It was never something we talked about
Online chatting, sexting, and pics is so common in our society today... you or her have never even commented to each other what you feel about other people doing something like that—like: “Can you believe there are people that send nude pics—that’s so wrong”?If the answer is no—you guys never specifically discussed how you felt about sending pics or doing other online stuff, or what “cheating” is to you guys as a couple in general; then you need to tell her that you impersonated your buddy and ask her why she sent nudes to his phone...But I have two questions for you (1) why did you impersonate your buddy by using his phone and ask for nude pics from your girlfriend—did you feel that she liked your buddy or that they had “something going on,” and (2) and did you tell him that you were going to impersonate him before you did it, or have you told him that you did this afterward? [Because anyone (like your girlfriend) that sends pics to someone else (like your buddy), is later on going to ask that someone else about the pics that they sent.]
No we never talked about sending nudes because I just assume that something you don't do when you're in a relationship. And the reason the whole thing got started was I was talking to my body we were out having a few drinks and he told me that the last time he ran into my girlfriend it seemed like she was hitting on him and he had said I bet she would send me nudes if I asked and I thought no way she would do that and I grabbed his phone and asked and she did
Ok, so your buddy told you that he thought she was previously hitting on him, and you used his phone to text her in front of him. And it’s clear that you think it’s wrong—and goes without saying—for someone to send nude pics like she did to someone else outside of a relationship...So the real questions that matter are (1) is she the right woman for you? (I’m guessing she isn’t), and (2) what are you gonna do about it now? (Have you confronted her/are you going to confront her, and are you going to break up with her?)
I don't really know what I'm going to do yet I thought about texting her again from his phone asking for sex and see what she says for that
You know everything you really need to know already... Your buddy said “I bet she would send me nudes if I asked” and you thought “no way”...So you know he’s not the woman you thought she was... Why prolong this by doing more impersonation? My belief is you want to see “how skanky“ she is, but isn’t it enough to know that’s she’s not the woman you thought she was?My recommendation: confront her and break up with her and find someone else.
"Relationship agreement"? Does that have to be a notarised document?
@connythebaker Only if you’re Sheldon Cooper...https://youtu.be/FuS2YNripvU
@Gagname Sheldon? - Nah, I may not be as ugly but I consider myself rather clever.
You think I should have him message or more just to see how far she would go
You could do that yeah but honestly you kind of already learned a lot about what she’s done so you may be just adding salt to the wound at this point. I would just stop right there and confront her about it
Yeah I guess but I kind of want to know if she actually wants to have sex with him too
If she’s sent him nudes she probably does
So should I just break up with her then
No, confront her first and then decide. Maybe she will beg for forgiveness and ask for a second chance.
I mean was there ever a point where you two “took a break”? I don't know personally I would be very pissed if my close friend received nudes from my boyfriend (if I had one) just call her or ask to meet her in person and then talk about it I guess let her say what she’s got to say or just let her know that you know about it. its kinda a power move for you to let her know that you know. She probably feels like she’s got all of this power over you that you didn’t know about the nudes
@Wise4myage yeah and I probably actually could forgive her for that but if she's actually willing to have sex with him I don't know that's a little harder to forgive
@Wise4myage begging for forgiveness will solve nothing that is happening? She someone else nudes I don’t think his question is about forgiveness it’s about what to do
Just go talk to her and then decide. If you do give her a second chance, just make sure she knows its the last one she will get.
I mean she's the love of my life and I wanted to marry her
Blue Anon Asker, we’re chatting in my Opinion thread, but I’m now seeing this other conversation you’re having...You said in this conversation thread: “I kind of want to know if she actually wants to have sex with him too“... But, you already know your girlfriend wants another man to see her nude body—this is a huge red flag: is this someone you would seriously still consider marrying? You already mistrusted her enough to impersonate your buddy, and then she sent nudes to “him.” Let’s say you impersonate him again and she doesn’t jump on on the “sex offer from your buddy” or when you confront her she says that she’d never would have sex with someone else while she’s with you... Sp what, you already know she’s a woman who sends nice pics to other guys so they can get excited over her and get off because of her...How could you ever trust your girlfriend again?
Setting her up? it is great what he did. you go, dude! This is a good way to catch a wh*re
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Yeah I thought about asking her about sex
Apparently she must like him
How do you think she'd take it if you did the same thing with someone else?
I don't think she would be very happy
Then you know what it is.
Do you think I should message her again from his phone see how far she would go
If you want too. Although I think its pointless, you can if you want to. I would wonder if anythings going on between her and your buddy.
No because my buddy was the one who told me that he thought she was coming on to him the last time he saw her. I didn't believe it I thought he must be mistaken and then he said he'd get me a beer that if he asks for nudes that she would send them. And I was like there's no way she would ever do that but she did
Well now you have proof, right?
Just confront her and make up your mind what you want to do.
Yeah I thought about having him messenger and ask her about sex and see what she says
I think your torturing yourself to do that, but do what you feel is right.
I just thought if I did and she said no then we could probably work past the nudes
Ok, I see where your coming from. But do not let this slide.
Yeah I'm not sure what exactly to do
DUMP HER buddy and be glad you found out now, and not later.
Yeah I think I might have to
Specifically from the second floor in a high rise building.
Walk away from her or better yet set something up with her through his phone and then confront her when she meets him