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Would it be a good idea for a Virgin to hook-up with someone from Tinder?

I'm a Virgin. There is this guy I'm talking to. We've been talking for like a month now and I feel like we caught a vibe but we have a lot of sexual tension. We haven't met up yet and I suggested we do go out on a date to get a vibe on if he is worth f*cking or not. Which means it can end in it going down or us going our separate ways. However, he says that we will be f*cking or else he is not going to talk to me anymore. But here is the catch: First of all, he threatens me like that all the time but keeps coming back to talk to me. And I have a feeling that this guy has caught feeling for me. For example, he says he likes talking to me so he wants to FaceTime me like everyday ( not only at night) and if I don't see his message he will actually call me and he tries to make me jealous. I don't mind this. He also calls me his Junebug. . . cause I am.
Maybe, I'm overexaggeranting but I have a feeling he likes me. What do you think? And I want to f*ck but I'm also nervous/scared because I'm a Virgin.
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Superb Opinion

  • Drop. Guys who are desperate to fuck are shitty. In bed and in person. That has been proven as often as Newton's law of gravity.
    Do not believe you can judge a person by texting only- nobody I have met can.
    He appears to be especially desperate. If he was only a regular desperate loser he would be fucking cheaper chicks by now and not come back to you. But he does not appear to have that option.
    Pay for a quality dating site and do several face-to-face dates without sex or even commiting. Be hard to get, if they care to try hard and invest it is likely they actually want you and will also try to make the sex a pleasurable experience for you.
    A guy like this will just dump his load, be gone and you will stay back sad and frustrated. You will not even gain any experience from that (other tan a bad one) and will learn nothing (other than not to repeat that) - only a guy who cares about more than getting laid will actually care enough to show you things and empathise with you.
    Best bet is serious dating - you can start online but should allow yourself several face-2-face dates before deciding.
    Being a virgin does not really matter for serious dares. You will get into it quickly and if the guy cares he will be happily invest some time into showing you. Virgins can actually be very hot.

    Side note: If you just want to be done with the first time I seriously suggest you auction off your virginity. You will be several 10,000$ richer (prices have reached several millions, google it) and you will probably have a way better experience than with that total loser on tinder. A rich guy must have *some* skills to have become that rich and he is likely an older gentleman who will also pay for a nice meal and hotel...

Most Helpful Guy

  • Get the fuck out of there.

    He is emotionally abusive and will be using your naivety and vulnerability against you. Do not go out with anyone under the precondition that sex will happen. Your consent and safety is paramount all the way up to and through the act. He will only grow bolder and more abusive.

    Report. Block. Ban. Whatever it takes. Get this guy away from you and hold your virginity like it's the the Hope Diamond. Do not give it freely.

Most Helpful Girls

  • First of all, respect yourself by not looking to how yourseld just to "get rid" of your virginity. It is a part of You. Secondly, you shouldn't even be on Tinder that's a hook-up app for a reason. Yes others will use it for all kinds of things, but the main premise of it is that it's a hook-up app. This guy just wants to screw, and by him threatening you the way he is threatening you, he may God forbid rape you. You better cut all ties with this person immediately and have his butt reported. Not a good idea at all. Would you own parents approve? If not, why should you do It? You're not going to just go get lose your virginity, you may God forbidget raped , and the one that's going to be responsible is technically going to be you. all the red flags.

  • "However, he says that we will be f*cking or else he is not going to talk to me anymore" This is a red flag from someone trying to pressure you into sex. If you wanna hook up, you'll find someone on Tinder, but definitely not that guy you're currently talking to.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Just be smart of it and have protected sex. Also best to let some people know what you are doing and where you will be meeting him. That way if things do take a turn, you have some people looking out for you.

  • No find a guy you really like and who likes you too, I dont think a Tinder hookup is suitable for this purpose.

  • I don't understand how some of you are so good at making poor decisions that you will regret for the rest of your life. Temporary pleasure... instant gratification for what? I will never understand this.

  • Disgusting. Your virginity isn't a condition or malady that needs to be fixed or cured.
    Dating sites are for losers.

  • Too serious too soon.

    Date for a least a month, in real life.

  • If he keeps threatening you, don’t do it. Huge red flag.

  • He's a player. Run away!

  • Since he said you be fucking, it pretty much means your a waste of his time unless he's gonna get some action. Definitely doesn't sound like the kind of people id date. I'd rather be alone then with trash like that. Also if you do end up fucking him you'll join the hordes of women who regretted their first time.

  • His threatening you is a definite red flag. I'd let him go. He sounds like an asshole out only for one thing... to crack a virgin.

  • Threatening and coming back is a players tactic. They make you feel sorry for them so they can get what they want. After they get it you will have a hard time to get a hold of him or he will ghost.

  • Does he know you are one? Quite honestly I get why you want to, but are nervous. Maybe tell him you want to, but since you're a virgin you are also nervous. If he can't accept that you are nervous, sex is probably not a good idea with him.

  • I've thought of doing the same thing myself several times when I felt frustrated

    One time I actually matched with someone on Tinder who was interested in sex, but I couldn't go through with it. I was honest and told her that's not what I was looking for. If I'm gonna lose my virginity, it has to be with someone I've dated and know well enough, not some complete stranger.

    • Good for you, man. You made the right choice.

  • wait for the right guy. This one isn't right. You can do better.

  • I believe that he is just looking to punch your "V" card.

  • This is dumb... move on

  • The threatening seems rather juvenile and selfish to me...

  • No, hell no don't use that at all

    • He sounds like he's going to try even if you say no

    • Need to find a different type of guy that won't care just happy for your company maybe be a good place to start

  • Well, If you want to fuck and he wants to fuck , You people can fuck each other!!!

  • No don't lose your virginity that way. You should have sex for the first time with the person you really love

  • I wouldn't

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