Why does he still NEED porn?

Why would my guy after 8 years of being in a relationship with me STILL need porn even though we have an active sex life and i am willing to try anything in the bedroom? Its gotten to the point where he basically can't “get off” during sex with me or it takes a long long time
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  • I shall join the chorus that he's addicted.

    And my additional Opinions:

    1) he doesn't need porn. Hence with efforts, uou can help him free from it.

    2) watching porn and believing the act is like watching Fast and Furious and believe you can do Tokyo Drift.

    If he indeed hopes his sex life is like porn, then there is something very wrong with him.

    He may need counseling. Perhaps a counselor is needed.

    3) on your part, NEVER give in to his "unnatural" demand for sex, particularly those you know are from porn.

    Just like you won't "drift" up or down a multistorey carpark, you succome to his dare.

    Perhaps watch his favorite with him and tell him you dislike and can never fulfill that act may wake him up.

    4) demand him to give you a lot more natural foreplay. If he refuses, then no penetration.

    In this way, he has to learn from scratch how to satisfy you, not always you satisfying him, which is the crux of porn.

    Good luck and be patient. But TBH, I see red flag in your relationship. 😥

Most Helpful Guy

  • It can be an addiction. Chances are it always has been for him. I wouldn't say he needs it, but better that he can't stop. It's a fine line perhaps, but it's like any other addiction. No matter how good you are in bed or your willingness to try new things, even if we want to stop (and I am sure he does) - without the right support (or therapy) he won't be able to. I guess it comes down to the why... it could be an escape, it could be to fulfill something in his brain that he can't fulfill with you, but I don't think it's malicious. Others here are right, if you're in love, then sit down and have a caring conversation... don't judge or accuse, that will make it worse for both of you. If you give him your support to overcome, and you truly mean it, then I guarantee you you both can work through this together. But if you don't talk about it, it will fester and you'll feel more and more like you already do, and he'll stop enjoying sex with you altogether - further driving a wedge.

Most Helpful Girl

  • That's a huge red flag. I'd be really worried. Both for his mental health and the sucess of the relationship

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  • He's addicted

  • Porn is like crack, it's addicting.
    He needs to find another way to reward himself, me personally I buy a new game if I stay away and try to find a new addiction haha

  • Honest answer to an honest question. Its an addiction. He needs help. Its hard to admit you have a problem. Unfortunately its a common issue for men. Although we don't like to admit it. At my worst i was doing it with myself 3-5 times a day. Talk to him. Tell him you're concerned. Don't make him feel bad or ashamed but just be open with him. Addiction is a hard thing to deal with. If he's open to it suggest he seek counseling.

  • It could be for many reasons. An added form of stimulation, just something he enjoys to help him relax or take his mind off things, really could be a number of things. Have you asked him?