Hm. He might not know how to express himself. Men usually are ok once they have come.
On the other hand maybe he "defines" sex as the mere physical act and the talking, foreplay, snuggling after the climax as something separate, maybe he does not even know what you are talking about... What is perceived as part of "sex" and what is not depends a lot on individual expectations about sex.
Best is not to ask the question "how was it" but talk about phantasies. Start by telling something you fantasise about, that way it might me easier to get him to talk about what he wants. If he does not, at least you are (hopefully) one step closer to get your whish granted after telling him.
Also it is not your job to read his mind and make him happy. Nor is it his job to guess what you want. Some people are good at finding out, but in general, if people do not disclose to their partner what they want in bed, they must not complain if it is lacking.
Great sex is communication (not just a saying).
You need to find out what he really likes.
As a girl you really need to find out what you like. Men love a very passionate lover, and that passion needs to be real. So you need to discover what really turns you on during sex, soy can be genuinely excited. Guys will tell you when a girl says "I'm gonna cum" it is hard for the guy not to cum because just a girl saying that make it hard for him to not cum.
Great sex for a guy is experiencing their girl having great sex, it is a huge turn on. Same for girls too.
“Decent” I don’t like that word- It just never sits right with me it’s like an attempt to be polite and indirect when what u mean is that it wasn’t the worst nor was it the best lmao 😐
He means it was okay. At least he came. And I guess you did too.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Yeah it sounds like he enjoyed it but he feels it could have been better.
It doesn’t sound like he enjoyed it to me
It sounds like it's satisfactory but that there's a lot of room for improvement. How much variety is there in your sex life? Any kinks, particularly yours that aren't coming out?
It means he was not happy. If you liked it or not then talk. I think it is a big red flag what he said.
Means you were good, able to do the job required
the first mistake you made was asking him...
you need to be confident that you are doing it right, and sometimes the only way to do that is to have lots of sex with different people...
the second mistake you made is wondering what he means by what he said... if it was great he would have said so, but he will never tell you that you are bad in bed... up your game and change his opinion...
Wait wait wait if a guy has to ask you that or tell you that he's not talking to you if it's only decent then he needs to step up his game if he want it hot then he needs to make it that way,,, when he said it was decent I would have said really you think so,,, I thought it sucked. He is just a lazy mother f he's trying to guilt trip you to doing more for him make him show. You what good is
Stop asking him that. It would really turn me off. You know if the sex is good or not.
just ask him what he wants, if you have something you want him to be doing, it's your chance to tell him too!
Are you two just starting to have sex? Maybe you both are learning the others body and as time will tell, you will get better at it.
To say it was decent is kind of a mediocre put down to me. Basically is was okay, but nothing to really go after again.
Good is better, hopefully in time it will be great.
I doubt you are bad at sex.
It was our first time having sex
So why did he ask could he come back over and see me?
Probably because he is horny. Maybe the next times will be better. My concern is that is he a good guy? Or is he really shallow and rude to say the sex was 'decent'? Check him out before you commit. You don't want to be on here asking how to get rid of him if he is a douche.
Yea he thinks it’s mediocre and changed his answer to save ur feelings
Understandable
So why did he ask could he come back over and see me?
Sounds like he is just teasing you , his way of not letting you know it was amazing so you think next time you have sex with him you will do a better job , so he is just teasing you so you will want to do better next time around , Did he blow a load? Than you did an amazing job lol
Guess he's had better encounters🤷♀️ but pretty fucked of him to say
He was probably comparing it to someone else and felt it wasn't as good
I will be truthful with you I think some people expect the impossible when it comes to sex or anything sexually related and It's sad that a guy got to put a girl on the spot he forgets that girls are sensitive and they want to know things are good. I'm sorry about this situation.
Means it was okay, but could be better... much better
I'd say he wasn't impressed but didn't want to hurt your feelings
If you two really have something then you'll also have good communications, and your sexual relationship will improve with time and practice. Quit trying to make something out of something that's not there. And don't ask, 'how was it', ask 'what can I do to make it better?'
About a 6/10 on the old sex-o-meter.
"decent" means on the plus side of mediocre. Time to up your game. Also, don't go by what he says; he may be understating it. Watch him immediately after sex; see how he looks. Is he dazed and wonderous, grinning like an idiot and trying to catch his breath? You're having good sex! :)
mend don't tend to mean anything other than what they litterally said.
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