Why can I orgasm in one minute with vibrator but never with a dick?

To clarify I use a rabbit vibrator. It makes me cum so fast. I can also cum using my fingers on my clit but it takes a bit longer.

I have never been able to cum with a man :/ why?
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  • You and a large majority of women.

    Teach your partner to rub your clit during sex (if the position allows). Or find one who thinks it’s hot if you do, or who doesn’t mind a vibe during sex. (While he’s inside you, it feels good for him, too. You just want to avoid a guy who is going to mope about ‘not being enough’.)

    If you can tolerate stimulation after having an orgasm, you might be more susceptible to having a second from penetration. I’ve had partners who would cum from penetration after I gave them oral.

    Good luck!

Most Helpful Guy

  • The clitoris is stimulated during intercourse only indirectly, not directly. In and out of the pernis into the vagina moves the labia minora, and they stimulate the clitoris. Such stimulation is not enough for most women to bring them to orgasm. Hand stimulation of the clitoris during intercourse helps most women to reach orgasm. This can be done by your partner or yourself.
    My advice is to you stop using a vibrator, because it gives a strong stimulation of the clitoris, which is impossible to achieve by hand or during intercourse. When the clitoris and brain get used to such stimulation, then mild stimulation becomes bad and hardly leads to orgasm.

Most Helpful Girls

  • i can't during sex either!! but i have a vibrator i use and love. what my last two boyfriends used to do was either go down on me or use their fingers and get me off before having sex. you can show him what to do with his fingers and what you like. just relax and let it happen! plus, once i get off i get really wet so it works out when we go to have sex. goodluck!!

  • Maybe you're desensitized because you're used to the amped up, electrified penis. How can a regular one compete?

    Or it's psychological, and you are used to doing it on your own, not involving another person?

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • A dick just can't give the stimulation a vibrator can.

  • Likely because your man is totally ignoring your clit which for guys is not totally unusual.

  • You can try using it while having sex doggy position so you can stimulate your clitoris with the vibe. That is awesome.

  • Maybe because you use a rabbit could be your problem its not natural or you just have not found the right guy to satisfy you which is more likely the case I hear it all the time your the first guy to make me cum during intercourse not sure if it's a gift or what but am doing something right ano that much😅

  • The majority of women (me included) have extreme difficulty in experiencing an orgasm from penetration only, and can only get there from clitoral stimulation at the same time.

    • Footnote... I'm absolutely gobsmacked in reading all the guy's comments and noticing just how knowledgeable and correct they all appear to be regarding this subject! Well done guy's and keep up the good work.

    • When you have a small dick, you compromise by being overly prepared. We have the short man syndrome of the dick world.

  • If you ever find a guy with a dick that vibrates like a rabbit vibrator, please ask him if he has a brother for me. 😂

  • Most orgasms are clitoral. Your vibrator contacts it. A penis rarely does.

  • You probably desensitized urself, similar to how a guy can beat off too much and lose sensitivity to actual sex.

  • You are not alone. Most women don't orgasm from penetration alone.

  • I don't know. Why can't you

  • I've only had a serious orgasm with 1 guy... most guys just dont have the ability or talent.

  • Heh. I could explain this, but it's effort

    • I mean, effort that also requires knowing you and a few other bits of information, so not practical over the internet.

  • It's not new. With a cock you cannot just hit to the spot you want hitting. But a finger or tongue or toy can give you a orgasm in minutes...

  • The penis isn't stimulating the clit, and the guy cannot exactly move his penis in a way that is exactly what you need if you can cum from penetration if it does nothing for him.

  • Either he doesn’t know what he’s doing or he hasn’t had the proper equipment to get the job done.

  • probably because you have the inability to communicate with the guy. You haven't told him what to do or not to do

  • Because a viberator stimulates in a way a dick can’t

  • dk is not hitting the right spot try different things, maybe from behind or you on top

  • Because you are controlling your pleasure when you masturbate

  • You just answered your own question. Sounds like you don’t climax from direct penetration only. That’s most women. He should be rubbing your clit while penetrating, or you can rub yourself (that’s always sexy)! My woman is like that too and I always have to rub her clit while having sex for her to orgasm with me. I use a vibrating cock ring sometimes and I can be hands free and let it do the work on her clit while I can play with her breasts, or hold her hands down or whatever and do other things.

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