He refused to have sex after seeing my pussy? Please help?

We were dating, he asked me to sent him photo of my pussy and i did. After seeing it he said he was not interested in having sex and that we can be only friends from now.

I am afraid it looks horrible , i completely lost my self esteem. Please help , what can i do to feel better?
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  • Congratulations! You have now successfully filtered out an unsuitable match. That's GOOD news - you won't have to waste anymore time or energy on him, and can move on to someone who is a lot more reasonable and unselfish, and a lot more mature. This saved you a lot of hassle and misery later on down the road.

    • I am afraid it disgusted him because i have visible pussy lips.. they are not big, i think small, but now i feel i am disgusting. Its not pussy like you see in porn :(

    • There's nothing wrong with your pussy - it's completely normal. The only thing wrong here was that you happened across an immature boy who has very little real-world experience with women. And now, he's talked himself out of getting any more. LOL. Don't think another thing about it. If he didn't want you because you were too tall or too short, you wouldn't think there was anything wrong with you, and this is no different. Also, not sure what porn you are looking at, because porn is FULL of girls with visible labia.

    • however much i hate Quagmire he's right you dodged a bullet rather have it happend over a pic than right then and there and tbh u would prob be disappointed by his "dick" aswell

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  • Very doubtful yours looks different from anyone elses. Bet no one could pick out yours from a line up. Show people pics of five vaginas (one of them yours) and ask them which ones they like. I've seen a LOT of vaginas in real life, like A LOT, 99% of them are all the same.

    My guess is this guy doesn't have a lot of experience with girls and is probably anxious and insecure and doesn't know much about vaginas.

    This says a lot more about this guy than it does you. You are ok. Ask your exes or friends you trust, they will tell you yours is just the same as everyones.

    • I am afraid it disgusted him because i have visible pussy lips.. they are not big, i think small, but now i feel i am disgusting. Its not pussy like you see in porn :(

    • I've worked close up with a lot of "pussy lips." Some are tucked inside others aren't, I have never heard of a grown man letting that decide anything when it comes to being attracted to a girl. When I think about my past experiences, most girls have a little bit showing. In all my time I never once thought, oh this girl is showing more or less labia. Never crossed my mind. I'm sure it crosses someone's mind, I think you just found the one weirdo. Also it sounds like he never said your labia was the reason, but even if he did, it is just ONE guy, so you just dodged a bullet. Do yourself a favor and don't let this one incident make you forever self conscious. And don't get vaginal rejuvenation's. This is something girl's insecurity wants way more than normal guys care about. It was said that Hitler had mental issues about female pubic hair, hardly a reason to worry about your pubic hair and its hardly a reason to worry about your "lips" I have never once heard a buddy talk about a girl's innie or outie. You that post going around asking guys which lips guys like. I'm sure the guys pick one but they won't turn down the others if given the chance, if it is the right girl otherwise.

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  • First of all, you trusted him and you sent him the picture. Which itself makes you in vulnerable state. And instead of appreciating, he made you feel awful.
    And I understand it hurt your feelings and made you feel insecure. But the truth is, he does not deserve your time and energy. Be with a man who loves every inch of your body, and makes you feel beautiful. Honestly, you deserve better. Move on.

  • Well, there are some pussies that are perfect. The lips aren't too big, the clitoris is nice, and it's all tucked under the hood.
    Then there are pussies that look like it's all gonna fall out. There's way too much going on down there, then the hood make the pussy look like an alien. Those are the ugliest pussies I've ever seen.

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  • Move on... if he's that hung up on that... what else will there be?

  • Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet with this guy

  • Go see your dentist and have the teeth removed from it TROLL!

  • There is nothing wrong with your pussy. Some guys have preferences for innies (inner lips hidden) and some prefer outies (inner lips protruding and showing) but only assholes get upset and criticize the kind that is not their preference. You learned early that this guy is a dick and not for you. Be glad for that much. Move on and find a better guy.
    Many of us that have a preference for an outie enjoy the visual stimulation and the ease at performing oral on the whole pussy.

  • No way. And I hate saying this but can I see a picture and by the way he's so wrong for saying that to you

  • Could you send a picture for further analysis in order to improve the quality of response?

  • Why would you send a picture of yourself to anyone anyway🤦‍♂️and that's harsh of him to say that to would you want to be friends with someone like that?

  • I think you should reevaluate what type of guy you want to have sex with, because your standards sound pretty damn low. Also, respect yourself enough to not send nudes... there is literally nothing good that can come out of it. This is evidence of that.

  • That guy is very choosy about pussies, at least you found out about that before you get to bed with him. There no point for you to date him if he didn't like your pussy.

  • You can send me a picture and i will tell you what I think... but all the other guys said the same thing.
    I think your friend is kind of shallow and if he is judging you for the look of your vagina, then he has some real issues... best to stay away from a clod like him and find a guy who will be into you and love your vagina.
    My guess is that he is watching too much porn and expects yours to look the same.
    Be proud of your body and others will want it too.

  • And this is the type of dude you want to have sex with. Okay then. Pussy's come in all shapes and sized. If he can't fathom that fact, then I wish him good luck in his dating life. Move on girl. Plenty of other dudes you will be interested.

  • Maybe he has a specific fetish about how pussies should look. More likely he decided to end the romantic relationship in a nasty way. He sounds like a real asshole.

  • sounds like you just got played by someone with an ungrateful mind, just to point out that it isn't anything wrong with you... or how your pussy looks, just sounds like the douchebag has the idea that pussies are supposed to look 1 way and cannot have the mental capacity to understand that body types are different and that it isn't right to judge a person based on what genetically has formed and grown differently...

  • His loss, how are pussys supposed to look? he seems like he's been watching too much porn and doesn't know the real world.

  • He's an idiot. Almost no guys care about the appearance of female genitalia. We're happy just to be close enough to see it.

  • WTF girl, you just gave him ammo to ensnare you, and revenge porn you.

    Ditch his sorry ass, and demand he delete your nudes, else you'll get cops.

  • That is unfortunate, and I'm sorry for your pain. Any time the opposite sex's genitals look unattractive to someone it's a hard thing to deal with, yeah. If I were you I would just let the conversations fall off with that guy. It's better to just call it a loss and move on. How he feels won't necessarily be what the next guy feels.

  • First, send a picture so we can judge. If it is normal, then you just confirmed he is gay, But send the pic so we can judge

  • He's very immature and inconsiderate to say such a thing. My guess is he's one of these ignorant guys who think women's vulvas are supposed to look like Barbie dolls. And that's probably because he thinks that the vulvas he sees in porn are how they're all supposed to look. But just as the penises you see in porn are not representative of most guys, those porn vulvas that are just a visible slit and nothing else are not representative of most women. Not all guys are immature and ignorant about normal female anatomy. You're better off without this guy.

    • I am afraid it disgusted him because i have visible pussy lips.. they are not big, i think small, but now i feel i am disgusting. Its not pussy like you see in porn :(

    • You're NOT disgusting! 🙋‍♂️

  • are you pierced?

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