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How do you start conversations about sex?

How do you turn your partner kinks down when you dont want to? Would it be awkward if your partner is fine did well to pleasure you with what ever you wanted but you can't do the same for him/her. Personally I would feel very bad that I can't if him what he wants but i dont wanna force myself to do it as well.

This kind of problem is what i fine hard to start to talk about it. I dont want to turn him down, yet Im scared.

How did you start? How was your agreement and your partner reaction? Suggest?
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  • Well you need to understand that in sex just like in life people should meet halfway.
    If you're too submissive and acceptant of him he'll take as much room as you give.

    But the right thing to do is to just bring it up. Like when you're hanging out not necessarily when it's happening. You can say "how do you feel about this or that? Because personally I'm not comfortable doing it is that a deal breaker?".
    That way he'll know his options and trust me 9/10 times he'll not find it a deal breaker since guys commonly take what they can get when it comes to sex. We don't always have room to pick and chose.

    • Yeah, that will probably work in the short run but make for a crash later down the road.

    • Assuming they make it past the short run and into the long one she'll automatically be more comfortable with him and little by little find herself doing the things she was too scared to do.

    • Okay, that sounds like a viable strat!

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  • Turn them kinks down by being honest about not liking that or not wanting to do it, most people would feel uncomfortable with certain things.
    One ex-gf hated performing oral sex, but loved receiving it. We talked it about it at 4am one morning, it wasn't a big deal.

  • First, try to keep it from becoming an argument. I'd be interested in knowing what your partner wanted but I actually think I know remember and might address that ex parte. Don't make her/him feel at all bad about wanting to do something you don't want to do. Don't stigmatize it just listen. If there is anyway of reaching a satisfactory compromise. If you still are completely uninterested in trying you may as well be honest up front. If there is way to accomplish what they want ny some other way, be willing to discuss it, Go into the convo w/ no preconceptions i. e nothing is gross, nothing is barbaric rude or any other raw criticism

  • jus tell him in a way thats not like rude ,, but do it another time , not during sex , or right before,, catch him middle of day or so

  • What type of links you referring to by your boyfriend

  • I never do in haste. During discussion I usually observe what and how she likes to discuss. If it is prolonged without any meaningful talk, I gradually switch to other topics, keeping in mind what to say. For example: talking about generally dresses, slowly moving ahead to sexy dress, then nudity etc. If she listens and participates, it means she can be brought to open field. And I usually succeed in talking about sex, asking her views and many many more things.

  • Well usually with sex in general it’s about communication sometimes you just have things you would absolutely not do and you should communicate that with your partner now I know it’s kind a hard when it’s just a one night stand but sex should never be forced unless that’s your kink

  • Make a joke of it...

  • just start touching them..

  • be casual, but honest

  • I would just be as open and honest about your fears as possible. Let him know where you are at and what you’re thinking. If I were him I would appreciate the honesty. I would also have a really hard time if things are mismatched like that with sexual kinks and desires it would make things really difficult for me

  • I like to talk about sex with others, so I go straight forward about it, ask directly about kinks or fetishes and fantasies, everybody like to talk about that, but some people are a bit shy to open the subject, so I do that usually.

  • In a casual way. You can also do it while playing Truth or Dare

  • No idea, sorry

  • One of my ex's when I first met her had a problem with blowjobs.
    I would spend ages down on her pussy until she came, then she wanted fucking, so no problem.
    She would willingly start giving me handjobs, so I never felt I was missing out.
    I never raised it with her until one day she said "can I kiss your willy and see what happens please? "
    I told her that would be fine, after a few attempts she got over her fears.
    It might pay you to say nothing until you are ready to try it, if he loves he won't pressure you.
    Good luck.

  • Well my dear just aks, what doe you wanna talk about ;)

  • I don’t. I prefer to start conversations about other stuff and if they naturally gravitate towards sex then it’s icing on the cake. However, if someone say mentions a topic I’m interested in I’ll reach out without any issues.

  • If there are serious kinks, he will never lose them. Risk is high that he will eventually cheat with hookers or look for for a sexually compatible partner. Not a good match, sorry.

  • Just be open and honest.

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