SURVEY: Have you ever had reason to believe that a friend, or relative, was lesbian, gay or bi? ... what made you suspect it, or did they tell you?

Question

I'm not talking about anyone that was already "out", but more someone that is/was still in the closet, so to speak, and maybe doesn't/didn't want anyone or everyone to know it.

MsLexiD · Accepted Answer

I've been 'out' as bi for about 5 years, my girlfriend and I have an open relationship, and I don't hide either of these facts from other friends

Once I was out, a few other female friends who'd I've always suspected may be bi or lesbian but who were definitely not 'out' started getting a lot more friendly. Once a few of these turned into friends with benefits, so to speak - well - suspicions confirmed :-) What i found interesting was that until I declared myself, none of them showed any interest in me at all.

modeve · Accepted Answer

Once I was visiting my colleague (a girl). She had a pic of apricot cut into two. I didn't care what it was. She asked," Imagine what look it gives". I couldn't thank anything else but an apricot cut into two equal halves. She explained,"Don't you think it is pussy?" Her further explanation was more daring and erotic. There I found that she is lesbian and feels satisfaction to discuss women's sex with other women.

wolfcat87 · Answer

I think it was some internal gay radar. I was the first person to figure out that my cousin was gay when he was younger. I can't say how I knew other than I was always bisexual, and he gave me a similar vibe. He tried dating a girl at some point thinking he might be bisexual, but that just made him realize he's not into girls at all. He came out of the closet to me in high school and to his family as an adult. He was like, "Do you remember how you were so sure I was gay as a kid? You were the only one, but you were right. I'm gay." I was just like, "Cool beans, love you cuz!"

MrOracle · Answer

I have a couple of cousins who are gay/lesbian. It was pretty obvious to me years before they were officially out - they simply didn't have typical interests in the opposite sex that straight people tend to have as teens/20s.

I don't care either way - whatever makes them happy is fine with me.

meetkitty123 · Answer

We believe we have an aunt who is a lesbian she has never married and she has a lot a lot of women friends and she has never ever showed any interest towards men nor has she ever brought any men home to meet the family

BeckyN · Answer

I suspect that my best friend of 9 years is at least bisexual as she has tried dating guys our age over the past couple of years but she would rather hang out with me instead of her boyfriend but the relationships never last long. Another reason why I think that is because she touches me with every chance she get whether it's a kiss on the cheek or a brush of the hand. It doesn't bother me in the slightest as a bi person myself

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

* Out now-my younger sister who's 4 years younger-well guess brother as in the transition process... But I could tell when she was in highschool. She came out to my mom when she was in college...
* Still not out-My friend I've known since I was 14, her 16... My hubby knew her longer as he was almost 6 years older than me and was best friends with her older brother. Over the years my hubby would say you know"C," is bi sexual. . At first I'd say no she's not, then finally I said I didn't care if she was she was more like A sister to me than the 4 I have... But then he'd say you know she's in love with you... That was something we kinda argued about... But I do think sometimes he was right after all cuz there has been times she's made me feel like she's hitting on me... I will accept people for who/what they are... It only becomes a problem when/if they don't/won't accept me for who/ what I am... She's known me over 30 years so 1-she should know I'm 100% heterosexual and 2- even if I was into females, it could never be her because she's like a sister and that would feel incestuous to me and I'm definitely not into that either!

Lliam · Answer

My childhood best friend's younger brother turned out gay. If I had known anything about gayness when I was a kid I would have probably known it all along. But when he was in his early teens, he married a lady and I went to the wedding. The marriage didn't last long.
The kid wound up becoming a psychologist or at least a counselor and moved away. Whenever we asked his mom how he was doing, she would say he had a house with a (male) roommate but quickly add, "But they are just friends." So we knew he was living with a guy. He was as gay as gay can be.

Kha0tiic_xo · Answer

My brother is gay, and my sister just came out as bi, I however suspected this before she even said anything and what made me think this is the way she started dressing, all baggy clothes dressing like a make would, wearing boxers instead of booty shorts/ thongs, and men's axe, and she'd make little remarks if a woman walked by us ( damn I'd hit it) or ( shit she's a fucking smoke show) and not once did she really make comments about guys, but she did have a boyfriend and left him for a girl, and went back to the guy later, which was her first love, however I believe she's a lesbian because she leans 80% more towards women then men, either way I told her I love her and she should be proud of who she is and never hide who she is either, if people have an issue with that they can f*CK right off because it's not there life it's hers! 😁

ZackBan · Answer

A friend of mine. Well a crush to be more exact I had my doubts for a while but she later confirmed being bi and having done it with other girls. Didn't really make me like her less to be honest. Still have a thing for her

Rocco7070 · Answer

For about 13 of my 18 years my best male friend has been Lynx, who is gay. Weve shared our conservations , lives, wants and needs with each other. he's the quarterback at his school, I was my schools quarterback at another school. My street is dividing line for school districts. He lives 1 block away. We dont have sex or never intended to, but we love each other , were brothers. Lynx has completly changed most kids at his schools thinking of gay boys. And yea, i sorta knew from the first but was very young, its never mattered.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

The friends we have that are homo or bi are open about it so I never had to guess and I don't think I would be concidering it anyway

roody · Answer

My first boyfriend EVER, was my childhood friend but he had a really big aversion to like kissing or any kind of touching. He was quite flamboyant and had some stereotypical gay characteristics that made me think he was gay. I dumped him and about one year later he came out! I still adore him, he's one of my best friends to this day and I'm happy he felt confident enough too come out to everyone :)

Jjpayne · Answer

I have never had that happen that often and if it did, I would mostly just have it told to me because it was not obvious to see. I think most of the time, they just act like anyone else. But there are times they can purposely stick out with fashion and t-shirts but I've never seen that yet where I live at least...

jray85 · Answer

I have a friend who I've thought is possibly gay for years. He's never had a serious girlfriend since I've known him and he comes from a very religious background. Sadly, I think his family would disown him. Maybe he's not gay... but it wouldn't surprise me.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, and I pretty much knew it , I am good at picking up if a guy is gay even if he hid it well I can just sense it , mainly from his actions and his personality , A girl it’s a little bit harder to sense because girls are more open about their sexuality then guys are unless she is dressed a certain way and her interests are different then a straight girls then I can usually pick it up. Now I am talking about gays that try to hide it well , I know a Female Gay couple that hide it best they can , they don’t kiss or touch in public if you ran into them you would just think they were friends. But they act like a Man and woman married couple the 1 girl is the man in the
Relationship and the other is the girl so that’s how I knew. Now sensing someone is bisexual is harder to sense cuz they can lean either way , I met bi females that I felt were lesbian and surprised when I found out they liked guys vice versa

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

Ever watch kids react there's a kid name Lucas watch the way he acts I'm betting that it will come to like that he is gay nothing screams it more than the types of actions that kid has

Neko911 · Answer

No. I don't bother with people's personal lives to question sexuality. That's not my buisness to even really think about rather they're not straight

nojokecarmichael · Answer

I had a cousin of mines that I knew was gay or would be when we were younger. His mannerisms said it all. I couldn't believe the adults didn't notice though. Anyways, we weren't close (I have a lot of cousins and didn't see him at family holiday dinners much) and I don't know when he came out but obviously people know now. Sadly he passed away two weeks ago.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Pretty sure one of my best (male) friends is bicurious, he's mentioned a couple times about how "there's no stigma any more about people experimenting". I've known a few guys who are openly gay, but closet cases seem to either be much more rare, or are just better at hiding it.

Kabluie · Answer

When I was younger like not even 12, I didn't see it right away but one of my uncles was gay, I remember going to visit and he had a "roommate" but I think my parents and them wanted to keep it clean per-say. Mom eventually told me and I didn't care.