Told my wife about my cuckold desires. I don't think she is keen. Should I give up on this fantasy?

[Anonymous]

Firstly I should say I love my wife dearly which is why I guess I was able to share with her my inner most secret desires. After bottling it up for over 12 years, I finally told my wife about my cuckold desires. Well she didn't say no she didn't say yes but she said I should have told her years ago as we have been married 12 years.
So I pushed her a little more the next day.
She went mad. Said it was sick said it was disgusting and she feels like she doesn't know the man she married. The next morning, she apologised for over reacting and we kissed and cuddled in bed before the kids jumped in to bed with us as they usually do. Last weekend, we had sex for the first time in over 2 months. I had cuckold thoughts whirling around my head so had a bit of difficulty getting hard, but I got there in the end. Just wondering should I give up on this but maybe concentrate on a milder form of kink or a female led relationship that she could be comfortable with.

[SueShe]

Basically, you want her to be something like a prostitute except that she does not get paid for it.

What kind of a person that pretends to love his wife wants her to go with other guys and you accept the fact that you would most likely jeopardize her health and possibly her life?

I understand that your spouse got mad. If I was in her place, I would simply have filed for divorce because what you ask of her is nothing less than a total breach of trust, faith, self esteem and a total humiliation. You see her basically solely as an object to satisfy your sexual perversion. You could not care less about her mental wellbeing for asking her to be a slave of your sexual deviances.

You will not leave her in peace until she has given in on one of your fantasies. How will you explain to your children that you are seeing their mother solely as an object to satisfy your sexual desires?

I have less than no understanding for such a behavior. Perhaps you should seek professional help before this situation gets out of hand. Seriously!

[yucychan]

Everyone has their own sexual preferences.
However, if your wife has mentioned that she finds the idea disgusting and unbearable, I hope you can respect her wishes and not force her anymore.
Tbh, I have the same opinions as her with regards to your cuckold desires. I think you are sick and disgusting, for even having such thoughts. People who enjoy seeing their spouses with others do not deserve their spouses.

Of course, that is my own opinion.

[tinman204]

The opinions that were here before mine strike me as the type of judgement that anyone with a closeted kink secretly fears after opening up about it. You probably kept your kink hidden because of this fear but finally mustered up the strength to reveal it to the person you trust most, only to have your fear suddenly realized. Worse, now there's all this online judgement too. Some pretty brutal comments here. I imagine you're feeling pretty devastated right now. I'd recommend you find a kink-friendly community as an outlet for better advice than this troll train here.

Last point, I'm doubtful she'll come around on this one given her reactions. Even if it isn't for her, hopefully she can some day at least acknowledge and accept that cuckolding turns you on without making you feel terrible. We all have our differences. Hell, some people still think oral sex is disgusting. Their loss.

[Cellestial]

If you care about her forget about your fantasy or else she will leave you. You're so degrading her when you tell her you want to share her with someone else. A woman gets jealous and mad as hell to the thought of her just smiling to another woman and if that proves something it proves that she cares about him at the same time she expects the same from him, she wants him to be jealous and protective over her. So you did a huge mistake by telling your wife you want another man to fuck her with your approval! She didn't literally say it but she meant that she wouldn't even marry you if she knew about that 12 years ago. I'm not sure how you can fixe what you did but all what I can suggest you to do is to never bring that topic again!

[TruthBringer]

Good job, you've pretty much let her see you as a weak 'beta' male. I wouldn't be surprised if she starts treating you differently

[Avicenna]

Yes, give them up and seek counseling.

[Iron_Man]

What is that?

[Jessie91331]

Just my opinion but if she wanted to be with a bitch, she would be lesbian or bi.

[joeldalton]

You really need some mental help.

[MountAverage]

Well, your big mistake was to never bring it up in the early stages of your relationship. I mean, you should at least have tested the waters by bring up the topic in a general sense.

[TonyBelanger]

No, but go ahead very calmly. I have had sex with many cookold couples, due to the enormous thickness of my penis, I have always been very requested by couples in which wives are brave or where husbands have fantasies about their wives being possessed by something monstrous. do not give up on your dreams!

[Jmmmfi4]

Lol I can't believe you actually asked your wife this hoping for a good ending

[Anonymous]

You are fucking with her head. You have kids and are supposed to be their protector. Now you want your wife to fuck other guys and whore her out. Women get hot based on emotional connection and you are breaking it. If you get your way she will be laying in a bed getting fucked by some guy while she cries. Bad move and selfish.

You should do what she is comfortable with and forget adding in other people. Forget it or you may also find that she moves on, either with a new lover or out of disgust. And the rules you put in place, from what I have read, go almost immediately so forget setting parameters too. Many fantasies should stay fantasies. Even when lived, they aren’t what one expects or often wants.