What do you think of the women who defend or support sex workers, but scorn men who go to them?

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I never understood this. You have women out there who defend/support sex workers, but think guys who go to them are trash. Thoughts? Disclaimer: I personally am not 100% against sex workers, but I'm also not 100% against guys who use them either. I guess I'm in the middle, but my political views don't really matter here, this is about women who support them but hate men who use them.

BubbaSparkx · Accepted Answer

Well, it's like this. There are married men; mostly well-know celebrities and Public Figures, Elected Officials and Politicians ('Wink-Wink'); who frequent working female professionals, in sometimes brothels and hotels to seek out "certain favors," and they pay for it; don't be known to the public eye; until later on, isn't usually swept under the rug unless through hush hush money to main their "perfect image." Of Course, the Women support the sex workers, because they see them struggling, maybe as single mothers; who are trying make ends meet for them and their children; who they had from a previous or recurring relationship, and they scorn men, because they see the men as losers and users; who just want a "quick-fix," of pleasure, then leave the woman to fend for themselves for the next available client to verbally and physically take advantage of them, Cops won't normally swoop in, setting up a sting operation to catch to them, "low-life,-johns;" with nothing better to do than to abuse vulnerable women they imagine if it were their sisters, daughters and nieces, until they stepped in to stop it. The case in, "You can buy it, but you can't sell it." Sure, you can agree to it online and meet in a hotel, but to actually, either meet them on the street or in hotel with the idea of selling it, becomes the daunting crime. There has been FBI probing in stopping Child Trafficking and Human Trafficking in most cities, states and countries, through some websites like Backpage. com and Craigslist. com, the married men mess it up for guys like me; who just want time and company, not sex, in secrecy and discreteness (you may get sex anyway); without even asking for it, because a man and woman can't be in a room together for too long without you know, actually doing that. So something will happen. The thing that gets me is that Marijuana is legal, but Prostitution to protect the workers, because not everyone can just go out and date the way they want without getting shot down and going through the work to find someone, some folks need dates and actual intimacy that the workers can only provide through pay. I've read or probably read wrong that these cities only accept Prostitution mostly outside of one of them is Las Vegas and Amsterdam, but you got to drive out your way in Nevada about 60 miles to Sherri's Ranch, Chicken Ranch or Love Ranch Brothels. Why not legalize it, so that the workers will be healthy and safe? I guess there is no fun in that, right? Anyway,
You have women who are against it, because they have higher standard morals than that, they are what you called the "Uppity-Higher-Standard-Type." (No offense), but they don't believe you should ever have to pay for sex, when in hindsight, you do it on the daily through dining out, going to the movies, bowling, opera or anything else in between in order to get to the next level of courtship, if they are or you both are single parents, there's the whole gaining trust from the kids, because can't no partner just come into their life without trust, they may be crazy. It's a chess game to me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is complicated. Some guys get so frustrated with women they throw in the towel and just get sex worker to get their needs met. I can see how guys are fed up with freeloaders and gold diggers. At least a sex worker is honest. The expectations are out on the table.

But on the flip side there is a dark and dirty industry. Yes women get trafficked but also some voluntarily go into it. There is usually drugs and abuse. But since it’s illegal to begin with it comes with the territory.

It’s funny that the USA is one of the few countries were prostitution is illegal (except in a few rural parts of Nevada.). But I read a statistic that over a million women do this.

But seriously what’s the difference of being a sugar daddy who pays for everything just for sex (and no guarantee) vs. a prostitute? It’s a facade that the sugar daddy relationship is real. Embarrassing for both the guy and the girl that everybody sees that. Prostitution is usually discreet.

Also it’s legal to produce porn videos in the USA. So it’s okay to pay two (or more people) to have sex but it’s not legal to pay someone to have sex with you?

We need more common sense on all of this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't think that happens. Usually women that support sex workers don't care about johns and those who don't support them don't support johns either. But I'll tell you why I dislike them...

I could tell you by my experience of being a former stripper tho that the johns are not good people. They lie and try to manipulate young girls. A lot of them have been unwantedly fondled and insulted just because they pay us, they think they can do what they want to us. Like we are not human, but worthless. One girl got raped in the champagne room and another beaten to a pulp. Even male strip club owners tell us the guys who come into strip clubs are the scum of the earth... and that is a man telling us that. So while there are some customers I liked, in general I do not like johns because they aren't exactly fun loving people, they are manipulative, sociopathic and dangerous.
And whenever I tried going on dates w a guy I met in the strip club, he would do his best to lie and con me into sleeping w him. He had no respect for me.
Strippers on the other hand do it for a living. It's a job. I had to in order to support myself during a bad time in my life. So in short, johns are dangerous, strippers aren't.

laPrincesitaRoxi · Accepted Answer

Are you talking about when they have boyfriends? Because that’s the only time I would agree is an appropriate time to tell your guy it’s not okay seeking out sex workers in a relationship.
Sex workers agree and get that and don’t even like serving boyfriends or husbands because it’s fucked up in reality.

FlirtyShadow · Answer

I dont understand why they would be supportive of the work but not the people who go? In the end its business, if you support the workers, thats what they're paid to do, without the patrons there's no work?
They're probs angry when they hear of the small amount of stories and situations that come out/happen of people (men AND women who treat the sex industry workers like trash?)
Be fully supportive or not at all in my case!!
Nothing wrong with it, if your an adult you know what your doing, who cares! Sex work/trade has been around since the beginning get with it peoples!!! 🤷‍♀️

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I don't know many women who defend or support sex workers AND scorn people who go to them.

I know a few who support sex work but wouldn't personally use their services. I'm one of those. I won't begrudge anyone seeing an escort, but personally I wouldn't be comfortable doing so.

It's definitely contradictory to defend sex work and then condem people for using said service.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I don’t remember the exact information since it’s been years but I think around 75% of prostitutes enter the industry before age 14 due to family violence or molestation or starvation or disability - this is why it’s illegal - it’s not as exciting or as easy as the movies make it out to be

shirin_mhm · Answer

I think sex workers actually didn’t have another choice (at least in my country) . So I don’t hate them and I even think they should have a chance to have a decent job ( in my country they don’t give them jobs) and decent life.
About the guys, they can do whatever they want as long as they’re truthful. Having affair with sex workers has nothing to do with anyone but their current or future partner.

Alfleria · Answer

Maybe not all men. Just some men. IE: their partner, father, married brother. People that actually close to that girl and already have relationships. You know?
That’s not right. As a woman myself, I don’t scorn women that work like that. They need money and it’s in a way is legal. So I don’t have any problem with them. The problem is when I caught my guy or my father go to then. That will be a huge problem.

Daniela1982 · Answer

They are hypocritical two faced hussies, because they seem to hold the woman blameless even though she knows what she is doing and voluntarily so. Two faced Hussy

mindNsoul · Answer

I dont know never met a woman who is supportive of it while being contradictory about it.

Hangry22 · Answer

I don't completely support sex workers nor am I against them because it's their own choice. I am not against available and single men going to prostitutes. I am against husbands and boyfriends going to them. This is because I am completely against cheating. I do know it is like purchasing any other commodity but here it is sex.

Rocco7070 · Answer

She can believe whatever, but most young people that are sex workers, had no real choices like the rest of us, not all, but most. Its easy to critize and look down on those people but we have our secrets and faults and a woman can also believe what they choose. I understand both sides, im a libra, whether thats legit or not. And seeing both sides Its very hard to try and limit anyones beliefs. Some of both sexes scorn, but thats life. Sure wish I could help someone get out of sex working, its sad and some are so young.

Berethor · Answer

What type of support, a support of female sluttness, or a support of who they see as victims?

FreyaRed · Answer

Usual hypocrites. By the way in countries with legal prostitution other women tend to think that "sex workers" do it for easy money. The factor of exploiting by a pimp who has connection to law enforcement to keep cops on distance doesn't exist.
Where is nothing to defend, there is no need to find a scapegoat.

Tamera952 · Answer

I don't know. I have always SUPPORTED & DEFENDED sex work/workers... and have always ENCOURAGED men to visit them, and think there's nothing wrong with that at all.  (In other words, I wouldn't know)

TruthBringer · Answer

The same as the others:  Hypocrites

David92506 · Answer

When I was in college I knew several women who were feminists and affirmed that women have the right to do what they wanted with their bodies. Whether it was abortion or providing Escort services. These same women despised men who took advantage of women by paying the woman for their services.

The only explanation I have is that they are hypocrites but they can't see themselves as being one. Most hypocrites are this way.

iambae · Answer

You cannot have one without the other

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nothing worse than a Hypocrite. You cannot say i support the right to have guns then say anyone who has a gun or goes and gets one are evil lmao.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I can't recall any female sticking up for a sex worker and trashing a 'john' in the same conversation. I could be mistaken but nothing comes to mind.

Citizenkirk · Answer

As hypocritical people who want too have their cake and eat it too.

justme1218 · Answer

If everyone is safe and are consenting adults I see no issue

Reaperbot666 · Answer

if they people involved consent to it willingly. then to each their own really. if you think about it most dating and hookups. are like selling sexual favors for money, goods or services to some degree.

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