How do you know you didn't "assault" him by putting your hand there in the first place (even if you did it while asleep)? If you did, should you turn yourself in to the police and take the sexual predator charge?
Let's step back for a second and be real. If you are in a relationship with someone, and you are sleeping together (literal sleeping) and cuddling, it's NORMAL and EXPECTED for that to lead to some minor sexual contact. And the vast majority of people involved - of either gender - are not only okay with that, but welcome it.
If you don't, that's fine, but in that case, you have no business cuddling with a guy in the first place. He didn't strip you naked and start having sex with you, he had you rubbing him a bit. If you didn't like that, then stop doing it, maybe smack his hand, and then FORGET IT AND MOVE ON. Don't label someone - especially the BOYFRIEND that YOU chose - for doing something that is absolutely normal and expected in that situation. If you don't want that to happen, then avoid the situation all together.
By even asking the question, you're putting 100% of the blame on your boyfriend for something that isn't even a problem for 99% of couples. That's like climbing over the safety bars and sticking your arm into a lion's cage and then being horrified when the lion rips it off - you took yourself out of the "safe zone" and put yourself in the "danger zone", and there are consequences when you do that. You need to grow up and accept those consequences, and if you don't like them, then you need to make different choices.
Please, do not listen to this person. Your boyfriend is in the wrong and it is in no way your fault.
Ew yeah dont listen to this dude.
I'm not saying that the boyfriend wasn't wrong (who among us hasn't used poor judgement from time to time?), but that this is a VERY minor offense and certainly not something to destroy someone over. Trust me: you do NOT want to live in a world where you need a notarized form of consent before every touch and kiss - talk about ruining everything great about being close with someone. You would hate that more than you can imagine. It's naive to believe that cuddling and sleeping together isn't going to lead to sexual things, and, yes, part of growing up is to take some responsibility for the consequences of your own decisions. Was the boyfriend out of line? Perhaps, in a fairly minor way, but, sure. But you say "knock that crap off - I'm not ready for that" and then you let it go. The more you make this molehill into a mountain, you skew your own moral compass and will end up driving people away from you. Have some perspective...
It's not mutually exclusive, your boyfriend sexually assaulted because he was horny and saw an opportunity, also if you would forgive your boyfriend for that or not it's up to you, also there is not enough context, did you already done stuff like that with him before?
He should have discussed with you if that's ok... Which it doesn't seem he did... Its assault
Sorry but I've given exs permission to wake me up sexually and we talked about that consent first hand. Any respectable man who isn't a harasser would pay that same respect.
He saw an opportunity to take advantage of you when you were unconscious. It was not consensual, it was sexual assault. I’m sorry that he did that, it is totally inappropriate and a violation of your trust.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Under 18, that is common to happen. It's hard to say you were assaulted or not, depends on his age. If i elaborate on this, I might get judged so I won't, unless asked to do so.
Depends on if you wanted the act or not. If you felt any bit uncomfortable then its sexual assault.
If you weren't awake to make the decision to participate, then yes, I'd consider that sexual assault. Especially since you felt the need to ask about it. If you were already in a sexual relationship and had an understanding about what's okay and what's not, that would be one thing. Doesn't sound like that's the case, though. If you hadn't woken up, who knows where it would have ended.
only if you're not okay with it
If that isn't sexual assault then I'm Christopher Walken. Also if that's not enough it is behavior that could lead to actual rape cause he will think you will be okay with it. Which you won't be.
in my opinion I don't think so it seems like regular couple behavior. Did you feel violated?
Well if you knew about it you aren't exactly asleep... But no one should in any way have sex with someone without their permission and while they're asleep they can't give their permission... Not if you're in relationship that you're having sex with someone and they wake you up with that and maybe you guys have discussed that than that's cool
Are you offended by what happened?
both he was horny af so he sexually assaulted
It was not rape because you were feeling and knowing what he was doing. Means, it had your silent consent.
She woke up to him forcing her hand, she did not give consent.
@Hitchhiker42 I have my own opinion. If such small things are considered "rape", beauty and fun in relationship disappears. Are you still in relationship with that guy?
It is not considered rape. Rape and sexual assault are different. She was sexually assaulted.
He was definitely horny and saw an opportunity, I'm just not sure how the law would see it.
How would you know this happened if you were asleep?
It is sexual assault. Inform him you don't stand for that crap.
It is yes as you couldn't consent to it
I dhave you done anything with him sexually yet?
I wouldn't say it's assault, I mean if you were both in bed together and he was asleep and you started touching him abit, would he have grounds to say you assaulted him?
That is assault. You should go to the police.
Assault.
Perhaps you grabbed it in your sleep and he thought you were awake j/k okits your call but do you feel asalted and do you feel your boyfriend was a rapest and that you need to break up call the po, ice and save the world from this sick creep or do you think you could work this out and make him understand its not ok. how did u react and had u ever been sexual with him
I woke up to my girlfriend giving me oral before.
I guess she assaulted me, but I didn't do anything about it.
I'm not sure what you should do.
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