He masturbated after being abusive?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday my boyfriend said "Move before I fuck you up" with clenched fists. He meant to say get out of the way because he was going to punch the chair. However this was traumatizing for me. he was really sad about it and apologized profusely, etc, but I found out he masturbated the same day. This kind of upsets me because of How I was emotionally. Instead of staying with me making sure i was okay he decided to go play games and masturbate. Now I feel as though maybe he wasn't as sorry as I believed he was.. Am I just overthinking this?

[EroticArab]

Before I say anything, the situation sounds dangerous, as in he might hurt you quite badly. He sounds violent and impulsive -- a recipe for an abusive relationship. There is no way to have a clear picture of your relationship with him from this incident, but I still think you should leave him. It's really scary.

You are not overthinking at all. I suppose you are trying to understand his behavior and that's the right thing to do. To help you do that, I would suggest that violence against women turns him on. Unfortunately, this is an existing kink, perhaps even common. Like all kinks, and if (big IF) you're into it, it can be practiced in a safe environment, but that would require lots of communication and trust. From what you've described, it does not sound like those exist in your relationship. Moreover, it doesn't sound like he can control his impulse or his kink, which makes the descent towards violent abuse easy and, more likely than not, it will happen suddenly. I'm afraid that if you stay with him, you will have no time to escape harm when violence takes over.

I hope this helps.

[OlderAndWiser]

Can you honestly suggest that this guy might be The One for you? Would you want HIM to be the role model for your little boys?

Leave now or leave later when you are scared even more, leave later with injuries, or leave later for an ambulance ride to the ER.

[Anonymous]

No you should leave him before he gets more abusive.

[MrHopper]

Masturbation helps clear your head

[boggboss]

I'm not sure what u expect from a guy that would tell you more before I fuck you up to be honest

[TraceyByrd]

Wtfff lord christ 😭😭

[klpic]

Have you somewhere you can go to. He sounds like you need to move on.

[chriscdi]

I don't know but these could be signs of something, you nevee know, Ps and Qs missy

[jmf909]

What the fuck has masterbating on the same day got to do with anything. What did the chair do to piss him off enough to punch it.
Wake up moron you need to get away because he will hit you when something serious comes up to argue about so make a choice because only gunna get worse from here the more he gets away with the further he will go next time get it

[Twalli]

Is he usually available for you emotionally?

[Asker]

Sometimes. Sometimes when i go to him with my problems he gets mad and says its stupid. or if I bring up a problem between us he automatically gets mad and starts saying hurtful things. sometimes punching things.

[Twalli]

It doesn't sound like what he did was too out of character

[CubaPirate]

Get out now before he hurts you is the sensible thing to do

[Anonymous]

The two aren’t connected. But you need to get out of that relationship. Dude is crazy.

[Anonymous]

I don't think masturbation had anything with that. Maybe he just wanted to release his stress. But yeah, he does seem a little violent natured