Is it possible to be in love with a partner/ former lover and to not be intimate with them?

[Anonymous]

I know of a guy whom still sees his ex girlfriend and also has a current girlfriend... he tells his ex that he still loves her and they kiss and cuddle , do oral and sleep together all the time but they are never intimate (have sexual intercourse), although they have in the past and they still seem to love each other to this day...

is it possible to still be in love with a previous lover/ partner and not be intimate with them?

[Berethor]

Funny question, so his ex girlfriend don't mind that he in a relationship with other girl? and she kiss, cuddle, do oral and sleep together with him all the time despite the fact that he have a relationship with other girl? yes polyamory exist, and if he claim that he don't love his girlfriend then why he stay with her? because she rich or because they have children? Under normal circumstances a guy is highly unlikely to agree to a relationship without intercourse, especially with a girl that had intercourse with him in the past, but his current/main girlfriend is likely supplying him with intercourse and that why he agreed to the exclusion of intercourse from his relationship with his ex/side girlfriend.

The fact that the guy don't have sex with his ex/lover is a sigh that he is most likely not in a sexless relationship with his current girlfriend. So his "ex" girlfriend is a type of girl who prefer foreplay over intercourse and that's why she don't have intercourse with him? or she has a technical virgin line of thought and she believe that as long as she don't have intercourse with the guy then it's okay for her to do all the 'minor stuff' with a guy that has a girlfriend? or she want to have she actually want to have intercourse with him, and it's the guy who refuse to have intercourse, the option that is looks most unlikely.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/TechnicalVirgin

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AManIsAlwaysEager

[Asker]

The current one has a car and his ex doesn’t...

[Asker]

He tells her that the new one is abusive and he’s only keeping her for her vehicle

[Berethor]

And she believe him? also didn't it basically makes him a male gold digger? :)

tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/GoldDigger

[socksguy]

Oral, kissing, cuddling, sleeping together... all of that is intimate. If sex is your only litmus test, you're truly in denial.

[Asker]

So he’s still in love with his former partner then?

[socksguy]

I'd say so... and she probably feels the same way.

[Asker]

Why does he speak negatively of the newer woman?

[socksguy]

Just guessing, but probably because she doesn't give him what his "so called" ex does.

[Asker]

He always describes the newer woman as abusive and saying that she only has her body and looks going for her...

[socksguy]

Probably to be able to "justify" getting some from his ex.

[Asker]

And he criticizes his ex to the current one... is it cuz he still loves his ex?

[socksguy]

Sounds like he doesn’t know what he wants and will say anything to anyone to get what he wants. It’s a toxic personality. And dangerous. Use caution.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Yeah.

[Anonymous]

Love isn't wholly dependent upon sexual intercourse.

[Asker]

So it’s possible to find someone attractive but not wanna have sex? Is love more dependant on personality?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know. Everyone I find attractive I want to have sex with. However, I am also willing to wait until marriage before having sex. As I only want to have sex with someone I truly love and who truly loves me too.