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  • What a complicated subject. I don't even know exactly which way I stand on it. I have opinions but all I can come up with is it depends on scenarios. There is no easy answer for this.

    To couples who do engage in this behavior that's their business and no one has a right to judge them as long as they're not harming anyone. To each their own so long as they're safe about it.

    In MY SCENARIO ONLY I'm not talking for anyone else... My view on polygamy

    Free polygamy: Is a free for all lifestyle with many people and ONLY with people who share this belief system.

    Closed polygamy: is a commitment amongst more than two people to create a family unit and raise children together. Sexual activities can only occur amongst the people in the group. No strangers or outsiders permitted. If a member shows interest in an outsider EVERYONE in the groups feelings must be considered. If one says no then its no and the others must accept it without making them feel guilty. Everyone must be comfortable. Everyone must be faithful to the group.
    This is a lovely concept and Natural to some hominin creatures but Then there are the illegal factors too and I doubt too many couples could make this work. All it takes is one person to be selfish and do as they please to ruin the arrangement and before you know you all have an STD.

    As for me:
    Before an actual marriage:

    No I do not believe I would agree to an open marriage. If the guy cannot commit to me then I don't see the point to signing a legal document binding us together that's just ridiculous.

    If they want to roam casually and jump to Stranger to stranger then keep on walking.
    Would I date or talk to multiple people at one time? Yes but only in causal dating.

    I will NOT lay with a man who is laying with multiples strangers upon strangers. I need to love the person I am with and they need to love me. I will not sleep with a person who is not committed to being exclusive and safe. I have a STRONG fear of STDS and I do not believe in being loose or careless.

    Now inside MY marriage...

    I'm still not sure. I am still leaning on no.

    Right now my man and I have a pact that I (or he if he wanted to) can be on GAG but we have our rules. Its stays on GAG no number or email exchange. No Sending nudes or receiving etc we can flirt leave opinions and questions but thats it. I think this is as open as I can be.

    I'm a Hypersexual and this keeps me from physically cheating. I struggle with my Hyper-sexuality daily but I CANNOT be physically promiscuous. My OCD phobia of STDS and religious background does not allow me to take these actions. My body might want to but my mind and soul are stronger and say HELL no.

    If a man is struggling with faithfulness. I NEED HIM TO TALK TO ME. We need to work it out together. Im not going to beat my man down verbally or physically because he is struggling. I would do everything I can to come up with a healthy solution. One that works for the entire family and keeps everyone in the family safe. The agreement may not be to step out entirely but we would come up with something to help us.

    If he goes behind my back before or after we speak and steps out or goes against our agreement then we are done. And this rule would not blindside him because I make this very clear. There are no strikes allowed. Your sneak around you are out.

    Cheating is withholding, covering, up lying or going against an agreed pact.

    I have children who depend on me and I have to have a safe family unit for them.

    • @guardian45 I answered

  • Not an actual marriage. Marriage means commitment and open marriage is the opposite of it.

    • How so?

    • Because having extramarital relationships is not committing only to your husband or partners.

    • Have you been in an open marriage?

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  • I think that if a person is gonna lie to his/herself that he/she doesn't care about the partner doing intimate things with random people, then the person is gonna be oppressing many emotions and that'll end up making them ill. Mentally and physically. That is huge self disrespect. Like your emotions are not a big deal, you can get pass them? Nope. You can ignore and supress, but it comes out in other forms, many types of auto-immune disease out there because we lie to ourselves about so many things...

    • compersion

    • @Guardian45 at what cost? at what level of denial?

    • I don't know. Tell me what cost? Why any denial?

  • I don’t know how it could be considered a relationship when it’s not between just two people but no hate to people who do open relationships, I just could never. I feel like eventually I would become jealous or there would be some moment where our “rules” were broken or something. It just feels like cheating to me.

    • Thats a very mature reply. An open mind is what you have and thats a very powerful tool.

  • It wouldn’t be my personal preference but if two adults want to have that kind of arrangement, more power to them. I would think it would be hard to have any kind of stability if both partners are out hooking up with different people.

    • Why?

  • Open marriage?
    Fuck no the entire reason for the i do is literally so they dont run of and fuck other people
    When people want marriage its cause they wanna be with the person and grow old with em to many have forgotten that these days and now many who live in a open marriage dosent see the other as a life partner but just one to fuck when they both want it thats not marriage thats friends with benefits

  • Stupidest thing in the world (well besides cuckolding which is just pathetic beyond measure. This isn't that far up from that either). Why get married if your going to act single? Why call it a relationship when your busy trying to fuck every one but your partner? How do you claim to be in a marriage where neither of you are sacrificing anything for the other, were neither of you are building that relationship because your to busy trying to get laid by some one else? Its fucking stupid, like claiming your trying to start your career by avoiding staying at one job for more then a day. Its the exact opposite of a relationship. Open marriages are for weak people and I despise weak people.

  • I feel like it's a dumb idea and the people might as well just stay single if they want to live that way.

    • What if your husband can't 'serve' you, but wants you to be sexually satisfied?

    • @Guardian45 Then he should take some Viagra or Cialis.

    • LOL 😆 🤣 😂 Viagra, etc Isn't ALWAYS a possible cure!

  • Its not for me I think, but if others have one thats up to them. Who am I to judge others personal lives, especially since its none of my business

  • If I wanted the outside contacts I would not get married. q

  • I would never do it. I am not judging others, but it isn't for me.

  • I dont see the point in marriage if your gonna do this does marriage not seem like a waste of time and money if you do this?

  • No, I will not abide by the lax in decency which has pushed us further and further into the halls of Sodom and Gomorrah.

    • Haha... thank you. I needed a good giggle lol

    • @coolaboola Laugh all you like, for it is you who is a clown.

    • Explain how im the clown while you're banging on biblical? Lol

  • I don't think I would ever be in one, in the mean time I dont mind fooling around with a wife that is in a open marriage tho.

  • That a very very small percentage of people can pull that off without any problems, or it wrecking your relationship.

  • couldn't be me,,,,

  • I'm more interested in keeping marriage between me and my partner. More personal and meaningful to me

  • People should be free to do it if both partners agree to it, but it's certainly not for me and I find it pretty repulsive.

  • It is wrong and defeats God's intent and purpose of marriage.

  • If I was interested in sleeping with several different people, I'd rather just be single.

  • Aka - sexual relations with whoever takes either of your fancy.

    If you like to play "guess the STD/STI, and father" every week, then go ahead and play.

    But if you play such stupid games, then don't be surprised to win stupid prizes.

  • That isn't a marriage.
    I would never accept that.

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