How to make a relationship work with very different sex drives?

My boyfriend is like horny 24/7 all day everyday, I don't know how he does it. Whereas, I have a very low sex drive. When I was single I had no problem not having sex or masturbating ever. Now that I'm in a relationship it's hard to find balance, when often I'm not up for sex when he's super horny.

How to make a relationship like this work? How to compromise?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • With that much difference between the two of you, it might be hard to find the balance. Sex is not something you can get too far from your natural inclinations.

    You can compromise, and each give in a little. But if you go as far as you feel comfortable with, and he does the same, yet it's still not working, it can be a real problem. He can deal with this in other ways, without cheating. If that is acceptable to both of you, that's the way to go.

    What's not the way to go is to go completely outside what is comfortable for you.

    • Thanks for your great response!

  • Women are usually less sexual than men, but the gap between you is huge, it would likely lead to cheating and/or break up, especially if you don't keep your boyfriend satisfied enough.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I think both need to compromise a little. I'm not saying you HAVE TO have sex every time or if you really don't want to but try to give in a little more. Or even oral sex when you're not in the mood. Let him masturbate, you can even do some roleplay where he just gets off on watching you. Peeks in on the shower "without you knowing"; naughty neighbor does yoga while naked; send him videos of you or make videos with him when you ARE in the mood so he can watch later

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  • It's going to be very challenging. Every couple has to work it out for themselves.

  • The question is, do you enjoy the sex with him? My girl could also get through without sex, yet she craves it everytime I give it to her and then be away for a couple of days.
    If you can't get yourself to want it more often, it will be a challenge for your relationship. In order to want it more often is to enjoy it very much.

  • One of you has to compromise. I don't see any other way around.

  • Either let him stick it in whenever he wants or you could have 'sex days' so like Sunday and Wednesday or something is when you can have sex as much as he want but at the time of your choosing.

  • would you be offended if we watched porn with out you?

    • Nothing

  • hose that boy down

  • Don't worry only worries for yourself