Would sleeping with a guy in the same room be safe?

[nelly83]

I’m gonna go on a cross country trip with some guy I just met. I’ve only known him for a few weeks. We are gonna take his car and travel to another state far away. Then we are gonna stay at a cheap motel. We are gonna sleep in the same bed but of course his feet would be on the side of my head. We’re gonna sleep opposite from each other.

I know it would work for me but I’m not sure if it’ll work for him. Guys are horny. I don’t wanna have sex with him.

[WindAtMyBack]

This seems kind of chancy. Hormones take over without giving them permission to. That doesn't mean he's going to try to have sex with you. But it means he'll want to.

He's also going to have boners while you are next to him. So you need to be OK with that.

Road trips are great. I've done them extensively. Something important on road trips with someone else is travel compatibility. It's different than just getting along in other circumstances. You are strongly tied to each other while on the road. You need to be compatible on where to go, what to do, how long to stay somewhere, how much to drive each day, which sites to see, what to eat, road trip music (type, volume, how much) etc.

While you can separate at times, and probably should just for a break, you will be around each other a LOT.

So yes, I would get to know him better. Also try to get a feel for the travel things I mentioned. If you have not been on a long road trip before, you might not even know what you want. But try anyway.

If you wait a month, it also gives more time for others to join. Make sure they are on the same page also.

Have a plan and the money to bail if it doesn't work out. I remember after high school, about 3 weeks into a road trip I bailed on someone I had known since early elementary school. We were not good friends, but we knew each other and had hung out before. We just were not compatible traveling.

It won't take long before the car is a big mess. Things will get scattered everywhere since it's not easy to clean and stash things while driving.

Driving long distances can also be stressful. Be prepared for possible short fuses.

[Rocco7070]

Yea usually its ok, boundries should exist but probably always there. Its different but my sisters slept with me in my bed several times due to one thing or another. she's pretty but in no fuckin way does she even remotely bring sex to my mind. And believe me she's well familiar with males 8brothers, she's only girl. In no way has anything even remotely happened betweene us. So, eventhough maybe your situation differs, boundries dont need to even be set at times. Certainly doesn't with my gossiping sis. I do however put underwear on when we slept like that, out of decency and respect.

[Can-I-Get-A-DoOver]

You don’t want to go on a road trip with a guy you just met unless you’re doing the driving. Is it safe to sleep in the same room? Depends on what you mean by safe. Will he kill you? Maybe but probably not. Will he seduce you? Maybe, if you’re lucky! Of course he’s hoping for sexy time with you! Duh! By going, he thinks you are too! But having him try to get cozy with you doesn’t mean you’re not safe. Sex isn’t usually dangerous. Are your hormones working? What do you feel when you kiss him? There is a chance that you’ll discover you’re not a good match halfway through the trip. Then what? Or what if he tries to take off and leave you stranded? I don’t have enough details to discern your risks.

[laraWM]

If you feel it then just go but maybe you can take one more friend with you since he asked for it. And just be very clear with him that you are not interested in more than the trip.
Keep in mind if you'll be sleeping opposite with his feet on your head, you could easily remind him you are not going to have sex with him by punching his male parts if he tries to move

[MrOracle]

1. You need to set the expectation in a crystal clear way that you are just platonic friends and that no sex will occur.

2. You need to not get drunk or high on this trip, because if you do, it would be very easy for you to forget about your boundaries, and even to come on to him or otherwise indicate to him that you're interested. Stay sober and in control.

Do those things, and you should be fine.

[KrakenAttackin]

He's taking her on the trip with the plan of having sex with her.

[MrHopper]

Depends on his age and maturity, i been on holiday with female friends (which obv i known for a while) slept in same bed and room many times. But its fair enough for women to feel this way, i have a friend i known for 20 years and she's told me if i go to stay at hers i need to camp in the garden as she's fed up of men taking advantage of her :/ kinda hurt she thought i would to be honest, but i get it

[bleh27]

No no NO that whole situation has "bad news" written all over it.

[Marcuslrh]

Yeah that sounds like a really bad idea sorry to disappoint

[Berethor]

It would be dangerous even with a guy that you know for years, let alone a guy who you only know for few weeks, if you don't believe me then you can ask your dad about that. :)

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/main/overprotectivedad

[Truthatanycost]

Quite possibly one of the most ludicrous things I've heard all week.

[Agape93]

I wouldn’t do it. Not even the same room.

[Bananaman177]

Just carry a razor in your bra, presto, you're now safe!

If he tries anything, just grab him by the back of his neck and slash his throat open.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You need to lay the cards on the table, tell him you are a Woman who expects to be respected by Men and if he makes one crooked move, contact the police, see I can stay in the same bed, with a girl and not have sex with her.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@nelly83 Craigslist got to watch and stay safe that is a bad place to meet people

[nelly83]

I’ve met a few creeps but I also met my best friend there

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@nelly83 Okay best wishes :)

[Underworld158]

I am not a fan of sleeping in the same room with anyone really even another girl. When you are sleep you are vulnerable. You can be killed stabbed or molested... etc
if you can afford booking a room only for yourself do it. As my experience with sleeping with people in the same room was bad

[hi_it_is_me123]

Good troll question. Why are going on a trip with a guy you barely know

[douride2]

With some guy you just met? Are you crazy or what?

[wondering_guy]

Even if he was safe and a gentlemen, during the night you might see or feel his has a hard on when tossing and turning or you might wake up to him having a gentle wank, would you be OK with this?

[coolaboola]

You should do it. Itll be a wonderful trip. Maybe meet up a few tines in person before you go to discuss things in more detail. I wouldn't asume sex is on the cards automatically... give him a break... if it goea down that road n ur not interested the politely decline with a reason

[JimboGB]

Is sleeping in the same room as a guy safe- yes.
A guy off Craigslist- Maybe not.

[Wise4myage]

This is a very crazy and insane thing to do, because this guy will likely try to have sec with you at some point. You really should have your own room.

[Rebeccalions]

Don't go on a trip like that w a guy you barely know anything could happen

[RobMartin90]

Not sure if I’d sleep with anyone that I meet a few weeks ago. I’d sleep on the floor or couch

[katieB12]

As long as you stare very clearly I’m going to sleep, you should be okay

[COMMODOREII]

Why are you having this trip?