Yes, I was kidnapped and molested as a kid. I was 5 at the time and he was 16 and had a established history of molesting kids. Found out that he had a really messed up home life and a mess of a mothers. So I'm pretty sure his experience growing up is what drove him to it. Having a drug addict parent, that brings random guys home can cause a entire host of issues. Pretty sure he was himself by at least one guy his him brought home. So as ugly as it seems he was living out what his life experience thought had taught him.
I did carry around a lot of anger towards him and his mother for years. Also had deeply rooted PSTD for years and that created its own host of issues. Therapy did help me deal with the PSTD aspect of it. But the entire experience shifted my fight and flight to pretty much fight and fight harder. Also saying I have a deeply rooted hate for people that commit sexual assault is a understatement. Don't care if its a man or woman that does it or if its viewed as minor assault by some. If it is proven that the person is guilty, lock them up and throw away the key.
god... that's terrifying, I'm truly sorry that happened to you and I hope you're doing better now.
I am. It did take some therapy and major work. But I have worked through it. Also I do use it as a towel to stop the cycle of misinformation and minimizing that comes with sexual assault. Some people tend to think that sexual assault isn't a big issue, because they have had the idea that it isn't beaten into their head to the point that it went from a assumption to the truth in their mind. Also it one of those experiences that you can never honestly understand tell you have been through it. So there is no way to fully understand it without going through it yourself. But they still feel that it isn't not a big deal or accuse people of making their experience worse then it really was. They go straight to minimizing it like they know everything about it. When it can't be further from the truth. Also I do talk about it because it helps keep me from getting too angry at those who spread misinformation and minimize it. The hope that some of them will get it, helps me suppress the urge to completely flip out at them.
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Sorry to hear about your experience. I've been assaulted at bars by women. I've had woman grab my ass when I wasn't looking. I mean really grab it where you jump a foot off the ground. I also once at a bar had a woman grab my crotch and I wasn't happy with it. First she actually came in and it hurt and demanded I get hard for her.
It sounds funny, it was for my friends, and I'm ok but it was demeaning. She was horribly drunk and I almost had to shove her to let me go. I was thankful that a female friend of mine helped me. As a man people don't think it's a big deal but it was tough for me to handle her while she had me literally by the balls.
I don't mind if anyone laughs. It was ridiculous.
Assault is assault. There is nothi y funny about a man getting assaulted or harrassed by the opposite sex and I encourage you to speak out about it. It is nothing shameful for you to speak up about what happened to you, and that was not appropriate, and she had no right to do that. None of them did. Thank God for your friend that cared about you. If I was to ever hear or see some women doing that to my male friend, I don't care if I'm dating him or not, that lady better step off. Not hurting my friends!
@btbc92 you're right it isn't funny and I shouldn't have implied that. Thank you for your reply. You're a good friend as well as person I can tell.
Yes I did. And for most vocations, I created appropriately as I was taught to do. Say something, report it. Sadly, my last one I did nothing and it still bugs me to this day. I rather face jail time than deal with that feeling again.
Most situations, I handled it appropriate * Getting sick of these typos
Ooh that’s disgusting of them:(! I’ve never had that happen to me. Men do leave unwanted comments or look at my boobs which is intimidating
I bet that is... Be safe out there!
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Been grabbed by teachers, other students, random women of all ages in public, and if I confront them about it or remove their hand, they'll try to flip it that I assaulted them, either verbally or physically. This has happened many, many times. One summer, it was nearly every time I went somewhere. Everywhere was grabbed, and women assumed I wanted it because I was a guy, or it was a hot day and I wore a tank top, thus marketing myself. Believe that it's not just women being grabbed by men.
I'm so sorry you experienced that... it must be so frustrating for you.
It would be frustrating for anyone, and I am positive other men deal with this, but stay silent because they're expected to. If only people learned to keep their hands to themselves, as they should have learned prior to speaking.
I think so, some women are also grabbing men's asses, but at least it didn't happen in a train.
I do remember that happening in a marriage ceremony. Not a fan of that feeling.
Yes many years ago...
Did you report it?
No, but it makes me furious that it happens to other people, how people have no respect for personal space and boundaries is beyond me.
Sure I did and everyone thought it was "cute". I think she was disgusting
Yeah.. I'm sure when you're a man being assaulted by a woman take it less seriously then they should. Sorry that happened to you, she was disgusting for doing that to you.
I wasn't even a "man" so it was kind of hard for me to explain things that time. It's just that if there are many female babysitters out there, chances there are many unaware kids being technically harassed by them.
Oh god... that's so terrible... I'm so so so sorry. that must be scarring.
No but I was sexually harassed by a woman at a job I worked at and honestly I should have made a police report on it but I didn't
Sorry that happened to you!
Thanks honey but I moved on to better things
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No I have not. But I have talked to many women who have. The reactions vary from freezing via yelling to pepperspray / beating the shit out of him. Depends on your self-defense capabilities.
Not quite as bad; but I have been pantsed before. I confronted my assailant; I was terrified of him as he was a taller jock and I was a scrawny nerd. However I was so angry I couldn't help but tell him off.
Omg being pantsed is the worst! Sorry, bet that sucked
Thanks.
You literally get private train cars just for women that are not crowded even during rush hour because of this.
Also you know what's more common women faking this To try to get the man to give them money or if they do not arrest them Japan even has insurance for men to buy in case this happens it's so common.
The private cars are only during the morning rush hour, from first train until 9am. The times I experienced were at night. Also, I was so nervous and surprised I didn’t say anything. I just had to sit there with some gross ass mans hand on my ass. Thanks for your opinion, clearly you’re the expert even though you don’t live here.
Yes the only time people would be near you the rest of the time your plenty of Room I studied in Tokyo for a year you putting much put yourself in a situation where this happens probly you get off on it
Did you ride the train during the night rush hour? I live right by shibuya, if you ride the trains near shibuya around 6-8 o’clock at night when all the salary men are going home. It’s crowded as hell, what am I supposed to do, not ride the train? Walk home?
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