Is he judging me for my promiscuous past or am I reading into it too much?

[Anonymous]

He asked about my sexual experiences.. me and this guy are more friends than anything else but we were gonna date, almost dated but decided to take it slow have a friendship and see where this goes as we argued a lot, but still like each other so we decided to take it very slow
so I told him about my wild days threesomes, hook ups with girls, hook ups outdoors, in a bush, sex beside my best friend whilst she was hooking up with another guy and he legit just started ignoring me. by the way I also added and told him too I did change and haven’t hooked up since last June as I wanted to preserve my good reputation before I moved away for college. So I’m celibate now till I become in a relationship now. Haha...
my friends said that prob isn’t the reason why he's ignoring me as he knew I used to be quite sexually active... I can’t help think he’s judging me

[Rocco7070]

Look, sometimes nothing important to a friend, is abnormal or wrong. Say this guys a virgin, would maybe he feel self concious with an experienced girl. he's trusting you, just reassure him, if the case is he's inexperienced then if it happens build him up, sometimes inexperienced boys can surprise you. Whatever he's trusting you without saying it. You must be very special to be his first. Hell remember it throughout his life!!!

[Anonymous]

You were right to tell him the truth about your past. You can’t start a relationship on a foundation of dishonesty. That being said, he may be judging you. Guys often expect their partners to be virginal, even when they themselves have hypocritically had a wild sex life. If he rejects you, then he’s not the guy for you. You’ll need someone less judgmental. I was a wild promiscuous teen myself and have since learned there were psychological reasons for my behavior that I’ve come to terms with. So people can change. You’ll just need to find the right guy who will see your value without holding decisions you made in the past against you.

[Asker]

Thank you. This was a helpful answer. As much as I am disappoint he may not want to take this further because of my past I don’t regret being honest with him. I haven’t did any of those behaviours in over a year, I have grown up, i realised there was other issues going on and that was why I did what I did. You’re right. I am just going to give him space and accept that i’ll need to find someone less judgmental or someone that doesn’t care to ask about my past.

[Celtero]

I dunno, some of that stuff can be genuinely off putting. And you're pretty young so that's a lot of whoring around in a short amount of time. It doesn't exactly scream "relationship material."

[Asker]

Yah I am young. I’m 20. He’s 24.. as I said though, I haven’t gotten with anyone since last June I did change for the better, but I wanted to respect him enough to answer his question in an honest way. I suppose all I can do is give him space & keep that hoe stuff in the past where it belongs

[Celtero]

Yeah, but he was asking for a reason... Many guys see sex as something intimate and special... And it stops being special and intimate when the whole high school football team has been inside your girl. If he were to have sex with you, he'd be getting the same thing 20 other guys got, and he's actually putting in effort to be your friend rather than just being a hookup. Sexual exclusivity is a way to somebody how valuable they are to you. And June... do you mean not even 2 months ago or almost 14 months? Because 2 months ain't shit.

[Asker]

Last June. Over a year ago. And yeah I can see it from his point of view if he told me that he did all that stuff i’d probably want some space to reconsider if I want to take him seriously. So I do get it.

[boredguy01]

Probably. Most guys don't want to date a really slutty girl

[Asker]

Even tho the last time I hooked up with anyone was over a year ago (June 2019) I’ve been making effort to change

[KrakenAttackin]

@boredguy01. True. The truth always comes out. Social media is forever and her pics of guys she obviously fucked will surface eventually.

[Asker]

@KrakenAttackin I can assure you nobody will find out my body count isn’t all that high anyway it’s 9. I’m almost 21. There’s no pics of me with any of those guys / and I never gave my casual hook ups my real name

[Jamie05rhs]

Of course he's judging you. And you deserve it. You shouldn't have acted like a slut. Many other guys will judge you as well. Welcome to reality. Sorry, shug.

[Wise4myage]

He very well did judge you and in my opinion, it wasn't right to reveal all that too him. So in the future, don't be so quick to tell guys everything about your sexual history.

[Asker]

I usually tell them nothing about my past and if they ask I usually say, I messed around a little but I’m now looking to find a partner. And usually they don’t ask any more but he kept pressing me asking me to tell him about my past experience

[Wise4myage]

Well, just use your own advice for the future. :)

[KrakenAttackin]

"Messed around a little"? You did threesomes and partied hard. Now you are trying to be a "born again virgin".

[Asker]

@KrakenAttackin two threesomes? It isn’t that bad. And most people now dont think of me as a slut. But people like you prove that I obviously have to lie about it still

[KrakenAttackin]

"Wild days" equals a hard pass. You can't turn a whore into a housewife.

[Asker]

i changed though... i don’t hook up anymore and haven’t in over a year it doesn’t interest me anymore. Most guys I meet assume I didn’t have a past like that as I know how to dress and conduct myself in a way that people take me seriously but I guess that doesn’t matter because I just to be a slut. Got it.

[Asker]

Used to be ^

[KrakenAttackin]

This should be a warning to all men. Just because she dresses nicely and acts demur doesn't me she wasn't a total whore. Sooner or later it will all come out as your friends and family know about your past. A guy will eventually find out. A good man won't tolerate this.

[Asker]

My family don’t know anything about my past and the friends I had at the time aren’t in my life anymore, plus they wouldn't tell as I have just as much dirt on them if not worse. So I mean. I doubt it

[KrakenAttackin]

So your friends are all whores as well?

[Asker]

I said my friends I had at the time. I don’t speak to them anymore, they don’t even go to the same college as me I only have a few close friends now and they’re certainly not whores

[Asker]

Meaning I didn’t tell the friends I have now about my past. They don’t know, they’re kinda religious so I wouldn’t tell em

[asshole_]

i wouldn't date a girl with a promiscuous past

but thats just me

[OddBeMe]

Might be, but either way you dodged a bullet.

[HelioVeloso]

If he doesn't accept you as you are leave him be, and find another man that does.

[Anonymous]

Did he say anything while you were telling him all that stuff

[Asker]

He asked me via text, and he simply didn’t reply. Yeah he may be busy, but it’s been days and he usually replies pretty fast

[Opinion Owner]

I once had a girl who was telling me about that kind of stuff and I was just asking all kinds of questions about if

[Opinion Owner]

I think it's kind of hot hearing about a girls wild sexual past