Girls, Why is a relationship considered a friendship thing if there’s no sex? Do we really need sex for it to be considered serious?

[Anonymous]

People can have sex and still be unhappy.

[btbc92]

It's not. A lot of immature people just think that because they believe in premarital sex. That's why you wait until marriage to have sex, because you don't want to be involved with a person that you going to be stuck with for the rest of your life, because you chose to do these things sexually outside of marriage. And what I mean by being stuck with a person for the rest of your life, I mean spiritually. Because the moment you do these things, you creating ties with a person by becoming one with them. A lot of people thinking where they assume it's okay to have sex before marriage, and then when they finally get married they can't even hold a marriage because they don't understand the solid foundation of it. That's the major problem. And even worse they don't understand the significance of it. Because Society has been teaching that sex is just about pleasure and you can do whatever it is that you want to do but just be safe about it. At the end of the day what difference does it really make? You have to be safe with everything. But safe sex is by getting married, and getting married to the right person doing the right kind of thing.

Again, they just want an excuse to have sex for marriage. And they just want an excuse to fulfill their own selfish sexual gratifications. Nothing else good comes from it.

[btbc92]

And I'm glad you pointed out about people can have sex and still be unhappy. That is sadly effect that a lot of people don't want to admit. A lot of them are not happy sexually and their relationships, because they think that sex is something to be glorified and it's not. We should be using sex to glorify God. But people don't understand that that's what sex is supposed to be about. They only have sex for themselves.

[AmandaYVR]

The desire and intention to eventually have sex is probably what sets them apart.
Some people are actually asexual (zero interest in it, permanently) but that is rare.
Typically people who are not having sex have some explainable reason why not - waiting for marriage, waiting to see how they feel about each other, some sort of physical problem, etc.
No desire feels like something is missing to many people.
Again, there are exceptions, such as hidden hostility, 'dead bedroom', boredom with each other... but in general it'd be atypical to have no desire for it and/or the other person. Some people believe 'if they ain't gettin' it from you, they're getting it from somewhere.' That may or may not be true. But regardless, it probably has to be discussed, what's going on, or what the future plans are.