Why do men offer a woman sex easily but not a relationship easily?

Question

When the conversation and flirtation is going smoothly. The guy already offers sex to girl, while in the girl’s mind she knows is a turn off. But with hesitation she thinks back on the guy looks, how the conversation was going smoothly. To now this sexual offer. When all she could think about is how this man before her eyes swept her off her feet. He was only interested in sex.

So why do guys offer sex easily and not a relationship?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Men don't offer women sex - it's the other way around. What actually happens is that men offer a woman ATTENTION in return for her giving him sex, because what most women want, more than sex, is male attention. But this is more-or-less considered and equal value trade, which is why it's common.

The costs of a relationship to a man, though, are huge. Most women don't seem to grasp this, because most women only look at it from the female perspective, and for a woman, a relationship brings a host of benefits and few liabilities, while for men, the reverse is true. In the past, women brought a lot more benefits to the table, and men were much more likely to see that a relationship was, if not balanced, at least a whole lot closer to balanced, than it is today. But Radical Feminism changed all that in the 1960s, and it's continued to get worse over time, and so today, the cost of a relationship for a man is, on average, FAR higher than the benefits gained, and the difference is so great that men are breaking with tradition and social norms and opting out of relationships. Of course, women don't like that, because then they can't get any of the benefits of a relationship for themselves, and that's frustrating - but women are the ones who changed the rules, and men have simply adjusted to the new game by sitting it out.

Of course, there are still women who are happy to provide the benefits that men want, and those women usually don't have too much trouble finding relationships, but increasingly, women are DEMANDING relationships from men, and trying to convince them that men SHOULD want what they have to offer - but the only go on to list a bunch of "value items" they seem to assume men desire (but they're horribly mistaken) that men simply see as reasons they were right to pass on the relationship the first time around.

Men, for the most part, do NOT want to be in relationships with career women; they want women who prioritize family and children - the things guys can't do by themselves. And they want those women while they're still young - no later than their late 20s, but preferably closer to their early 20s, and preferably all-natural - no tattoos, no piercings, no fake anything. But most women in their 20s today want to either "have fun" and sleep around with exciting bad boys (who they know have no interest in a serious relationship) or focus on their careers - and they assume that when they're finally ready to settle down in their mid-30s, that high-value men will still be waiting for them. But, they're finding out that that's not true. High-value men have options, and to them, a mid-30s career woman has a fraction of the value of a mid-20s girl who wants to be a mom, and so that's what they choose. And women don't want the men who are at their same value level, because their own value has dropped without them realizing it, and even if they used to be an 8 or 9 in their 20s, they aren't close to that anymore, yet they're positively offended by the idea that they'll have to "settle" for a man who is a 6 - even if she's a 4.

Read this article, written by a woman back in 2012:

https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html

It's only gotten worse since then, and it's bad for both men and women - but I think it's worse for women. Men generally have a much easier time being single than women do, as so much of a woman's self-worth is attached to her relationships, but it was women who made relationships such a bad deal that men are increasingly rejecting the idea outright, in favor of sticking to just casual sex.

Reaperbot666 · Accepted Answer

hookup culture and one night stand culture ruined the dating pool in many ways. most people are only out to fulfill their own needs. but are not really looing to find a stable relationship. also modern laws in western culture. tend to to make relationships a wise choice for many people. out of fear they could lose a good chunk of their own. wealthy and resources to a former partner because of a bad breakup. some places have common law marriage where if you live together for X amount of time. the local and/or state government views you as married. regardless of it you made it legal or not. so if you have a bad breakup with your partner. they can try to claim a relationship style divorce. with which they can claim a chunk of your wealth and resources. which the court system tends to rule in the favor of the female most often. even if the girl was the one who caused the breakup in the first place by cheating on her partner or claiming they did bad things to her. even without having legit proof to backup her claims.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Men and women are wired differently. We tend to think about relationships first and sex may develop out of that relationship. Men think about sex first and a relationship might develop from the sex.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Offering sex means a commitment of anywhere from 15 minutes to two hours. Offering a relationship means a commitment of anywhere from a few months to a lifetime.

MrHopper · Answer

I think its what they have control on... so its women who control when sex happens the majority of the time, they get offers all the time from men so its something they can easily turn down as when they want sex they can get it... its like water, if your thirsty you will take what you can get, if you got more than you could drink you just take it when you want it

Berethor · Answer

Because men fuck, women get fucked, and easy women are not an wife material.

boggboss · Answer

Because that's what he wanted sex not a relationship

MrMilti · Answer

Because the current state of law and the courts bleed men to death, if you are not very very cautious.

Ripper_E · Answer

Sex is easier than committing.

FakeName123 · Answer

Because men want primarily sex and spread their genes and woman want commitment to be safe and secure and provided for. So women decide on who gets to have sex with them and men have a decision of who they want to commit to. If no men commits to you, it means you aren't worthwhile.

Nalix · Answer

A relationship requires trust, or should at any rate. So should sex, but people are reckless.

The_Mad_Pirate · Answer

Because a relationship always implies two things : a) a compromise of the man's individual freedom in exchange for sex and b) a disposition of resources ( be it financial, time, mental, etc ) to be invested in the relationship , whereas sex has no such implications ( be it one night stands or casual or booty calls ). Since there is a cost/benefit analysis involved, a guy will crunch the numbers several times over before committing to a relationship. In other words : "the lemon has to worth the squeeze".

TheFlak38 · Answer

Sex is the only thing you have to offer. Commitment is for losers.

Daniel3035 · Answer

One requires effort the other doesn't. Why should a guy waste time putting effort into things when all he gets back is girls who ghost him or plays mind games? After so many times wasters when spending months with a girl only to say "I just don't feel it" or to cheat on you sex is simple one time. If you had not wasted your youth with older guys and guys your age you wouldn't be in the position you are in.

jasco · Answer

Sex is easy and relationships are hard

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Well, you are over 30 and not married which he a red flag to most men.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

because men like that are manipulative pigs who want no commitment

Mano24 · Answer

Because of need... And not ready to take responsibility of relationship...

jirwin7979 · Answer

if offer sex and the girl prefers bare then i stay with her if she likes me if she dont then it would seem like a one night stand i would not have sex if that was the case