Where did I go wrong. Why couldn’t he stay?

[Anonymous]

he used to speak to me everyday for two months and he’d text me when whilst out with his boys at times he’d stay up all night for me whenever I worked nights and he’d spend a lot of money on me. So I started buying him things here and there then soon after we argued then I humiliated him by shit talking him to my friends & other people that knew of him then he switched up and ignored me for a entire week he now ignores me and only texts me asking me for nudes... he admitted its “always been nice” talking to me and said “relationships have their ups and downs I don’t believe in perfect relationships”... but like we aren’t even in a relationship... he legit only texts me when he’s horny now

[jmf909]

I think you may not have a boyfriend any more
What do you mean you shit talked about him to friends and people that knew him.
That would end it for me and I would be the same asking for nudes just to get what I could out of you till you realised and told me to fuck off. you must of touched a nerve when you shit talked about him and that's the problem partners ment to have each other's backs not go around spreading the dirty laundry to eve rtyone so sorry your fucked and I wouldn't trust you again or with anything major think before you speak or that's the price you pay

[Asker]

I basically only told my side of the story and i sent the group chat (of 27 people) a screenshot of his insults to me without showing what I said to provoke him to say that and he wasn’t able to defend himself as he isn’t in the chat and I told most of them to go block him one of the people from the chat told him about them slating him and that I only gave my side of the story ... I did say sorry and try to make it up to him in other ways but he just sticks around for the nudes / sex now bc he rarely speaks to me for anything else now and it’s extremely slow replies (like 2 days later type of thing)

[jmf909]

Cut your losses girl learn from this and move on but don't let him use you as he has no respect for u if he hasn't got over it by now he never will sorry to be bearer of bad news but that is the way the cookie crumbles

[Asker]

I think I learned a lesson though... obviously doing that made him lose respect for me so now he’s just keeping me around to take what he can get. I sent an apology text and then deleted him on my social media, I told him if he wants to try again properly ever then we can talk in person (we go to same college)

[jmf909]

Well his lose girl don't let it bother you no more if he gunna act like a child then treat him like one. if he cannot communicate what his issue is then do you really want to be with him and sugercoat everything for his sensitive feelings. Tell him to put some concrete dust on his sweeties and harden the f... up

[Neko911]

Because u decided to b a jerk and talk shit about him. What kinda dude wnats to b with a jerk like that?

[Quackthulu]

Why do you think it's because you did something wrong?

[Jamie05rhs]

You shouldn't have disrespected him like that.