded me of trump.

  • that's fucked up

  • True Alpha Males don't bully anyone. However will stand up for self, loved ones, and often times strangers. Anyone who thinks they are "Alpha" that "bullies" please.. come see me.

  • It means you are weak just like bullies

    • Nothing weak about my ex. I've certainly a weakness for him

  • Lmao. Once i knocked this dude out. And his girl was smiling at me, after I told her I’d wait for the police. Before that we were flirting with each other in front of him and that’s what started everything.

    • Cause u a sloot

  • it's speaks about you as a person.

    • and by the way-this alpha is a beta.

  • so is that only beating that turns you on? what if the alpha ex sexually humiliated your beta date?

  • No that is weird. And somewhat mean on your part.

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