He couldnt reallyget hard again during the second round? Does that mean the first round wasn't very hot?

[Anonymous]

I had sex with a 20 year old guy, I'm 20 as well. Before we had sex, he was already rock hard while we were cuddling with our clothes on. I sucked his dick for a few minutes, he ate me out, and then we had sex. He only lasted for around a minute or two before he came. He said that my pussy was really good and that he enjoyed the sex. Well, 10 minutes goes by and he asks me if I would like round 2. I said yes and started sucking his dick to get him hard again. It took awhile to get it hard again, but it got hard after a few minutes. Well, he put it back in and he kept going limp and he couldnt cum again, so he gave up. He told me that he is usually able to cum again during the second round. This made me feel really insecure, because I couldnt make him cum during round 2 and the sex only lasted a minute during the first round. Does this mean he doesn't exactly like sex with me? Especially since he is able to cum during the second round with other girls, but not with me?

[PrudentGuy]

Able to cum round 1 is natural, because he is full of semen.

Unable to cum round 2 is very likely "performance issue".

I'm sure its not you, but him.

Firstly, his semen level is low. But that is fine because he's 20 and should "restore" in 10 to 20 minutes.

Secondly, he's too concerned to "deliver". And this becomes a problem.

Next time, spend time to really relax. E. g. take a bath or shower together; or go for snack; or a walk.

Don't focus on "round 2". Allow an hour to pass doing other things. (If you keep the intimacy, its not just sex but love making.)

Likely he'll "deliver" this way. Try it and let me know.

[thatnicksuitsme]

There might be a problem with him rather than you. Of course there might be a problem with you but I don’t think so.


In a situation like this I get hard again in a minute or so, I can go round 4-5-6 and so on, able to cum in each round, also I don’t cum that early no matter how good the pussy feels. He might have a low sex drive (that’s what I’m thinking) or he’s not attracted to you that much (this can be a problem because it happens to me too time to time but I don’t think so)


That will summarize my analyze of the situation.

[Asker]

Well, he did say that with other girls, he can cum during the second round, I've always thought that I'm kind of unattractive and im not very good at sex since I couldn't make him cum during the second round.

[thatnicksuitsme]

A guy should know how to get himself off while having sex. There is always room for improvement tho. You can try to execute the positions better, maybe you can do some kegel exercise to have control over your pussy muscles (they work wonders when done right). Think about what you might be doing wrong. If you can’t find a real problem then there is a problem with the guy.

[Asker]

He came in a minute during first round. I've been told that I'm ready right by other guys, so i don't think I'm too loose or anything. But yeah, I'm a bit ugly. Maybe I'm not quite up to his standards.

[Asker]

*I've been told that I'm really tight by other guys

[thatnicksuitsme]

Can’t say you anything about your looks sadly. But a tight pussy is really a big plus while having sex. If you think you’re not that hot I’d suggest you to start working out (if you’re not working out) to get your body in shape. You can’t do much to your face to look hot (I’m not a handsome guy myself and can’t do anything about it really) but you can try to put a hot makeup on, do you hairs, nails, get a shave etc. you know yourself better. That’s all I can say with the information that I have.

[Asker]

Either way, it really sounds like he didn't like the sex with me, right?

[thatnicksuitsme]

If he came just in a minute or so he liked it I’d say.

[Asker]

I just dont know why I couldn't make him cum during the second round, especially since he says that other girls can get him off a second time.

[thatnicksuitsme]

Don’t go rough on yourself. Have sex with him a second time maybe a third time. Try to get him off in the second round again. If you can’t do it again and again start asking questions to yourself.

[Asker]

He won't have sex with me again. He blocked me.. I really believe my pussy is just that bad..

[MrHopper]

Once you cum its like... BOOM everything changes... you can be thinking "man i want to bang this girl till she can't wal..." *CUM*... "I think i need to get some more food in, what we having for dinner tonight?"

... so it can take A LOT to get you going again... also the more you cum the harder it is to go again... e. g. when i was a teen i did an experiment.. on turn 8 it took me 30 minutes, gave up on turn 9

[Asker]

I understand that, after 8 times, you need a break. Lol but this guy and I only fucked once and I couldnt even make him cum during the second round. And he came in like a minute during the first round.. and he's 20. And he also said that with other girls, he is able to cum the second time. I just kinda feel like he wasn't that into the sex..

[MrHopper]

Quite possible... i mean i recall with a girl a "faked" i had cum the 2nd time :/ It could be lots of things though

[Asker]

Why did he cum so quickly during the first round if I'm not that good? I know that I'm probably not very good and I believe that I am kind of ugly. But he came so quickly during the first round.

[Asker]

I just dont understand

[MrHopper]

Like i said it can be lots of things! but he clearly was excited the first time! ... i suspect he was boasting about being able to go more rounds with other women

[MrHopper]

Try not to take it personally, i know its difficult, we are all our own worst critic... you are better than you think you are!

[Asker]

Do you think he actually meant it when he said that he could cum during the second round with other girls? I feel like I must have a pretty bad pussy tbh.

[MrHopper]

Sounds like a boastful man... or he was embarrassed and trying to big him self up... actions speak louder than words.. whats more important is if you both enjoyed it.. being a man getting a woman to cum can be like trying to climb Everest with in a t-shirt and flipflops! ... it doesn't always happen during sex but we learn to help her out after :)

[Asker]

He blocked me, so he's not going to fuck me again. Wow, he really hated my pussy..

[MrHopper]

He sounds like a douche bag... move on girl, you are better than that piece of trash

[Asker]

My pussy was probably the worst he's ever fucked.. I feel like shit.

[MrHopper]

Or his dick was the worst dick ever!!!

[RagnarRedbeard]

No, that's quite normal. After a man comes it takes time before he'll be able to get hard and cum again. The body actually releases certain hormones which kind of prevent him from being able to do so again right away. Some guys can, some guys can't, it all depends on that really. But it has little to do with you. Only on rare occasions have I gone more than once.

[boggboss]

Some guys can't go again after round 1 with him finishing so fast I imagen the problem is on his end not yours

[Asker]

he's 20 though. And he said that he usually gets off during round 2. I feel like my pussy isn't very good or something.

[boggboss]

Why wouldn't he say that when the first round was so shit lol no guy wants to made to feel they can't preform so they will chat shit

[TadCurious]

It seems like it's really common for girls to take personally what happens with a guy's penis. But it's almost never a reflection on his attraction and sexual desire for the girl. Guys and their penises aren't machines. There could be a number of reasons why he didn't keep his erection the second time, and the fact that he came faster than you would have liked is also not a negative reflection on you.

[Thatsamazing]

(yawns)

[1amcurious]

The desire jumps down the second time, and really needs some motivation lol

[Asker]

Does that mean that the sex wasn't really that great the first time? Because he told. me that he's able to cum again the second time with other girls.

[1amcurious]

It doesn't mean that the sex was great or not, it means that the guy's desire to go for the round 2 dropps after first climax, so now you need to pump it up, seduce and foreplays whatever way it is profitable for him so that he gets ready again. Some can jumpstart within minutes while some need a bit of time an hour or so. So experiment.

[Twalli]

Do you know he can with other girls? Maybe he never tried it and assumed he could m. Maybe he waited longer with them.

[Vito123123]

It depends on his arouse level which is mostly influenced based on how long he didn't have sex rather then you... But I got question for you. What matters more how long you last or how many rounds? Is 5 minutes 5 round better then 20 minutes 2 round or smth like that...

[In_Trance]

no, not at all

[Nachowedgie]

Nope

[QuietRunner]

he probably wasn't quite fully ready for round 2

[Anonymous]

He feels embarrassed about cumming so quickly the first time. So he was too in his head the second time.