Question for the ladies?

[Anonymous]

I just got out of a long term relationship. At the end the sex was horrible. He was aggressive and disrespectful and rough. But it kind of ruined me. I don't ever want to have sex again. I know that's not normal. Has anyone experienced this? Does it go away? I'm in my 30s so I'm not weird about sex. I just don't want to now. When he left my first thought was about how relieved I was because I never had to sleep with him again. Any advice would be appreciated.

[Ciarle]

I'm sorry.
I have not been in this situation myself but a friend of mine did. She struggled with her next relationship to see sex as a normal and healthy thing. Talking about it and reading books of same situations, or about sexuality, and how to treat sexuality, helped her. I read some of the books with her too. She's doing better now, sometimes she still texts me about some fear or whatever, caused because of her ex, but she also knows she feels like this because of him, and knows that this is not how sex must feel, just something he caused. knowing that makes it easier for her to move on.
so if you need to talk about it, any books, etc, let me know!

[Asker]

I'm into reading books.

[AustinMan]

I'd give it some time. I suggest not dating and just focus on your career and your friends. With this pandemic, socializing isn't safe so just work on yourself, physically and emotionally, so you'll be ready when it's over to get back out there.

[Iron_Man]

Get back on your horse and try again no sex next time till marriage

[Asker]

I wish! I loved being married. I dont think it'll happen again tho. No sex until marraige? That's respectful and a bit old fashioned. 🙂

[Iron_Man]

Old fashioned hasn't anything to do with it

[Asker]

Responsibility? No child out of wedlock?

[Iron_Man]

Get married

[LiamSawyer]

You need to let me pleasure you.

[beatcoock]

You never want sex again or you don't want sex with him again?

[Asker]

Never want sex again. Well thats how I feel right now. I love being able to go to bed in sweats and not be groped and pinched and have my clothes pulled around.

[beatcoock]

You will get the right one who can handle you in your way baby... Wait for them

[Asker]

Thank you.

[MonicaWasylak33333]

It might be a good idea to attend some counseling

[Asker]

I know. But I hate counseling. 😟 I've been before for a different reason. She just let me cry and babble. No advice. It was weird to me.

[MonicaWasylak33333]

Well maybe try finding another center and therapist that could make you feel comfortable. It great when you feel you can trust and feel comfortable with the therapist