MMF complicated situation with my wife. I left her over it, should I go back?

3 weeks ago, my buddy from the army came to stay with me and my wife for 10 days. On the 3rd night, after some drinking, we found ourselves in a threesome. I felt a bit sick over it all the next day, but I made light of the situation. I had no right to complain as I didn't stop it at the time.

Well, I don't know how, but the 2 of them got it into their heads that I was cool with them 2 fucking each other while I was at work. I didn't even realise they were doing that until several days later after I tried it on with my wife, and she told me she was still sore from all the action my mate was giving her!

That crushed me. I laid awake all night, and in the morning I packed a bag and left. Checked in to a cheap hotel and been there since. My wife tried to reach me, I wouldn't answer. My buddy eventually tracked me down, following me from work. We talked, I actually hit him. Twice. We then worked it out, he seemed so very genuine that he thought I was cool with it. He then left for his barracks.

My wife tried so much to talk to me, I couldn't face her. I felt so betrayed. Then the calls and door pounding started to ease, then stop.

2 days ago, her best friend came to see me. I felt more at ease talking to her so I let her in. We talked for hours, and drank wine. Then out of the blue, she hit on me. Rubbing me to hardness, and we slept together. First time was quick, as I had no clue I had a lot of pent up pressure. It was hard and fast, and my head was in a blur. After that though, I went to town. Gave her a fuck to remember.

Turns out my wife had sent her best friend there to seduce me. The next day my wife went on the crusade of trying to talk to me. And would you believe, the guilt I felt cause me to relent.

We talked and talked. She begged, pleaded. Told me how awful she felt. How she endured the pain of knowing I was sleeping with her best friend, just so she could know what I must have been feeling. And to prove how sorry she was.

Should I take her back?
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Alright, so I am being slammed. Absolutely fair enough. The threesome was a mistake. I let the alcohol and arousal override my logic. In the cold light of day, only negative emotions remain that include jealousy, betrayal and shame. I felt responsible, and my intention of not blaming my wife or friend backfired. Then I compounded the whole thing by sleeping with my wife's friend. One stupid mistake caused a cascade effect of destruction...
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  • There is SO much wrong with this situation:

    1. This is not a threesome (unless you have conveniently omitted some important details.) Everybody got drunk and your friend fucked your wife while you sat by and said nothing. Apparently you just watched and jerked off.

    2. If somebody thinks you are okay with them fucking your wife, they should be very clear on that and not merely make an assumption.

    3. If your wife thinks she has your blessing to fuck somebody else, she should make sure of that and not merely make an assumption.

    4. Why in the fuck did you sit by and say nothing while your friend fucks your wife? This is lame pussy behavior!

    5. Being drunk does not excuse you, her, or him for anything that happened. Drunk is NOT an excuse!

    6. Why ITF did you not have a discussion about this the next day? More lame pussy behavior!

    7. Your wife said "sorry I can't fuck you because your friend has me all fucked out" and that's when you learned that they were fucking while you were at work. Didn't you get the idea that you were not her highest priority as long as Mr. Army Dick was available?

    8. Now she doesn't want to lose her marriage because Mr. Army Dick has gone back to his base. If he was still here, would she be as concerned?

    9. To "make up" for what she did to you, she sent her BFF around to seduce you and bring you down to her level. . . and it worked. You are still married and one partner cheating doesn't mean it's okay for the other partner to cheat. At least she had some reason to think that she had your consent; you had no reason to think that you had her consent.

    10. Feeling awful after it has happened doesn't make it one damned bit better. She didn't feel awful enough to prevent it from happening and that is all that matters. And you didn't mention whether you felt awful about fucking her friend. . . twice.

    11. Now you are supposed to try to put a marriage back together when you won't be able to trust her and she won't be able to trust you.

    Have I overlooked anything?

  • Since you had a threesome first, it’s a gray area. But your wife should have asked. Are you sure you want an open marriage? It sounds like she does...

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  • You both commuted aduktary, therefore these is no marriage. This is wrong, you two broke your vows, polluted the marriage and is beyond repair by yourselves. You two would need much needed counseling, those people you two was having sex with needs to be removed from your lives immediately, and renewal of your cows is what is going to need to happen. Repenting of your sins and asking God for forgiveness and being delivered from that is also going to have to be done. Otherwise, this marriage is not even a marriage and divorce had already happened. You decide what your going to do. The moment you saw her do this, you should have left the house, not stay and engage, left and end it right there. That is unacceptable.

    • Committed adultery* What is the point of you two getting married if all you're going to do is disrespect it? You two need to ask yourself that question because you do not act like a married couple you to act like people who are just in a contract and don't respect each other and have filled your bedroom with whoredoms. Both of you are at fault. And both of you should feel disgusted.

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  • I feel like you should go back, find a good couple's therapist to work on things and most importantly, stay out of threesomes.

  • You have two logical options either an open relationship or

    https://youtu.be/912DKxD0H1U
  • Done it with wife and a girlfriend of hers was really great fun. The first time it wasn't as it should be I ended up watching them but the second time it was more fun I had a chance to play with her friend...

    • Watching my wife get penetrated brought up a mixture of emotions, that include arousal, jealousy and shame. The next day with the arousal removed, only negative emotions remain. Seems I am built for monogamy.

    • I find 2girls playing I find very sexy. She was enjoying herself. That's all I wanted...

  • You should, because she is obviously remorseful

  • You both cheated once because of drinking so if you don't stop drinking around other people no you shouldn't get back together