Can you be horny without needing to cum?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Short answer: Yes.
About the "need" part: I was on SSRI medication that would give me 2h+ erections and make me virtually unable to reach orgasm (should have called a doctor but did not know back then). Sex was still great for me (although I would also get those erections randomly without being horny... les cool). Some of my partners would be irritated though, when I failed to cum. I did have a lot of superficial / casual encounters at that time although I wanted to commit. I suspect that it just "felt weird" for the women I met.
Now, in reality, without special medications most men will come after a while once they are very horny. Just give them a couple of minutes, have him do you orally or use a vibe and if possible find a way to fire him up again if he appears tired.
Premature ejaculation can hardly be avoided if the sex is "too pleasant". (I am not a fan of orgasm-discipline during sex.) Best option imho is to aim for the second round. If he loses interest after 1st time, maybe there is some fetish or sth. to regain his attention?
There are also drugs to tackle that issue (anything that increases dopamine) but I cannot recommend that...

BeenThereLovedIt · Accepted Answer

Yes, we don't NEED to orgasm, we just really want to.

"Blue balls" is a rare condition that I've never known anyone to have personally and I suspect most men who claim it are just trying to push that perspective as a reality for obvious reasons (sorry guys but I'm not towing a bullshit line for my gender, it's mostly a lie).

I'm literally horny all the time, but I focus that energy elsewhere most of the time, and I try to re-focus when my thoughts turn sexual. Fapping constantly has too many negative side-effects, and I've struggled with it for years; and now apply strict limits on fapping... Reminding myself of the negative effects keeps me honest.

flamiE · Accepted Answer

Yeah it can happen if I’m feeling romantic and just want to be held.. no need to go crazy just feel some type of connection really and since it’s hard to come while going slow I just don’t feel the need to do so.. in some cases I’d rather enjoy me being close to my partner than being pounded just so I can orgasm.. I mean it’s rare as normally heartfelt sex turns into this very steamy experience but still, it happens.

DeeDeeDeVour · Accepted Answer

Lots of people can be horny without acting on it.
Lots of people can have sex without needing to orgasm.
Lots of guys simply want to penetrate and get satisfaction out of conquering girls.
Some women are satisfied with the sensation their pussies get from the friction generated by back-and-forth thrusts.

CoolGuyJoe · Answer

That's my secret Captain, I'm always horny. 😆 My answer is yes.

AmanoYin · Answer

Yes. We aren't brain dead creatures.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

no...

horny needs an end and orgasm relieves that need.

Horniness can keep building until it gets so bad you need relief, either by yourself or with someone. Otherwise, I feel it can result in anger or rage if not dealt with... frustration at the least... for me, i get super bitchy!

Lliam · Answer

Certainly.

cheapshotbob · Answer

yes you can but most people can't handle it and end up masturbating.

summiter · Answer

Great question. Generally when I'm horny I want to have an orgasm. How bout you?

JackSmy · Answer

Of course!! When I am serious about a lady, just being with her, makes me feel, WOW!! But I just focus on the things, intimacy, and personal things, like cooking together, and a LOT of kissing, and it isn't about sex and orgasm, but being close, and loving the companionship.

Marcuslrh · Answer

Sort of yes but I prefer to end it by Cummin

theharshtruth · Answer

it's difficult (for guys at least) i would usually go to a bathroom and jerk off to relieve the pressure

Karin_Anna · Answer

Hey Gwen Yes you can, I am horny nearly all the time but I do t feel the need to cum all that much. Love it when I do though 😘

Tamera952 · Answer

Yea... I think so.

Jac2424 · Answer

Definitely.

Elliegirl · Answer

Definitely possible. I don’t have to have an orgasm every time I get horny.

Jjpayne · Answer

I know i can but that's mainly due to not cuming before

GFEDATY · Answer

ABSOLUTELY

JPrez · Answer

Where is Dr. Ruth when we need her. This is a great question.😂

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

Not really, i can control myself

iambae · Answer

That defeats the whole purpose

wankiam · Answer

im horny all th time and a chronic masturbater but the thing that drives me isn't a desire to cum but a desire to enjoy the act of masturbation so i guess for me it is indeed possible