First of all that's where you were very much wrong. It is very much as business. Now unless you two are not in a relationship where sex is ever going to go on, it is very much his business. The amount of Partners you have sexually will affect him sexually equally as much as his will affect you. If you felt that it was never his business, then why did you decided to be dating him? He has every right to make a decision whether or not he wants to have a future with you based on that. Morals especially sexual Integrity is extremely important. That's why you took about this before you end up dating. Not after. When a person has much to hide, that usually means they're not trustworthy as partners. If you two are not compatible and you know that, best to end it now so you won't end up hurting each other further.
Well yes I agree. Even though he said I don’t have to answer I still want to answer but I’m scared. This is the whole reason why I made this post. If I’m going to tell him I’m going to be honest about how many partners I’ve had. I’m not going to lie about it. I’m just scared, that’s all.
Well this is why you don't have sex before marriage. I tell people all the time everybody has the right to make judgments. People are too afraid to be honest and authentic, this is how to end up with problems. As long as you are going to tell him, you have to accept the fact that not everybody is going to like the fact that you had whatever Partners you had. But now if he still sticks around even after you tell him, he can't get upset about it later and say he regrets it. Because now you got to hold him accountable for knowing. If he says that you don't have to answer, then he's more concerned about pleasing you than he is about his own integrity and you may have to be careful with that. Because they usually the quickest ones to want to end the relationship, or God forbid cheat with someone else. So if you really feel that way seriously rethink about having a relationship. This is why you don't make decisions you know you're going to regret in future. As long as you understand that now, you are going to have to tell him anyway.
so if i'm 24 and when i was 18 i went through a rough patch with myself and slept with a bunch of guys but was always safe sexually, 7 years later i should still be looked down upon for it? SEVEN years. you discuss morals, but as you grow you learn and understand right from wrong better. that's just like saying you should still be called immature for sneaking out of your house at 16. that day of age is over and you learn and grow. if you used to not have very good morals involving sex, but you're healthy and safe, and learned and grew over the years, you should still have that held against you? when would it not be held against you? when you're 30? 40? 50?
It’s none of his business for one. And two, it doesn’t ultimately matter. If they can’t get over the fact your shared your bed with a few people, he’s not worth your time.
You should tell him the truth. Then if he accepts you, you will have a much stronger relationship.
it's a horrible idea to ask this; even worse to answer.
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Yea but I feel like he won’t like my answer. What if he thinks it’s too much
You can't change the past.
@socksguy yea that is true but what if he thinks differently or something.
Guys like to hear that they're your first. Or almost your first. If it's not true, it's none of their business right? So tell them what they want to hear!
True but I don’t want a relationship that’s filled with lies. I want to be honest
Yes no lies but it's not a crime to shade the truth
I have had sex with 10 guys.
Seven
My sister taught me this response to many questions and it’s a great one. It immediately puts people on the defensive.
“why do you ask?”
Just say its personal and you don't kiss and tell.
Tell him you've had 6, that's the magic number
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