What do you do if your sex drive is much higher then your partners is?

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Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

I don't know. I have thought about this before. Because I know I don't want to marry someone who doesn't like sex as much as I do. That wouldn't be a good match. I know I need someone who is more toward the "freak" end of the spectrum than the "prude" end.

But here's the part I'm not sure about. Am I just horny because I'm not having sex? So if I start having sex will I calm down a bit? I don't know. Because if that was true then it might be okay to marry someone who doesn't want to have sex every day. ... But if the theory is NOT true, then I definitely do need to marry a freak, because I will need someone who can keep up with me.

But I just don't know. I don't have the data nor the experience to be able to make these determinations.

PrudentGuy · Accepted Answer

Initially that was my case, where I wanted sex 3 to 5 times a day, but she 2 to 4 times a week.

Then I read up and discover both genders have similar sex drives. They only need to be "activated".

Hence I tried very hard, literally for a few years, to "trial and error" until i know how to make her orgasm ever time we make love.

After that, she started to enjoy sex, a lot, and become a (LOL) nymphomaniac.

Ya, lots of efforts, but no regrets making her one 😁

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

That is the case for me in my realtionship. I usually just masturbate a lot or force my husband into having sex when he's sleeping. Like not rape or anything but just catching him at a time when he can't say no

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

Find a different partner or masturbate a lot, depending on how much you love them

AustinMan · Answer

Find a lover or a new partner or both.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

"Take matters into your own hands?"

nolabels · Answer

Masturbate.

guynextodoor · Answer

well surely my drive is higher than my hand but since he is in my command i simply... ya know...

Jjpayne · Answer

Dam... If that's a girl... 😅 I married the right one 😂 but you comprise with each other. If one is not in the mood, you make the agreement that the one partner will help the other. Given if one wants to have some private time after work it should be fair to allow them to have private time but make the deal that if one is not in the mood and the other is, you help each other out

SphynxUK · Answer

Libidos change throughout a relationship, so it won’t always be this way all of the time.

jshm2 · Answer

Get your partner supplements and/or into the gym and training to build up their stamina or libido.

I've found that most people who talk "high sex drive" rarely are. They just have a shitty relationship with their partner, hence the partner doesn't want to share the bed with them, or give satisfaction.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

tell her to invite a single friend over?

Avicenna · Answer

I've had this problem. It depends how big the differential is. If it's not that big, you can masturbate to fill the gap. If it's huge, you will end up cheating or breaking up.

Agape93 · Answer

Find a way to satisfy it

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I just handle things cool.. my sex drive really isn't too much higher LOL

AndrewMG · Answer

I live in Yorkshire, google Yorkshire lasses and you'll realise why I've not experienced this problem before! Just joking, Yorkshire girls are awesome! lol

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Their sex drives usually are lower than mine. I usually just figure out their rhythm and live with it.

magiusX26 · Answer

give myself handjobs (jack off)

Makeushiver · Answer

If it can't be solved between partners than the only alternative I see is seeking it elsewhere.

Desconhecida · Answer

After a honest discussion about my unhappiness about our sex life, I'd come up with a solution with my partner.

Grond21 · Answer

I think this is probably always true, at least to an extent. People rarely ever have the exact same kind of sex drive, and even then different things happen in life which can change it. Injuries, illness, pregnancies, traveling, and a whole host of things can get in the way of having sex with each other. So you have to learn to compromise, to sacrifice for the other person. You work together on it, and if you're both all in, you can find a solution

DIRKINOFF · Answer

Masturbate veraciously. That's what I do. I masturbate at least once every day, more some days or talk about being in a poly relationship with your partner, but that can be a difficult pill to swallow.