Do you prefer conventional (vanilla) sex or non conventional (bdsm) sex?

Question

i prefer vanilla sex more... but sometimes i like it rough also... so what about you

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

A common desire among women is to be sexually dominated. Some will even have rape fantasies. And even the most ardent feminists will occasionally admit they like to be dominated in the bedroom.
Good sex is what the vast majority are seeking. Weird fetishes and the one-percentile is, well, just the fringe. Same for gay sex. It's all the rage, and lots of bellowing about acceptance, but it's still just one to two percent of the population. Same for bi-sexuality - the porn industry has made it look to be more than common when it's just not.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Rough as in "hard and fast" - yes, if she wants to, but it can be sort of work. I like it more in porn than actually doing it. Intensity in porn ist often a faster pace, for real it is stroking, smelling, etc. so for me its mostly about what gives her pleasure. I will have a good time one way or the other so easy for me to adapt.
BDSM (latex, restraints, spanking) - Nope. Just makes me laugh, not horny. Also I don't think of that as particularly "rough".

CreativeMumble · Accepted Answer

I do like it rough and kinky. But I also like it "vanilla" and romantic at times. It all depends on the person I'm with and what works for us the best.

helva · Accepted Answer

I feel the same as you and like to be blindfolded sometimes.

MrOracle · Answer

80% rough/BDSM, 20% vanilla.

AustinMan · Answer

I'm all about rough and painful.

MrHopper · Answer

Prefer it rough, i like my kinks... hard and aggressive!

bleh27 · Answer

Vanilla but with some sprinkles in it. Like I want to be choked and spanked but not tied up and blindfolded in a sex swing with a gag and leather collar. But i mean to each his own i guess

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

Somewhere in between.

Berethor · Answer

I am fairly conservative, but as long as the man is in charge, it's still 'vanilla' in a sense. :)

Tamera952 · Answer

Jeeezes, how bout something in between?

roody · Answer

vanilla... bdsm kinda scares me :)

FictionalCharacter · Answer

Vanilla sex with dominance sounds nice.

Jjpayne · Answer

I'd say is like vanilla for sure but I'd be open to the other if my partner wants to

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

That's a false dichotomy. There are far more non-vanilla things than bdsm only.

jenna92 · Answer

I prefer non-conventional rough sex, vanilla sex is way too boring for me 😁😁😁

wankiam · Answer

i prefer bdsm or roleplay etc but like you im not stuck on it and so its nice sometimes to ''make love'' rather than fuck... basically i think whichever side of the fence you sit, its good to jump over to the opposite side sometimes