Are you ok with your partner`s sexual past?

[ragequeen]

My boyfriend was really honest about his sexual past from the beginning and I`m glad he didn`t choose to hide anything from me. He has had a lot of women in his life and acted really insecure, but he explained it was because he was at a really low point in his life and he didn`t meet any women he really liked. I was almost a virgin when I met him (had only one sexual partner before him and never been very sexual until I met him), and he really respects me for that. He totally respects me in the bedroom and from what he has told me from the way he used to be, he has really changed and become a gentleman.

How about you? Are you comfortable with your partner`s sexual history? Do you know about it?

[kaylaS91]

We both know about each other's sexual track records because we were really good friends first.

I'm 100% comfortable with his sexual history because, well.. it's in the past. Our views on sex and what it means within a relationship are the same since we started dating so what happened before then is of little concern to me.

[Anonymous]

I’ve always felt that it doesn’t matter how many people my partner has slept with, as long as he wasn’t really hurting anyone? If he promised girls the world to get them into bed - then obviously that’s not cool. If he just went out with the boys and hooked up with girls etc then fair play lad. I’m glad you had a good time haha.
My current has slept with a fair amount of girls in the past - on nights out, holidays etc. But he’s only had 3 ‘relationships’, myself included. It would freak me out more if a guy told me he has had loads of ‘relationships’ because in the back of my mind, I’d be thinking ‘there’s a reason they all haven’t worked out’ or that he can’t be that emotionally mature to of had so many relationships/ bounced from one to another.
Im struggling to explain what I mean haha. Basically (and for example):
* Slept with 25 girls - not an issue
* Claims to of had 25 ‘relationships’ - red flag. Haha

[Jjpayne]

I'd prefer to be open with each other... The hard part is knowing how to talk about your past life, do you or are you allowed to? To say to a girl, last time I was here I was with Susan or for her, last time I was here I was with Billy... At what point is it a sharing experience and at what point is it a jealous experience? ...

I think sharing you and your former partners past with you current partner can be healthy but you just have to smartly place it to enhance the experience you are having in the moment by sharing your past experience with the one you currently love vs. Taking away from the experience by making it all about your former partner

[Lliam]

I don't expect a resume from my partner, nor do I need to read a full bio on her life. I am not interested in knowing her sexual past and I wouldn't want a partner who wanted to know about mine. Such people are immature and insecure.

I trust my own judgement. I will assess her character and values based on what I see.

I'll also say that having had sex in the past is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, it's a badge of honor. I would stay away from someone who didn't have a sexual past. It would mean that they have issues.

[Lizzzzz288283]

I don’t think it’s really any of my business about my boyfriend’s sexual past I mean it’s in the past what could I even do about it lol.

[socksguy]

I have known about my partners... not every detail... and I think you have to be okay with it... if you're not, then you'll noever be okay with them as a person. In general, people change over time, especially as we get older and experience things that mold us. Our pasts are our pasts... and they shape us to who we are today.

[Paris13]

He had a Small One, hun. lolxx

[katiesmuff]

I'm sure I don't know the extent of my husbands sexual history before I got in the picture and I have no issues with that. What counts is how he is with me and after 7 years of marriage I couldn't love him more. He knows very little about my entire past either and he has never made any effort to ask me about it.

[centerline]

yes i am comfortable... and i like hearing about their sexual past. its kinda hot...

[Aliceinwonderland22]

Sure, he doesn't have one XD

[CamilaP]

My boyfriend said he had sex with 6 girls before we got together. I'm okay with it but I also just don't think about it.

[HeadCase1]

How old is your boyfriend it seems a lot of different girls if he is young. Did you have any experience before him either with boys or girls?

[CamilaP]

@HeadCase1 He's 17. Yes I had experiences with both a guy and girls before we got together.

[Gavilar1]

I don't think anyone has a right to judge a sexual past, aslong as you don't shame people who are at zero or a hundred

[Levin]

Like most things I'm quite ambivalent about this. I think people should explore and enjoy their sexuality. But also, if a girl has slept with too many men, especially in a context outside of a relationship, it makes me kind of disgusted. I just think STD's. I just think it's about standards, also. I could have slept with quite a few women in my life. I said no though, because I wasn't into them beyond sex.

[likelyOK]

As long as I know they are clean and I have a commitment from them I don’t care. In the cases were it is not “official” I can be insecure. I’m not insecure to be compared to a lot of women, or if they are pretty but if the women he was with are trashy IT REALLY bothers me because it makes me feel he has less value and also I like to be special so that makes me feel he is not chosey. 😤

[Miristheiss]

My wife was a virgin.

[just_a_potato]

My boyfriend is actually a virgin as well but even if he had 5 women under his belt I wouldn't mind as long as he was clean and I was the only one he was seeing.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I'm okay with it if it's truthful, but I'm not okay with it if it's dishonest.

[Angieeebabieee]

Idgaf... just make sure you're clean... past is past

[Agape93]

The parts where it was consensual, absolutely. The rest, no, I want to kill the fuckers.

[Bowdabra]

yeah i sure am

[Kilapan]

sometimes I think it's better not to know so much.

[JustinTheGreat]

My husband told me he’s been with 40-50 people. He didn’t tell me the number for a while because he was embarrassed but he always told me it was a higher number. I was surprised when he told me but It didn’t affect how I feel about him.
If anything I like how experienced he is because the sex is amazing lmao

[tasleen]

My partner has no sexual past lol

[speeds7]

Ahahah 😄

[tasleen]

Yesss

[Makeushiver]

It would be stupid to not be okay since there is nothing either of you can do about it. The more experience either man or woman has had the better lover they usually are.