How to get over pregnancy fear?

[Anonymous]

One of my biggest fears is teenage pregnancy. I am literally so scared. I’m 17 and I feel ready to lose my v card. And I am really happy with my boyfriend. Anyways I just can’t bring myself to have sex. I’m not on birth control. Of course there are condoms and stuff but I don't know man. I really don’t want to dissapoint my parents. they do a lot of stuff for me and I’m grateful. since I’m still in high school. sooo what do I do? Also I’m kinda scared that I’ll accidentally manifest pregnancy because of fearing it.

[purplepoppy]

Modern contraception is very reliable butbif you want to be ultra safe do the double, pill and condom.

[Asker]

yeah that’s probably the safest thing.

[Alice18]

A good solution is anal sex. This is the most reliable means of contraception. Personally, until the age of 19, I did only anal. And even now, for me, anal is the same part of sexual life as vaginal sex. So the first few times it hurts. But over time it feels really good. My mother once told me "Remember that the pain in the butt after sex is always less than the pain during childbirth." Think about it.

[Berethor]

You right to fear that, there is risk, and you should better wait until marriage, like a good girl.

[Asker]

wow so sex before marriage makes you a bad person... Im already a good girl. not that I care what people think.

[Berethor]

You might still be a good girl, because you didn't lost your V card before marriage, but you would not be a good girl anymore if you lose your V card before marriage, also you do care about what people think, that's the main reason that you didn't lost your V card yet, despite having a boyfriend and condoms. You are going to disappoint your parents if you would act like a nasty girl and lose your V card before marriage, also you do you really trust your boyfriend to not leave you after you lose your V card to him? and you would end up get used? and then you would become much less valuable to other guys, because you lost your virginity to other guy. Girls you should know the risks, also if you really trust your boyfriend then why you so afraid to get pregnant from him? you think that you are adult enough to have sex but you not adult enough to have child, I consider that "modern mindset" quite silly.

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[Asker]

First of all... I didn’t lose my virginity yet because I’m scared of pregnancy. And I don’t care what people think about me. About my parents. They will always love me. But I don’t want them to be sad. And the thing is I’m just 17 I don’t want to raise a kid. I have so many plans and having a kid is not part of the plan for now. It has nothing to do with my boyfriend. I’m just not ready to be a mom. And lmaooo If someone thinks I will be less valuable because I lost my virginity... I don’t want to date a person with that mindset anyways.

[Berethor]

As I said I find the notion of being adult enough to have sex but you not adult enough to have child quite silly, as biologically having children is the main purpose for sex. Yes I believe that slutty girls are much less valuable than good girls, and the more guys had sex with a girl the more slutty she is, also waiting until marriage proper way for a girl to act.

[Asker]

loool you don’t get to decide that and nobody asked for your opinion on girls being “valuable”. and by the way not wanting kids is not about being adult. you can be 30 and still not want any kids. not everyone wants kids.

[Berethor]

I don't need you to ask, anyway looks like you believe in a lot of feminist bullshit.

[Asker]

what bullshit... why can’t you just except that everybody is equal. the gender or the color nothing matters. I believe in equality.

[Berethor]

You should learn about sexual dimorphism, and girls who lack maternal instinct are not normal.

[TravisMiller13]

What have you done with your boyfriend probably kissed right anything else?

[TravisMiller13]

Trying to help

[TravisMiller13]

Just let me know if I can help ok :)

[israelisevil]

Having sex isn't dissapointing to parents. I've got girl pregnant in hs we just aborted

[Samuel204]

U can still with a little while finish high school
Being an adult and so on

[Asker]

that’s probably the wise thing to do. I’ll just see I guess.