Guys if you really like a girl and she has sex with you on the first date, would you lose interest in her?

[Simplismilez]

[MrOracle]

By the way you phrased your question, I'm not sure you understand what happens - what the risk is (my apologies if that's a poor assumption on my part) - so I'm going to clarify it.

The assumption here is that the woman is hoping for a relationship to ultimately come out of the date or series of dates. If you're just looking for casual sex or a friends with benefits relationship, then having sex on the first date doesn't put anything at risk. But if in fact you ARE hoping for a relationship, then, yes, having sex on the first date is working against that goal.

Why? Because being in a relationship requires the man to be emotionally vulnerable - and this is not something men are used to being or allow themselves to be if it can be avoided. As such, most men are VERY careful about being emotionally vulnerable, and, usually after making a few mistakes, learn to only allow themselves to be emotionally vulnerable to women who they feel they can trust deeply - people less likely to hurt him.

How do men measure this? One important way is whether or not that woman has and respects boundaries. Can she set boundaries, and can she enforce those boundaries, even if that means missing out on some fun or denying "the feels" that she might have in the moment? If the answer is "no", then guys will usually cross that girl's name off of their "relationship material" list, which means the best she's going to get after that is a place on the "casual sex" list. And once your name is crossed off, it's crossed off forever.

You can argue reasons why this isn't fair, or it's sexist, or whatever, but that doesn't matter - this is what men do, because it's what in men's best interests, and you aren't likely to get men to change this - or if you do change this in some men, you'll have turned those men into the kind of men you aren't attracted to anyway.

As a woman, you need to figure out what you want out of a guy before you decide to sleep with him - or even go on a date with him really - because decisions you make, even on that first date, can have a deep impact on the rest of your relationship with that guy. If you make choices against your own best interests, don't be shocked when things don't work out well for you.

[AustinMan]

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[jack187625]

Nope.


Unless the sex was bad.

[On_the_other_hand]

No. I would just like to know if she jumps around, then I care. I'm entitled to not be interested just as girls are entitled to not be interested in fuck boys.

[Tobi_Lerone]

If there is a honest interest the answer is no. If the guys just sees it as a hookup and nothing and pretends interest. Then yes

[Ripper_E]

Most likely, but not necessarily

[Underworld158]

No why? what does her doing that makes her not appealing anymore? I mean if we just met at a cafe and She offered me sex then this would be weird and I would be weary. But if we really connected with eachothers and had a great fun date night and i had sex with her after that. Then this mean actually that we connected so well and we are a good match

[Redstang88]

No..

[jb12358]

I’ve done that a few times and the relationships developed differently to others where the sex happened later. A couple of them turned into a f’buddy type thing and another was pretty much all about the sex too and ended after a few months.

[oncpl]

It is enough to believe that she was too horny to control herself on the first date.

[Midjett]

Absolutely not. Why would I lose interest? If anything that makes her extremely interesting

[dudeinohio]

No. No problem with that.

[TonyBelanger]

DO NOT. I think she showed confidence, security in my arms. in my case, let's imagine, I would never do that to you. I would build a solid relationship of love, confidences, pleasure. for sure our sex life would be with more intense, lasting and pleasurable deliveries.

[Twalli]

I wouldn't have sex on the first date. If she wants oral or to just give me a blowjob, that's fine.

[GreenGold1992]

No, I think it'd be fair to give it more time, it might turn out she just wanted sex or she was so nervous that she wanted to leave a good first impression on me. I'd respect her more if she waited til like the 3rd date, but I think it may work differently for everyone.

[bamesjond0069]

Yes usually. Thats disgusting and not girlfriend behavior.

[Simplismilez]

Why is that disgusting?

[bamesjond0069]

Because it means she's a slut. Has low standards for sex.

[Simplismilez]

That's a pretty bold general assumption to make

[bamesjond0069]

Well not really. How well can you know someone on a first date? Low bar to pass.

[Simplismilez]

Well today's dating standards have changed. Most of the time people are talking a bit before actually going on a date. Now why is it a bad thing for a women to have sex on the first date but when a man pushes for it, it's totally normal?

[bamesjond0069]

Its not a "todays" standards thing. in my opinion its the primary reason marriage rate is so low. Using common sense who would buy the cow when the milk is free? Obviously far fewer men. 😂

[Simplismilez]

Okay dude. I'm sure you also think women should wait on you like a slave rather then a person. Your mindset is quite outdated

[bamesjond0069]

If its so outdated, why is it still very common? 😂

[Simplismilez]

That's like asking why racism is still around. It's clear that you are clearly a misogynist. Therefore your opinion has become null and void. You are incapable of thinking outside this tiny box and that's sad.

[bamesjond0069]

Well the obvious answer to your question is yes. I would and so would the vast majority of men in terms of a serious relationship.

[JamesBlackDragon]

I honestly would turn the sex down and then I would think she's easy I will probably still like her but I wouldn't allow myself to have a relationship with her

[Simplismilez]

What do you mean by easy though?

[JamesBlackDragon]

Easing to have sex with or putting out easily not looking for that in a partner I know some relationships start out that way and last forever just not something I think I would be into Also what would the scenario be if we been friends for a long time and one of us finally decide to become more than friends then sure

[abc--123]

Nope

[mrgspoter]

Me no

[call_me_S]

Nope. But i would feel weird if she did say afterwards that she just wanted sex and not a relationship

[billluc69]

not at all

[weston76]

Not at all