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He doesn't want a baby, but insists on using the pull out method. Does this make sense? Does this method work that well?

Hi my boyfriend and I are 26 and I want a baby and he doesn't. He has a kid from a previous relationship and he doesn't want another, but he uses the pull out. And turns around and constantly lecture me about pregnancy and how he doesn't want a baby and how miserable pregnancy is and how it ruins your body etc. I've mentioned condoms and he brushes me off, he knows I'm not on birth control and the reasons and he mentions a vasectomy but hasn't went to get one. This doesn't make any sense and I'm contemplating ending the relationship. What should I do?
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Superb Opinion

  • He just don't like the feeling of wearing a condom, it makes sex less enjoyable for him, and in the end of the day the risk is mostly his, because he is the one who don't want a baby, not you, his lecture don't have much effect on you, and the fact that he already has a kid from a previous relationship also don't have much effect on you, he put himself in a vulnerable position, where you can clearly pull a baby trap on him, though his previous girlfriend failed to keep him around despite the fact that she has a baby from him, and that's the main risk on your part, unless you are okay with being a single mom. As for the pull out method, well it worked so far with you, but looks like it failed with his previous girlfriend, and looks like you hope that the pull out method would fail with you too.

    https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/TheBabyTrap

    • As much as I love him, I don't want to end up pregnant by him. And you're right. I've had plenty of chances to trap him and because of his carelessness I could've done it no problem a long time ago but I'm not that desperate for a child. At the beginning of our relationship he said he wanted more kids, now he doesn't and I'm struggling to wrap my mind around it

    • Well you are 26, so you still have some time, but you better not let him waste too much of your time if don't plan to give a baby, yes he already have a kid, but you don't, you willing to sacrifice your motherhood for him? I don't think so. So he lied to you about wanting more kids, then if you trap him it would be more karmic, being carelessness is one thing, but to lie about such important relationship issue.

      tvtropes.org/.../MyBiologicalClockIsTicking

Most Helpful Guy

  • No the pullout method is not a contraceptive. Also there is this magical thing called pre cum. So if he really doesn't want kids tell him to wrap it up or you get the pill/implant.

    Also if you want kids and he doesn't i would say it might be time to break up assuming you two are serious

Most Helpful Girls

  • If you’re not on the same page with having children, then the relationship is on shaky ground to begin with. It’s a pretty important life goal to disagree on. I would definitely be re-evaluating the relationship. As for the pullout method, I’ve used it quite a bit with boyfriends over the years and have never gotten pregnant. However, it’s statistically only 78% effective, so I think I was probably just lucky. There are plenty of stories of girls who have gotten pregnant with it.

    • Thank you. At the beginning of the relationship he wanted a baby and now it's like I'm talking to a completely different person

    • There’s no shame in deciding that a relationship isn’t working. You don’t want to waste child bearing years with someone who doesn’t want a family with you. I would have a serious talk with him to find out what has changed since the beginning of the relationship. What made him decide he doesn’t want children with you when he previously did? If it’s something you can fix, then great. If it’s something you can’t, then I would move on.

  • He is Taking his Chances with His---Pull Out Method. Pre Cum, Hun, Can be Detrimental.
    Maybe it is Time for You To--PULL OUT. xx

    • Thanks to gag. xx

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  • What do you think he'll do when you end up pregnant?

  • My friend got his girlfriend pregnant using the pull-out method. Not very effective. Pre-cum can get you pregnant, or he could mess up sometime and not pull out in time. Either way, stop doing that. It's extremely irresponsible

  • You are going to have one, and I am guessing that D-bag will leave!! Pull-out is a JOKE!! Pre-cum, in a shower, can get her pregnant, under the right conditions!!
    Plan to get pregnant, with a fool like that, and KNOW he is going to leave you!!

  • Will keep it short:
    DUMB IDEA, SUPER RISKY and IRRESPONSIBLE.

  • Move on

  • Studies show that a significant percentage of guys have active sperm in their pre-ejaculatory fluid. Even if that weren't the case, do you want to leave up to this guy to pull out before he cums as your method of preventing pregnancy? Really?

  • Get on the pill and let him do what he wants.

  • Pull out method definitely works but guy has to be careful to cum out of pussy. After he is released, he can again penetrate into pussy and give sexual pleasure to partner.

    • Pull out method definitely DOESN'T work. Don't spread misinformation

    • @RemoErdosain I have been practicing it for the last four years. So it is based on experience: no "misinformation".

    • That it worked for you doesn't mean it works in general

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  • Why aren't you using birth control?

  • Pre-cum can get you pregnant.

    He's not very wise..

    • Master. xx

    • @Paris13 Ahaha what? xD

    • lol @juxtapose Your NEXT level. xx

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  • Is he serious about getting a vascetomy.

  • Ask him how effective pulling out has been in the past for him? And then point at his kids. You should probably leave as kids are an important thing for people to agree upon in a relationship.

  • End it! He obviously is an irresponsible idiot. Pull out is just horrible for contraception. In case you don't want to be the single mother of a baby having 50% idiot-genes, I would run - and run soon!

  • You will end up pregnant. I used pullout and she had a miscarriage.

  • Have you considered dating a grown up?

    • 😂🤦‍♀️

  • It’s risky but not as risky as just letting go, you could go years and not get pregnant if he always pulls out in time but eventually it could happen

    • letting go?

    • Cumming inside

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