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If he gives me a pass is it still wrong?

My husband and I are in a great relationship but he is always leaving due to his career field for months on end. Recently he told me it would be ok to get intimate with other men while he was gone in fact he said it was a turn on. I just don't want him to be mad at me if I do it. We have fantasized about me being with my first black or Hispanic guy. There are a couple of guys from our neighborhood, work, and the gym I could hook up with. Again he said it would be fine if I didn't do it though I'd have to wait 6 months before I got any again. Is it ok to want this so bad I still love my husband but his fantasy has become mine also if anyone has experience let me know.
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So last night I did it I called my hubby before hand made sure it was still ok and not just a fantasy. Afterwards he told me he was glad I had a good time and wanted me to record it next time. Honestly we talked and flirted and had a feeling we haven't felt in along time. I was very happy it all worked out!
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Superb Opinion

  • I know personally that there are some guys/husbands who have sexual satisfaction of their partner in mind. One of my friends had to go abroad for higher studies leaving behind his wife who couldn't accompany him due to her job. My friend had allowed his wife to have sex with other guy (s) during his long absence. And more interesting part of the story is that he once telephoned me telling what he had allowed his wife, and that he even suggested me to please her sexually in his absence. I was puzzled and could not tell his wife. After about three months, she herself told me. As a resultant, we have been having sex, and we both told her husband over telephone. He thanked me for taking care of his wife.

    • Thanks for this status.

Most Helpful Guy

  • What sounds appealing as a fantasy may turn into a nightmare if you do it. You may develop feelings for someone else or they may develop feelings for you. Or your husband may become jealous. Once it is done, you can't undo it. Frankly, I don't understand why people get married if they don't want to be monogamous. Just stay single if you want to screw around; it's much easier!

    • REPLY TO UPDATE: The fact that he says he is okay with it now is fortunate for you but this could change over time. This is an area where people do not act logically; the fact that a spouse says it is okay doesn't mean that they REALLY want you to do it.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I say do it!!! He seems to be encouraging you, but I'm skeptical about why he is. Is he getting sex on his trips?

    • I doubt it tbh but if you never know.

    • Maybe he is wanting you to give him a pass

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • How long have you been together?

    • 12 years together 8 married

    • If you can have affairs without them being a threat to your marriage, do it but know there will inevitably be some negative side effects.

    • Congratulations!!

  • Your husband is pathetic, and yes it still wrong, it's might not be cheating, but is still slutty.

  • It’s not edifying or uplifting.

  • Is it possible to chat privately about this?

    • Why? Just wondering

    • I don't always like spilling my feelings publicly. You have no need to chat privately, I was just asking due to my preferences.

    • You're a beautiful woman, if I was your husband I probably wouldn't give you a free pass, but at the same time I understand your needs.

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  • Seriously... a race fantasy...

  • There are plenty of people who already live this way and if he would regret that he can't blame you, he already agreed for it, but he could ask you to stop anytime. But I see it all worked out so that's great!

    • It did it was absolutely amazing for both of us!

  • No, your watching too much porn DUDE

  • You're both losers. Absolutely disgusting.
    No guy worth his salt wants to share his beloved.
    And fucking some guy will never be what you thought or hoped for. I guarantee it.

    • well-said

  • I've been the other man on a few different occasions. Situations where the husband is turned on by the idea of his wife fucking another man, or in a couple of cases even watching. Sometimes they'd join and we would Eiffel tower his wife. On one occasion the husband even set up a webcam to watch while he wasn't there. I think in every situation it hasn't turned out bad as long as feelings aren't developed and it is strictly carnal, you should be just fine.

  • You don't have to take it up...

  • He’s probably already cheating on you girl

    • He probably has another family somewhere else lol

    • @Lovelielemondrop it wouldn’t surprise me

  • If he is okay with it and you want to try, go for it. Just make the situation clear to the other guy so he doesn't misunderstand. If your husband changes his mind, or you don't like it then you stop.

  • That's between you and him

  • He is clearly fine with it but the neighborhood, work, gym thing is like shitting on your doorstep. Do you really wanna be the talk of the gym or work or where you live as the girl that sleeps about

    • Good point

    • I'm all for you being sexual or even hyper sexual exploring all your Kinks and having fun with lots of men but just make sure you respect yourself when you do it otherwise that's it might bite you on the ass! so love and peace to you but have fun but stay safe and always respect yourself ❤

    • Thanks! 💖

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  • When I was married I told my wife look if you decide to do with anyone else all I ask is tell me first well that was a big mistake

  • It's your and his fantasy, he is okay with it and giving you the okay to go for it, enjoy that freedom to experience, only after experiencing you can decide if you enjoy it or not, many guys have the same fantasies as your husband, and it's becoming popular between women too, go ahead, experience that and make sure to give him details, I'm sure he would want them 😉

  • That is sick and disgusting! He is NOT a real man! I will not comment about you!

  • It's a end to it if you did

  • Then enjoy your freedom sweetie ❤️

  • If it's something that you're both comfortable with then I guess it's ok. But maybe you better be careful because even though he says it's ok he might get jealous.

    • Yeah he's been suggesting it for a few years and he has never been the jealous type but I don't want that to change.

    • Would this be a one time thing or would you have sex over and over with the guy?

    • I don't know tbh

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