So as far as commentary i can make well its minimal at best simply; because i am not a woman. However one issue i have been made very Aware of is insecurity’s. Men and women get insecure sometimes and thats natural l. Whats not okay is letting those insecurities effect the relationship particularly in bed. Sure if she decides to help out its; because she wants more or to get it in a very specific way, but we all have our preference in bed that shouldn’t effect anyone in the negative.
Sadly in some cases it dose or the lack there of dose.
The factors being she wants more, but she’s insecure about making him insecure leading to lacking in sex, and increased frustration which hurts the relationship.
If she dose and he actually possibly is insecure and leads again to laking in sex, increased frustration which hurts the relationship.
Which brings us to the real issues which are insecurity, lack of knowledge/experience, lack of self confidence in both partners, and ultimately a lack of trust; because of a lack of communication on both sides. Communication is the true at heart issue that creates all the other problems.
You vocalize what you want you don’t get what you want, you don’t be respect full of your partners needs you don’t get what you want, you stop trying you lose everything you wanted.
Sex is an event that leaves us as humans in our most vulnerable state in front of the one we care for the most at the time in which it’s being had. To respect that vulnerability is to respect one another, and respecting one another is to understand each other, and to seek understanding in the most vulnerable of times.
So to summarize Women and men alike should always be upfront and honest with what they want and how they want it, and respect each other’s needs. Sometimes that means teaching, and sometimes times that means being willing to listen/learn. As long as that mutual respect is held on high then there should never be an issue even if she does choose to touch herself a bit during.
Control the insecurities, respect each other, respect one’s choice to do whatever they choose to do with their own body, learn from one another so as to make all experiences better. Thats the reality to true sexual satisfaction whether it be in a relationship or even just a good time.
Well that’s my opinion on the matter hopefully I have entered the question to the fullest of my abilities.
Thanks again for another great question.
I think that's very much related to the confidence of the person that is giving you oral. Depending on how insecure that person might is, he/she can get irritated about it and might start thinking of not doing a good job. Communication should always be the go to solution for situations like that. This way you won't make each other feel bad about what the other one is doing. I also think communication in general but especially if it's about sex is happening way to less, as like both persons should be interested in working together and pleasing the other one the most possible way. Talking about it is critical!
Me personally, as i'm not getting irritated that fast and also have a lot of confidence in my abilities, really like it if a women is starting to please herself as it (in my opinion) also shows her being confident, feeling well and comfortable with me.
Like masturbating for each other in my opinion also can be way more intimate than sex sometimes and it requires a certain state of trust for each other.
So yes for me it's definitely a positive thing!
Even tho' it just came in my mind that my comment is more related to pleasing yourself while having sex and not while getting oral. As i don't even know how it should be working to please yourself while getting oral (depending to your preferences) as he probably should be caring about your clit anyways while giving you oral. At least it's what i prefer to do while giving oral.
So yeah if you have to do it because he isn't doing a good job then again --> communication
Give him advice and the chance to please you how you want to be pleased as he might not be sure about it (especially if a lack of confidence on his side is related to this) because every women likes it different.
It's also in your responsibility to teach him about your body ;)
So yeah it's something totally different if your partner seems to be annoyed about what you're doing, so she has to do it herself. But if so then where is the sense in general, as there is a lack of attraction to each other or at least a lack of communication.
Thanks for the detailed feedback! And for explaining your answer!!! VERY fun and interesting read! Good evening! ✨
No. Is it offensive to add mayonnaise to your fries? Would the chef go? THEY RE ALREADY AMAZING HOW COULD YOU. No it just makes the already great fries even better
If you can feel better than amazing, why not do it then if it works for you, has nothing to do with the guy's performance (And if it is... well shit, step up your game, sir)
I love your fry analogy xD Though... There are actually chefs that will get mad if you add anything to a prepared dish. Though I think that just makes the analogy even better cuz there normally fancy perfectionists and there are guys that would c that as an insult... But there generally stupid... (In my opinion)
@jadspop Yeah I see it as, Sir you're doing a good job, you've got her all wild whatever. If that's something that she needs, like that's her thing :p
my chef does his job so well that i dont need to touch anything but he loves it while he is eating me like a monster and i touch it for a little bit he loves it and he even tells me to taste my self because am so god damn delicious but i dont agree hehe so he never gets offended
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!in my opinion, we're working together with the goal of getting you off, so why would it be a problem if you're helping things along? Of course, this also assumes that you're ALSO helping direct the guy to what you really like, so that he isn't doing the wrong things while you suffer needlessly. Treat it like a TEAM, sharing the same goal, and each doing what they do best in order to bring home the BIG WIN!
Loveeeeeeee your answer! Thanks for sharing
Interesting situation... Personally?
It's happened a few times to me... And while I never found it insulting I was worried it ment I want doing enough on my own. Though in the grand scheme I just wanted her to feel good, and if that helped I was happy for her. I just worried I wasn't good enough. But the feeling never lasted long and it's not like it ever cost me a relationship or was a topic of debate...
So personally I'd say it's not generally a big of enough issue to matter either way. Do what you feel is best. But sometimes I did think it ment it wasn't good enough
I just realized how many times I said "I wasn't good enough"... I sound like a broken record... Can you tell what my insecurities are?
Thank you sooooooo MUCH for explaining your answer for me!!! I enjoyed reading and you definitely don't sound like a broken record!!! It was super helpful
And if you want to express yourself I love listening!!!
Not at all. If doing it makes you cum faster then do it. It's suppose to be pleasurable and fun
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It's a compliment to the chef kinda situation for me.
She's enjoying it, but working with me together on that and having fun.
Nothing bad about that. If my girlfriend is touching her clit, then it means I'm hitting the right spots.
I'd prefer that my girl give me explicit instructions while I'm in her zone.
Could love to let her go at self-pleasure a moment while taking care of all the "around", and kissing her hands in the process <3
Why would it be. I've never even actively payed attention to see if past partners even did that. Im more focused on tossing the sald. Plus, sex is a minimum 2 player sport, so shouldn't a little team work be celebrated?
Lol! I like the way you think
In every sense everyone has a different stimulation level. The more experienced and knowledgeable you are in intimacy the better you will understand the need for stimulation on every level. Some need more some need less and some are just there. Offensive should never be suggested because then you and your partner are not on the same page. Enjoy enlight envision.
Thanks for explaining your answer for me! I appreciate it!
some guys don't like this, i will try to help if i can
Thanks for the feedback!
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I would have to say for me, it's perfectly fine.
I know if my partner wasn't handling my love muscle to my enjoyment. I definitely will take over with no offense intended. Just is what it is. Only the person who's body it is knows exactly where and when to touch themselves to their most pleasure.
I never had this happen to me. I always focus mostly on the clit. If something like that happened to me, I wouldn't take offense, but I will take note of that to where I have to direct my attention to.
I reallyyyyy enjoyed reading your post
Why shouldn't you thought that was the norm after all a guy walks into a partners mouth
Nothing is off limits in bed.
I like the way you think! Good morning 🌞🔆🌻
I'm not sure.. I've yet to be in that situation... I think I would have to experience it myself first to know 🤔
Definitely not.
I hope not because I'm one of the unfortunate girls who can only cum if it's stimulated 💀
Totally understandable
Not offensive at all! It means she is enjoying what I'm doing and that it will increase her pleasure.
Awesome feedback! Thanks sooooooo MUCH
Personally I would take it to me in that I'm not doing good enough because I know how to use my tongue well enough that I can get that clit...
Thank you for explaining your answer
Not a problem, I feel people don't always understand the meaning behind my short answers. Like a simple "Yes, I do" could make one think I'm just easily offended
Sooooooo freaking true 😞
We are on the same team. The goal is her orgasm. If she wants to help, that's good.
Love this answer!
Wouldn’t that be where my mouth was, at least 2/3 of the time?
are the rest of you just sticking your tongue out and bobbing your head back and forth or something? 😂
I think... most of us (men and women) find it hotter to be stimulated? I’m not bothered by a girl rubbing her own clit during sex acts but that’s something that’s more likely useful in actual sex positions where I can’t reach her or where I’ve got both hands on her somewhere else. For oral... I’m gonna have the clit stim covered don’t worry lol.
Thanks for explaining your answer!!! I enjoyed reading
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