Do older men still develop crushes and fantasize?

[Anonymous]

I have a crush on the handyman for my apartment. He’s fixed some things in my unit in the past and is kind, professional and so attractive to me even though he’s not your typical hot guy.

I see him on site from time to time, and even if he’s doing work, we always stop to say hello and have brief small talk. Sometimes, I’ll flirt a bit and he conservatively flirts back. I get the vibe that he seems to enjoy the attention and I think it might be because he’s older, kinda balding, not necessarily hot, and has a bit of a dad bod.

I fantasize about him all the time. Kissing him, dating him, holding him, and... you know. Multiple times a day I think of him. This might be a silly question, but given his age and experience, is he even fantasizing about me the same way? He’s 45 and has adult children... I wonder if men that age are over that phase of crushing on girls and don’t really care.

I haven’t asked but maybe he’s married given his age, but even if he’s a loyal husband, do they still fantasize about other women the frequency I fantasize about him? I guess I just wish I knew if I’m alone in my secret fantasizing because part of me wishes I knew what’s on his mind or if he even thinks about me.

[On_the_other_hand]

I've dated several girls half my age. The first one that liked me I didn't know because I never would have imagined she would be into me. I ALWAYS kept my mind from going there so as to not creep anyone out. Now I know there are girls like you so I know consider a relationship is possible. He is likely not allowing himself to think you are interested, plus it would ruin his work. You have to be EXTRA clear VERBALLY that you are interested. This one girl was all over me and I still didn't believe it. So b VERY clear you like him or he will NEVER make a move, so as to not risk upsetting you.

[JackSmy]

Would you feel good, if you knew he got off, privately, in the bathroom, imagining you, and maybe playing out some 'fantasy', even if he is married, committed, and has kids, and nothing will ever happen?
Do you masturbate, thinking about him, maybe imagining how he might love you? Maybe thinking about how to 'break something' so you have to have him come back to fix it?
What do you wear, when he is there? Maybe a fantasy, role-playing thing for your next boyfriend? Could be fun!! Make him lean over, like fixing the sink, and showing some butt crack, and you in tight shorts, just teasing?
Fantasy can be amazing, and that's why some invented porn! It's kind of like candy, when you are alone, and maybe inspiration, when you meet someone, and want to play, and 'spice it up'!!

[nothingtosee]

Oh hell yeah! I am willing to bet a years paycheck he fantasizes about you!

The big question is, would you want him as a friends with benefits? If you do, it wouldn't take much to find out. Here is what I would suggest: Next time you see him, hand him a note. The note should read: "Hi (insert his name here), I have a question for you and I don't know how to ask it. I want to have sex with you. Either as a one time thing or casually whenever I want. Meaning, as a friends with benefits. If you would like to be my friends with benefits, Look, I don't want this to be complicated. If you want to be my friends with benefits this friendship would be based simply and only on sex. Nothing else. Also, if you want to be my friends with benefits, there would have to be some rules. 1. You are not allowed to stop by anytime you wanted. 2. If I want you, I will submit a work ticket to have something repaired. That would be our code word for, "I want you sexually". 3. You are not allowed to call me. I don't want my telephone number showing up on your phone. This HAS to be discrete. If you're interested, leave me a note on my windshield with the word, "Yes" on it. When I do submit a work order, I don't want to engage in any small talk, I just want to fuck.

I hope this helps. Good luck. I would love to know what happens. Send me an email at yahoo.

[AustinMan]

Yes, older men crush and fantasize. Go get 'I'm!

[Asker]

Haha! How often would you say they think about the woman they’re attracted to? Is it possible he thinks about me multiple times a day like I do?

[AustinMan]

More like probable than possible.

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[AustinMan]

My pleasure. If you have more questions, just DM me.

[WindAtMyBack]

I always thought it was something for young people. Until I had it happen when I was 50. It hit me hard and sudden. I totally wasn't expecting it. When it happened, I thought "Wow, I didn't think that would ever happen again".

[Asker]

That's wonderful! haha

[socksguy]

We get crushes and fantasize just like anyone else. We're older, we're not dead :)

[Asker]

Haha!

[Asker]

Haha! How often would you say they think about the woman they’re attracted to? Is it possible he thinks about me multiple times a day like I do?

[socksguy]

If he has a crush on you, I guarantee it!

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[theharshtruth]

older guys love young girls, let him know you like him

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[theharshtruth]

...😊

[slatyb]

Absolutely, until we are dead. If you want to realize this fantasy, make an invitation.

[humanearth]

Nothing wrong with it. I still fantasize about girls and I'm been married for many years.

It happens when your single, married, dating, young, old. It happens all though life.

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[humanearth]

Your welcome

[Browneye57]

Sure. You're not much for seduction, are you?

[Asker]

How often would you say they think about the woman they’re attracted to? Is it possible he thinks about me multiple times a day like I do?

[Browneye57]

Yes, of course. But guys connect physically, so if you're not having sex with him, he is not bound to you, and subject to take up with someone else. Girls connect emotionally. This isn't to say guys don't have emotion, but the human sexual response and romantic dance, is completely different between the two genders. If you want him, make sure he knows that. If you feign disinterest, he'll surely believe you.

[Asker]

Thank you for your responses!!

[finallylettinggo]

Yes, and think about them often.

[OutdoorsForLife]

I’ll let you know in 20 years.

[FatherJack]

From my own POV , not really anymore , in fact not at all , single FT working dad , and thankfully , my Male Curse has faded greatly , so in my own case , over that phase. Given my situation , falling for any woman would be a nightmare.

[Iron_Man]

i’m a handyman to and we crush on girls a lot

[Wise4myage]

Jeez, just seduce him already, lol. And yes, men fantasize for their entire lives, just like women.

[bannacookies]

Oh yeah. For sure.

[Cellestial]

A man is a man, if he's attracted to you he'll rub one thinking about your ass

[Asker]

Haha. How often would you say they think about the woman they’re attracted to? Is it possible he thinks about me multiple times a day like I do?

[Cellestial]

It depends on his sex drive, if he has a high sex drive and he's attracted to you then he'll do it often (assuming you mean thinking about her in a naughty way)

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Tztop2006]

Guys never stop fantasizing old men are done of the biggest pervs, from the interaction with u I bet he has Came thinking about u

[Asker]

How often would you say they think about the woman they’re attracted to? Is it possible he thinks about me multiple times a day like I do?

[Tztop2006]

Most likely if he is married he probably wait till she’s not around

[AlwaysBelieving]

Yes older men still get crushes.

[Daniel3035]

Yup of course they do.

[YourSong]

Yeah

[TonyBelanger]

Hello. I think everyone still fantasizes, even masturbates. I am 49 years old, and my imagination is very fertile, fantasies and more fantasies spring up in my mind. I masturbate 2, 3 to 4 times a day fantasizing about sexual intercourse. I believe that this man does the same thinking about you. don't waste time, make your fantasies come true, be happy... and let us know your experience, ok?

[Asker]

Thank you!!